Once a cheater, always a cheater. Options

[misfit]

So, do you believe in the saying Once a cheater,always a cheater??
Either yes or no,explain why and give proof!

[KayleighKins]

^ Agreed.

Yup, I don't need proof. A cheater always needs constant atention. She or he likes to be liked, even if that means crossing the line. Although they don't see it as crossing the line at the moment.

Either that, or they get off on the excitment of doing something wrong.

A cheater always has a reason for cheating, whether it being emotional, or sexual, and they aren't always the one's at fault. Like women or men who cheat when they are in abusive relationships.

Will they cheat on THAT relationship? Probably. If they think that relationship isn't going well they will find "love" somewhere else without confronting the topic.

[EmoEyelinerx]

^I agree with both of them.

A cheater is always a cheater. He cant ever say its wrong to cheat if he has done it before. He may not cheat on you again for awhile (if your still in a relationship) but I guarentee he will again maybe in a week, months or year. Cheaters usually crave attention so if your not giving them all the needs they want (emotional, sexual) their damn straight going to find another person who will, or who can complete their needs.

[Cujiine]

Yeah see my first bf apparently lives off of girls telling him he's hott or sexy or whatever sowhen a girl answered his cell phone I flipped and told him it was over and he started begging me to take him back and stuff but it's like, not if a girl answers you phone the way she did and definately not it you're gonna have girls in their undies sitting on your lap...

[Phil2thejay]

I cheated once.
And I've been cheated on numerous times.
I regret cheating. Never did it again atleast.
And I'm sure I'll be able to control my self if I ever have the temptataion to again.
Kayleigh said it well.

"A cheater always needs constant atention. She or he likes to be liked, even if that means crossing the line. Although they don't see it as crossing the line at the moment."

That how I felt when I did. I need attention.
I douno why I live off it. Its a bad habbit.

[BOOGERSHAHA]

depends on the circumstances.

what caused a cheater to cheat varies. if somebody just cheated with no "good" reason, then there's something to be suspected about his/her character.

[Phil2thejay]

depends on the circumstances.

what caused a cheater to cheat varies. if somebody just cheated with no "good" reason, then there's something to be suspected about his/her character.

True.
Like me, I forgot to mention I'm bi-polar
but kinda stupid to say i cheated on my ex because I was bi-polar...

[jeSs1cA]

my boyfriend cheated on me back in april. i took him back, but i know that if he does it to me again, he's done.

i don't believe in the "once a cheater, always a cheater" deal. my sister went off to college 2 years ago and her boyfriend was still here at home. she cheated on him & they tried to work things out but things just weren't working with trust issues.

my sister has told me, til this day (2 years later), that no matter what, she would never cheat on her boyfriend ever again. she regrets it so much.

i mean, we all make mistakes. it sucks, but i think everyone deserves 2nd chances TO A CERTAIN POINT.

[Becks539]

I believe that saying. It's pretty much the way they are and usually people cheat on each other because of lack of interest so to keep him going he would keep cheating.

[misfit]

well the sorta cheating im talking about is just a kiss,nothing more than that,are you all just referring to cheating in general or just a certain "type of cheating" like just a kiss or more than that??
my mum thinks that just a kiss is nothing and she's like i know what its like when you're really drunk you dont think of the consequences,not that thats an exuse but yeah.
ive been really drunk before but i dunno i admit ive had the temptation but i just couldnt do it..

[Phil2thejay]

well the sorta cheating im talking about is just a kiss,nothing more than that,are you all just referring to cheating in general or just a certain "type of cheating" like just a kiss or more than that??
my mum thinks that just a kiss is nothing and she's like i know what its like when you're really drunk you dont think of the consequences,not that thats an exuse but yeah.
ive been really drunk before but i dunno i admit ive had the temptation but i just couldnt do it..

I held the girls hand. So apparently thats cheating.
I knew I was. I felt lonely. Had no feelings for her though.

[*Moderator*]

Some people say that once you do something, there's always a chance that you'll do it again. Basically, I guess they're just saying that people never change. For example, if you like a person once, you'll always end up liking them again if you were to ever to get to know them all over again. Or other examples like, once a cheater, always a cheater.

What do you guys think about it?

[jeSs1cA]

i don't believe this.

people learn from mistakes. i'm not saying that all people do, but a lot of people learn after they do something like cheating.

i guess it sort of depends on what kind of cheating we're talking about. if we're talking about cheating on a test or something, then most likely it'll happen again. if they never learned it and had to get the answer from someone else, what is gonna make them learn it for the next test or the last exam?

if we're talking about cheating with relationships, i don't believe the statement "once a cheater, always a cheater". you need to give people a chance. if they messed up and made a mistake, then you can't hold it against them forever. yeah, it's not right, but how do you know that their going to do it again? it'd be like you're automatically assuming that they are going to do it again. if people grow up and learn from it, then they wouldn't do it again.

