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[kobebryant8]

ok im 17 going to be a senior in the fall. my problem is with my parents. i'm taiwanese-american, and my parents are bitches. i don't even have a drivers permit yet and im 17. and they won't let me have my own computer. they always fuccn control my life and shit. like if im using the family computer in the office my mom always bitches to me about the time or she'll sit there and do her paperwork right next to me so she can watch what im doing. it pisses me off how all my friends have their own computers in their rooms and their parents dont care how long they've been on. it's not like my grades are bad. my sat score of 2230 and my near straight A report card won't convince them to loosen up on me. they piss me off. my mom is so annoying. she never shuts her mouth. i swear u people do not know my mom. she's freakin annoying even my dad thinks so. she controls me and my sister's lives. like she won't let me have fun on the computer during the school year. i always have to say that i'm doing hw on the computer even though im not. summer, i just got back from this 3 week camp and met a ton of friends. and my mom says "what is the point of talking to those people? what is the point of AIM?" blah blah blah. she obviously is a bich. she doesn't understand anything i do. my dad pisses me off cuz he's a computer engineer, and he still won't let me have my own computer. he always checks the computer records, like what time i turn it on and what websites i visit and my AIM conversations too i bet. i bet he's going to find this thing im writing right now, but i dont care. my parents are really nice in terms of providing sh_t for me. like i have really nice clothes and they spend a lot of money on me. but the way they treat me just pisses me off. controlling my life and shit. im 17 years old and my mom still tells me what to do every second of my life. like right now im in the library cuz she's forcing me to do community service right now but im not doing it. im just chillin on the computer. someone help me. what should i say that could convince them to buy me my own computer in my room and to stop controlling my life? to loosen up a little. i have tried everything. i have even used violence. i know violence to ur parents is bad, but they always fuccn piss me off i cant help it. i'm not going to elaborate, but just know i have asked them nicely and meanly. they understand my concerns, but they refuse to treat me like a decent human being.

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well i got my permit today lol. and all you people have helped me reconsider my situation. it's not as bad as it is actually. i apologized for the most recent violent action. even though they still piss me off i appreciate the fact that they are even raising me. and the person who suggested the online diary, rofl.

[*corizzle20*]

someone answer?

[ReggieM]

theres really nothing you could do about it, i felt the same way but my parents arent azn but there imigrants from another country and parents like those over protect because of the dangers that they see on the news and crap like that.


Listen the only thing you can do is move out next year, and that would be realllllly hard. But hey people have it worse than you. So as horrible as you are now think of the things you do have cuz i know lots of people in your same situtution (there mostly azn) that just have to wait for there big break. They are your parents and you have food to eat and clothes and housing fun was never apart of the deal.

Im starting college this year and i acutally can go out now. theyve losened up more and more but its still there, and therres no way im gunna move out and im still 17 and in college. I wouldnt be able to make enough money to live on my own. SO JUST DEAL WITH IT. =)

[jackie13xo]

Oh my god you poor girl.
Your not a child anymore if they cant accept that , Honey Emancipate yourself because thats a disgusting UNHEALTHY situation .
they arnt allowing you to grow as a teen, and thats horribly sad.

[dustbunny]

i say: wait till you're 18..


okay well, your parents do things obviously because they love you and care about you. yes they are overly strict, and yes they are overprotective. yet if you look at it from their perspective, most of the things they do are just trying to protect you, keep you away from danger, etc. sure their methods aren't right, but since you're a senior, i would think that you are old enough and mature enough to see that 1. THEY CARE ABOUT YOU 2. its only for one more year.

i do not approve of the way they handle things, but at least your parents actually care about you.

