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 Jul 13 2007, 07:55 AM
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Ok this may seem a bit weird...
but a few months ago..me and this guy flirted and talked on the phone 4 hours every night and we used to chat online 4 over 5 hours a day...he even told me he loved me and asked me to be his gf..but like an idiot..i thought it was to early cuz we knew each other but never really talked face 2 face..so we planned 2 c each other n we did..everythin went great except we were both a bit shy!! then we planned 2 c each other again...n we were both quiet n shy...we didnt really talk..jus small talk..hey hru...and thtz it..he said he has 2 go...and then we text messaged each other on hw weird tht was...and nw everytime we're both online on msn..we dont talk... nw the crazy part..I LOVE HIM!! I WANNA SPEND MY LIFE WITH HIM! HES ALL I THINK ABOUT!! But he doesnt want me...and i have no idea hw 2 get over him! help!! plzzz im desperate..i listen 2 depressing luv songz n cry myself 2 sleep..hw can i luv sum1 so much tht i've never even went out with! 
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Jul 13 2007, 08:04 AM
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So you met up with a guy you met online and fell in love? Wow.
Seems to me that you're both far too shy for your own good. Safely arrange to meet up with your boy again, then YOU ask HIM out. It's always tricky when you're first starting to date (or even meet) new people - and you'll find that eventually the small-talk will dissolve and you'll get some really great conversations going! Why don't you ask him along to something he enjoys doing? If he's a film fan, go to the cinema (have a meal or a drink afterwards so you can talk through the movie together) or if he's more of a stay-at-home fellow, invite him down to a quiet coffee-shop or something. The more time you spend with someone, the easier it gets to talk to them. |
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Jul 13 2007, 08:11 AM
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i knw..i never knew i cud fall in luv so fast...
thnx 4 ur help... =) but the thing is...i dun have the guts!! i need 2 knw if he luvs me...or at least likes me..but i dunno hw!! |
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Jul 13 2007, 08:15 AM
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If he didn't like you, he wouldn't be talking to you or even agreeing to meet up!
Sometimes you've just got to stand up and be unafraid of the consequences. Imagine you're the one being asked out. How would you feel? Elated, happy, attractive, wanted and special. I'm sure he'll feel the same way. 'He who dares - wins.' |
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Jul 13 2007, 08:21 AM
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but we havent talked..as in really talked...in over a month!!...
so wut i feel..is tht he lost interest in me... btw.. i really appreciate all ur help..i really needed 2 get this out of me 
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Jul 13 2007, 08:24 AM
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My pleasure =) Here to help.
Hmmm, okay so you feel rejected. But have you spoken to him in that month? My guess is you're both too scared of what the other thinks. He's probably feeling exactly the same way. Start a conversation. 'Hey, are you alright? Haven't spoken in a while...' and see where that leads you. |
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Jul 13 2007, 08:29 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 545,240 |
I did tht a few times...he sends me mixed signals..
like sumtimes he asks me y i stopped talkin 2 him...and i tell him i didnt and tht he stopped talkin 2 me...and then like a few days later i say hi and he doesnt answer or talks 2 me in a way like he doesnt wanna talk 2 me.. sumtimes i think hez a jerk!! but i just cant help thinkin bout him! |
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Jul 13 2007, 08:32 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 545,240 |
oh n one more thing..he asked me hw my boyfriend was (when i know he knows i dont have one) and then he was like im kidding... (so much 4 a joke) so tht made me think tht maybe he liked me...then he does sumthin tht makes me think he doesnt... IM REALLY CONFUSED!
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Jul 13 2007, 08:33 AM
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Try it one last time. Try to start a proper conversations. He probably feels rejected himself; or disappointed that you haven't spoken to him for a while. Maybe he's just communicating this. With shy guys, you usually have to be the assertive one and make all the moves.
Just try it, but don't break your heart over him. There's plenty more fish in the sea. Edit/ Asked you whether you had a boyfriend? Girl - get in there! He's obviously interested. |
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Jul 13 2007, 08:37 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 545,240 |
haha...ok i guess i'll try 2 talk 2 him... (im smiling like a maniac right now from hw excited i am 2 talk 2 him..)
but the only way i can talk 2 him is on msn cuz im out of the country now  (missing him)ANYWAYS THNXXX AGAINNNNNNNNNN 4 ALL THE ADVICE!! u were a great help!! if u ever need nythin..i'm here :) except if it has 2 do wid love 
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Jul 13 2007, 09:03 AM
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 people are wrong. women ARE objects. Group: Member Posts: 189 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 540,281 |
how old are you? 12?
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Jul 13 2007, 09:09 AM
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It doesn't matter. Matters of the heart hurt nomatter what age you are.
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Jul 14 2007, 02:58 AM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Jul 2007 Member No: 545,240 |
im 16 and i agree.. u dun have 2 be a certain age to get hurt..
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