[Simba]

Nah, people change. Sure, there's habits, but there's definitely still change.

[Trinie]

i think people do change if they really want to. i used to believe that saying too, "once a cheater, always a cheater." but like i said people can change if they want to better themselves.

[chibichi15]

I think you can change. But it's like the saying "Bad habits die hard".
But, the change doesn't happen that easily.

[illriginal]

I can't trust a cheater. They may change but still, what if they start to get all jealous and stupid in their head for nothing, and they start to cheat on you on the assumption that you were flirting with another female. Just a good idea for myself at least.

[*Flair*]

Relationship wise

I believe it's true. To me, it's impossible to 'change' over night. Although, the person might truly regret it but I think that he / she has the cheating tendencies. If it was so easy to cheat before, why wouldn't it be the same now?

[jeSs1cA]

Relationship wise

I believe it's true. To me, it's impossible to 'change' over night. Although, the person might truly regret it but I think that he / she has the cheating tendencies. If it was so easy to cheat before, why wouldn't it be the same now?

of course no one can change over night, but if the person truly learned from their actions and realized how much it hurts the other person, then they wouldn't do it again. yeah, it was easy for them before to cheat, but at the time i'm sure they didn't know how much it would truly effect other people. it wouldn't be the same now because they learned.

[*Flair*]

Some cheaters truly believe that they'll change but it isn't easy. Temptation is pretty sweet. My mind is made up because of personal experience. I just can't imagine a cheater changing, it can't happen. They might not cheat right away, but give them time and their old habits will come back.

[aznxRawr]

A person can only change with the right motivation. You can't expect everyone who does something wrong to be able to change after they realize what they've done. It truly depends on the person, in my opinion.

[jeSs1cA]

i'm basing what i'm saying on personal knowledge too. my sister has cheated on her ex boyfriend, and i truly believe that with that stupid dumb mistake, she would never do it again. she tried to work things out, but the trust wasn't there.

my boyfriend cheated on me. yeah, it's extremely hard for me to trust him, but i love him. and i want to give him that chance. NO cheater deserves a second chance though! definitely another chance though. you can't keep looking in the past and remember what has happened, instead, taking that and moving and learning from it.

[*MyMichelle*]

No 'cause a lot of people I knew that were cheaters a few years back have not cheated in a loong time.

[Beunique]

yup i belive it. this guy cheated on me but i blamed it on the chick, then a few months later it happends again. same girl not taking any chances sorry..

[fanny562]

well i once cheated on a guy but that was so accenditly because i didn't know we were going out..but since then im always carefull when guys ask me out..i would say i don't believe in that saying because well people could change u know

[NgocQuyen]

i tried to believe that it wasn't but in my most recent case, it is true. there'd better be someone out there to change it. :|

[popoberry]

yeah cuhz if they say they won`t cheat again . they would just want that person back .

[y0urelectrikk]

I agree w/ the statement. My ex cheated on me with some girl w/in the first week of us going out. He said he only went out with her because she said she was going to kill herself or something. So I gave him another chance.. about 3 months later.. he cheated on me with a different girl. We broke up.. 3 months later, he came back to me, and I'm so dumb and gave him yet another chance. & guess what! he cheated on me again. We arent together anymore.. but by the end of the relationship he told me he cheated on me 6 times.. including once with a guy >.< After that 9 month relationship, He got a new gf within less than a week. I know of a few times he's cheated on her. Then he got another girlfriend, while still going out with that girl. So he cheated on both of them. He broke up with the first chick.. and is still with the other one. No doubt he's cheated on her.. she lives an hour away from him.. and quite honestly she's probably the ugliest girl I've ever seen. I'm not even sure if it is a girl.. its just a big blobb of lard haha. Whatever. Moral of the story.... Once a cheater, always a cheater.

but then again. He's only one heartless a-hole, although I'm sure there are plenty more out there.. there's got to be a couple who don't continue to be assholes.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Sleeping with someone else... I'd be crushed, completely. But if he was truly and deeply sorry, maybe I could forgive him - hell we all make mistakes, we're human. However if he was having another relationship, no way in hell I could take him back. For me feelings are more important than physical urges, no matter what.

Oh wait, I don't think that was your question. Umm... some people change, some people don't. If you truly love the person, you'll be less likely to give into cheating. There are always exceptions, of course... you had a major fight, you got drunk, things got out of control, etc, even though that's not really an excuse. I've cheated before, I admit it. I was insecure and I wanted to get back at him. But I would never do it in my current relationship, ever. I think I've changed and have more self control now.