[dahding]

okay, let's see...

ur parents spend a lot of money on you, as is. and you're still really pissed off. as opposed to other people who really don't have anything.

you're a 17 year old bitching about "my parents are controlling my life, boo hoo hoo, i'm so angry, angst angst angst roar."

yes, your life is limited, but too bad for you, because you're not out of the house yet.

you think that you deserve some freedom, but you manage to resort to violence towards your parents. yeah. real mature. grow the hell up. it's like watching a little kid throw a tantrum when he/she doesn't get what they want. i'm sure you deserve everything. not.

you argue like a four year old. "my friends have all this. why can't i have the same. wahh." because you're not them dumbass. your parents aren't their parents. your parents aren't their parents. just because other people have certain things or rights doesn't grant you shit.

they check your online history to see if ur doing something retarded. they "force" you to do community service because it benefits yourself as a person as well as the society, along with the fact that it makes yourself look good when applying to colleges and other such things. it's not torture, you wouldn't have to worry about it if you weren't doing anything bad, and the community service thing will benefit you, not hurt you. shut up already.

they're taiwanese born parents. i have the same exact parents, and the same exact situation more or less. i deal with it just fine, and i learned to compromise with my parents, in a peaceful and completely sane way. i don't resort to violence, i don't bitch and moan, so holy crap, stfu.

deal with it, grow some balls, and wait another year until college.

[NgocQuyen]

ehh. my parents are really overprotective of me as well, but i atleast have my own computer and my own life. lol. i don't really know what you can do. i now live with my brothers and i don't really like how they're always overprotective of me so much either, but i've decided that i'm going to wait until i turn 18 and then just leave and do whatever the eff i want to do. i still have a LONG ways to go, but i'm just going to have to deal with it until then. :D soooo how long until the big 1 - 8 ?

[misoshiru]

oh what a sob story. get over it.

immigrant parents are always overprotective. why? because they want their kids to do well. why did they move to the U.S. in the first place? because the U.S. is still known as the "land of opportunity."

i didn't get my own computer until i went to college this year. and before that, i did my homework on the computer in my parent's room. i think that you need to see it in their perspective. i had a hard time watching all my friends go out every weekend while i had to report to my parents where i'd be at what time. i grew up in asia with very traditional family values. hell, my parents still tell me that i'm not allowed to date until after i graduate from college.

i think that what you need to do is try to see things from their perspective. try and understand where they're coming from. because from what i've read, it's all about you, you, you. maybe your parents and you can come to some sort of understanding. but also, maybe it's because you bitch a bit too much.

[EmoEyelinerx]

First of all, everythings not about you. I know where your coming from though, my parents are like that but a little less strict. They get you nice things, and your complaining about how they dont give you enough freedom. Listen, you should be greatful you have a family. Alot of people dont even have that, let alone nice clothes etc. They care about you and want you do do well in your life, their protecting you, even though I dont agree with some of the ways their doing it.

If you dont like it why dont you move out when your 18? If you dont, it must mean you really dont care to much or you dont feel like supporting yourself. In that case, your choosing that you want to live by their values.

When you whine, cry, bitch and use violence against you parents do you actually think thats going to help you get more freedom? Your acting like a kid and their going to shorten, even moreso your freedom. Maybe if you didnt complain so much and actually tryed to understand why your parents are doing thease things, you might not be so angry with them.

[1angel3]

I feel sorry, your parent should lossen up.

[queen]

deal with it. if you really want to leave, wait till you're legal, get a job, and support yourself. i know it's hard with overcontrolling parents, but would you still be the same person now if they weren't? could you honestly say you'd be a straight a student and have that SAT score if they were more lenient? parents want to do what's best for their kids, even though you may not always agree with it. just hold on for another year, and you'd be able to do what you want.

[kobebryant8]

ok people. i don't want to move out. i never said i did. how the f**k u think im going to support myself? i don't know how to support my self in the real world cuz my parents never let me have any freedom, so i won't know what it's like to live alone in the real world. everyone understand that? now, i have the most controlling parents out of everyone, even families whose parents have been through more shit than mine at least treat their kids decently. i told my mom, if ur going to treat me like shit, then i'll treat u guys like shit too. that's where the violence comes in. even though i apologized to my dad, they still are controlling my life everyday. i have to go to bullshit tutors and they're forcing me to go to this gay camp next week that i dont want to go to. see what i mean? i get no choice in any matters. even though half of u guys are on my parents' side, i still thank u all for stating ur opinions. my parents won't even let me play tennis with my friends or go to magic mountain with them alone. how old am i again? 17? and what am i being treated like? 8?

[misoshiru]

whatever. you wanted opinions? you got some, and you're totally disregarding them. stop being so narrowminded.

[salcha4u]

Haha dang people chill out on the kid. I know what it's like to be raised by two Taiwanese parents too. My parents have dc my internet, spied on my AIM convos, punished me cause of cause of what I have been talking about with my friends on AIM, taken away all my extracurriculars (lol tennis too!), whatever. But hey, don't bash on him cause he's complaining about his life...I'd be mad too you know. He came here for help and advice, not to hear that he should just "deal with it". So word of advice, why don't you just compromise with your parents? Like, "I won't argue for a week and fight back in return of X hours to go on the computer privately"? Lol you're supposed to be obeying your parents anyway, but hey, it's a step towards releasing the tension and it worked for me too. It gets crazy around my house too :P

[transcendentalis...]

oh boy, do you even know how many other kids have the exact same situation as you?

i got the same deal; i'm just sneakier than you, buddy.

just because they don't understand does not mean they are bitches. it just means that they don't understand, and they will possibly never understand. they were raised in a completely different environment; how can you even expect them to understand?

also, usually it's a bad idea to be violent to people that are providing for you.

even families whose parents have been through more shit than mine at least treat their kids decently.

until you can prove it, don't say it.

[ipetpandas]

well, all I can really say is they're still gonna be your parents no matter what, and respect them, even if you don't get whatever the hell you want. they're your parents. learn to deal with them.

it's called tough love.

[dustbunny]

on second thought, if you're still using the word GAY as if it meant stupid..im ALL FOR the way your parents are raising you..

[ReggieM]

theres nothing really to do sorry =)
my parents are like that a little less tho i complain but it only makes it worse dont complain there not going to listen and just lose yourself more freedom.Heck i say what your parents are doing is good for you but you think its not,thhink about it it may be fun to possible be in a situation to get in trouble outside of the house but what there doing is trying to make you not get into any not drink not smoke not get killed and whatnot.

[FateStayNight]

make a folder in you computer[your private folder with you name on it],in that folder add some cool pics[nothing that they woulnd accept] make it yours basicly [but dont add too much just too make what i am telling you to do believeble], the point of the folder[that i know as you have ledd me to believe that they will check]is to make your online diary in which you will write things wich will make them worry such as "i feel more depresse each day, i just dont think they trust me"[not as cheesy as that] or "i dont think they really understand how i feel without a computer"[the better you write it,the more it will work just plant a seed in their mind that will make them worry about your mental health or feelings and what it could lead to [such as you going out more,(depends on what you write)could be drugs...],[just remember after making the folder wait a month or so untill you make the diary,write in it every two or three days or even each day however you feel like doing it, dont be direct in you writing just let them figure it out, and wait till another one or two months after writing things that will make tham worry, and remember to put the diary somewhere,where they will think you where trying to hide it but they will still find it(act as if you dont know they read it)and remember this all depends on what you write]also while time passes on the making the folder and then the diary, make them loosen up a little on smaller things.....like if they dont let you use perfume convince them [work your way up]

tips

-dont make it childish
-be smart about what you write
-dont let them know you know they read it
-have a decent amount of time between what you do
-dont put the diary in just one microsoft word page
make different ones with the dates so they can keep up
with what you write
-you know them more than i do so used that to ur advantage
-remember they are people [very imperfect and weak beings]

all of this or just talk to them and even start crying [do everything you have to, to get your computer]

D.soulless@hotmail.com

[LadyXTor]

A lot of teens feel the same way you do, thinking their parents are unfair and all.

When you get into a good college from your near straight A's and a high SAT score that your parents pushed you to get, you'll have more freedom there without them being over your shoulder all the time.

But really, I think you should be thankful for what you have.

[$$$ soul]

make a folder in you computer[your private folder with you name on it],in that folder add some cool pics[nothing that they woulnd accept] make it yours basicly [but dont add too much just too make what i am telling you to do believeble], the point of the folder[that i know as you have ledd me to believe that they will check]is to make your online diary in which you will write things wich will make them worry such as "i feel more depresse each day, i just dont think they trust me"[not as cheesy as that] or "i dont think they really understand how i feel without a computer"[the better you write it,the more it will work just plant a seed in their mind that will make them worry about your mental health or feelings and what it could lead to [such as you going out more,(depends on what you write)could be drugs...],[just remember after making the folder wait a month or so untill you make the diary,write in it every two or three days or even each day however you feel like doing it, dont be direct in you writing just let them figure it out, and wait till another one or two months after writing things that will make tham worry, and remember to put the diary somewhere,where they will think you where trying to hide it but they will still find it(act as if you dont know they read it)and remember this all depends on what you write]also while time passes on the making the folder and then the diary, make them loosen up a little on smaller things.....like if they dont let you use perfume convince them [work your way up]

tips

-dont make it childish
-be smart about what you write
-dont let them know you know they read it
-have a decent amount of time between what you do
-dont put the diary in just one microsoft word page
make different ones with the dates so they can keep up
with what you write
-you know them more than i do so used that to ur advantage
-remember they are people [very imperfect and weak beings]

all of this or just talk to them and even start crying [do everything you have to, to get your computer]

D.soulless@hotmail.com

Wow....worst idea I have ever read.

[perfezione]

FUCK TAIWAN!


BTW A LOT OF PEOPLE DONT GET PERMITS TO DRIVE UNTIL THEY'RE 18.
ITS LIKE A TAIWANESE THING. LOTS OF THEM AREN"T ALLOWED TO DRIVE UNTIL LATER OK. AND THEN ABOUT NO AIM, THEY WANT YOU TO FOCUS ON YOUR STUDIES LOL NOT POST ON CB.

[dustbunny]

^ not scary at all..my mom's taiwanese and her whole family is on the abusive side of raising children but it's not like im just gonna go hate the country for it?

[misoshiru]

and bitch please, i'm 18 and i don't have my permit. then again, i don't want to learn how to drive.

[perfezione]

^ not scary at all..my mom's taiwanese and her whole family is on the abusive side of raising children but it's not like im just gonna go hate the country for it?

I don't hate the country, I love that tiny island with all my heart.

[misoshiru]

wait...are you a guy or a girl?

[vietbabiiix3]

heyyy. Your problem seems like something that would be extremely common among asian parents. I have the same problem too. I think that is extremely controlling of your parents. It's just a teen thing. Wait it out, don't keep trying to fight back to them. When you're 18 and start going to college, things will be much different. As for now, my advice is just not to anger or infuriate them. This will just ruin your relationship with them. Patience is the key. =] And soon, it will all pay off when you're all grown up and unattached to them, just trust =] How about you try proving to them your maturity? Fighting back to them will just make them lose more trust in you. =] Take it easy, and I hope things go well for you.

[queen]

^ no one could've said it any nicer.

[lkajsfklajskds]

its cuz your asian thats y. im asian, they treat me like that. my friends are asian, they get treated worse. doesnt really matter which part of asia your in whether your south asian or oriental. as long as your asian your parents are strict bitches. i dont have my own computer. its not uncommon not to have your own computer. if you plan on going to college than you parents are going to have to get you your own computer. its kind of a necessity now a days.

[towntown2]

Violence? What did you do?
You've got one year left before you go off to college and free to be.
Suck it up.
They give you a lot already, so be grateful for that.
They've spent a lot of money on you, so you have to do something for them in return. Like respect them.
Your parents are making you do these things for your own good, believe me.
Community service? Colleges love that.
And they monitor your internet activities because they care about you, not because they want to ruin your lives.
You'll probably act almost the same way when you have your own kids.

I live with an Asian parent, too. I know the feeling, but I don't complain.

[shadowcat]

stfu you complaint way too much and its just a computer, its not gonna benefit you anything ... theyre your parents, even if they re wrong, your their child you should never treat them like shit and use violence on them .. .that is just disgrace ... they bough you nice stuff, you should be thanksful for that ... Im not allow to work and I dont even get allowance ... Im not complaining and I'm actually thanksful for having a mom and dad ... You sound like a spoiled brat.

[DeviantShadows]

Wait, let me get this straight.

• You have a house to live in.
• All living expenses paid for.
• Parents who obviously care about your well-being.

Those horrible, bitchy parents.


My advice- Get over it. You're almost 18; you don't have long before you can declare your freedom. Embrace what's left of your childhood. If you cooperate with their rules and throw a few hints their way now and then, maybe they'll surprise you with a computer for a graduation present or something...

[orgasm]

stick it out until college, then go crazy.

[HoodNigga]

i bet he's going to find this thing im writing right now, but i dont care.

Hahahahahahahahah I spit out my water.

LOL all I can say is just be happy you have a place to stay. If you think you got it bad there is always someone that has it worst. There is someone in this world that would suck dick just for a meal, and you want a computer.

[Beunique]

thats like my life except a little better.. lol i once called my mom a bitch to my sisters bf and he told me not to call her that.. i would go on but yea so ii dont anymore i realized what he told me was true and unfair to her.. unlike you i have a comp and all that and they dont chck my history.. they piss me off mainly with going out.. i can go out like once a month! yea seriously and my mom has the nerve to ask why i dont have friends.. or why im never with them.. i do have friends lots... lol just FYI. and then when i want to go out and she asks me with who she says that she doesnt know them.. and i alwasy say" of course you dont know them i never go out!" and she shuts up.. but she always says that ive been out enough.. lol its frusterating but i know tthat i dont have the worst situation.. so ill make light of things i guess

[jesusisthebestth...]

ur parent wouldnt be like this at all if they didnt love u...some 17 year olds have to live on their own, some have been molested, some were raped, some are homeless right now, some havent eaten today...so stop complaining! and be grateful that u have a mother and father, some people dont have either one!

[xSybarite]

I have asian parents too. You have to STOP COMPLAINING! There are millions of kids who are in worse situations. Like people said, your parents provide you with food, shelter, and love. Deal with it. Maybe they are treating you like a four year old because you're acting like one. Instead of whining, take some initiative and try to pick out an community service projet that you would enjoy or something. COMPROMISE is key. BTW, that diary thing is the worst idea ever.

[blacknailpolish]

I must agree with everyone here. Your parents must love you a whole lot if they haven't already hauled your sorry, ungrateful ass out of there yet...

make a folder in you computer[your private folder with you name on it],in that folder add some cool pics[nothing that they woulnd accept] make it yours basicly [but dont add too much just too make what i am telling you to do believeble], the point of the folder[that i know as you have ledd me to believe that they will check]is to make your online diary in which you will write things wich will make them worry such as "i feel more depresse each day, i just dont think they trust me"[not as cheesy as that] or "i dont think they really understand how i feel without a computer"[the better you write it,the more it will work just plant a seed in their mind that will make them worry about your mental health or feelings and what it could lead to [such as you going out more,(depends on what you write)could be drugs...],[just remember after making the folder wait a month or so untill you make the diary,write in it every two or three days or even each day however you feel like doing it, dont be direct in you writing just let them figure it out, and wait till another one or two months after writing things that will make tham worry, and remember to put the diary somewhere,where they will think you where trying to hide it but they will still find it(act as if you dont know they read it)and remember this all depends on what you write]also while time passes on the making the folder and then the diary, make them loosen up a little on smaller things.....like if they dont let you use perfume convince them [work your way up]

tips

-dont make it childish
-be smart about what you write
-dont let them know you know they read it
-have a decent amount of time between what you do
-dont put the diary in just one microsoft word page
make different ones with the dates so they can keep up
with what you write
-you know them more than i do so used that to ur advantage
-remember they are people [very imperfect and weak beings]

all of this or just talk to them and even start crying [do everything you have to, to get your computer]

Oh wow, that is the most pathetic thing I have ever seen. I feel eternally bad for this person's parents...

[xburnoutx00]

O_O shutup.

[*Uronacid*]

someone answer?

omg... you still believe!!! :D Props to you!!