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 Jul 2 2007, 06:48 PM
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 Home is where your rump rests!  Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,235 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 451,969  |
It's reciprocal. The problem? S/He's dying. Hodgkin's lymphoma. You want to get married, the person says no. They love you enough - that's certain - but they don't want to hurt you. Ask anyone, it hurts deeply and strongly to be a widow.
Would you marry a dying person? |
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Jul 2 2007, 06:54 PM
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 High Voltage!∞ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,728 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 29,157 |
It'd hurt, but I think I'd do it. Or else I'd spend my whole life wondering what if. I hate "what if's".
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Jul 2 2007, 07:34 PM
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 roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
Hmm. It depends.
 I don't like the idea of getting hurt, but if I love them enough, I wouldn't have enough will power to stay away from them. |
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| *Mercy* |
Jul 2 2007, 07:37 PM
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I would.If to truely love someone you must make everyday better and happier,Regardless.
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Jul 2 2007, 08:09 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
That's like what happened in 'A Walk to Remember' by Nicholas Sparks.
I don't think I could marry that person... Unless I truly believed that they were THE ONLY person I could ever be with 
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Jul 2 2007, 08:19 PM
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Home is where your rump rests! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,235 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 451,969 |
QUOTE(brownsugar @ Jul 2 2007, 06:06 PM)  This sounds like a book I read. Did you read a book about something like thissss? Noope. Actually, I didn't even think of A Walk to Remember when I thought of this, but I just noticed that it's really, really similar. Actually inspired by C.S. Lewis, who married his wife knowing she'd die.
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| *Libertie* |
Jul 2 2007, 09:25 PM
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For me it's kind of a "we'll be the happiest people in the world while we're together" thing, so the pain in the end will be worth it. I'd do it because it would hurt too much to walk away.
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| *stephinika* |
Jul 2 2007, 09:31 PM
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^^
I completely agree. I wouldn't be able to not, so I'd rather get married and at least be married for that time together. |
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Jul 2 2007, 09:36 PM
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 Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
That's a good question.
Well, sometimes dying people come out of the bad times and get healthy again. But then, most times they just go from dying to dead. Marrying a dying person is like doing a cannonball into a quicksand. You know what would end up happening, but you still do it anyway. I'd have to really really love the dying guy first to marry them. I wouldn't sign up for future sadness and pain unless I know it's very worth it. |
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| *ersatz* |
Jul 2 2007, 10:18 PM
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Well...it really depends how long it would be until they die.
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Jul 3 2007, 03:53 AM
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 dripping destruction Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,282 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,929 |
house much?
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Jul 3 2007, 04:21 AM
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Yes.
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Jul 3 2007, 09:37 AM
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 long time no CB. Group: Official Member Posts: 3,889 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 493,502 |
I would, if I loved that person more than anyone else.
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Jul 3 2007, 10:41 AM
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Mais je ne l'aime pas Group: Member Posts: 971 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,135 |
QUOTE(sadolakced acid @ Jul 3 2007, 01:53 AM) house much? hee hee hee Dr. Cameron and her cancer victim husband. |
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Jul 3 2007, 11:11 AM
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 *hugs and kisses* Group: Member Posts: 809 Joined: Jan 2007 Member No: 493,443 |
QUOTE(Jinny @ Jul 3 2007, 10:37 AM) I would, if I loved that person more than anyone else. Same here. It'd be really hard; but if it's love, there'd be no regrets. |
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Jul 3 2007, 12:54 PM
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 Sharie. Group: Member Posts: 2,429 Joined: Dec 2003 Member No: 103 |
Marriage to me is just like a ceremony...it cannot demonstrate how much love you have for each other. It's sort of a commitment, and if they are dying, you don't really need that commitment in order to stay together. I mean...if you're standing by his side despite his health, then you have already proven something. That's the important thing, not some ceremony to prove it.
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Jul 3 2007, 01:31 PM
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i dunno. i would but would they?
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Jul 3 2007, 02:57 PM
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if would hurt just as much and just the same whether or not i was married to the person. like someone said above me, marriage is just a ceremony. even if i got married to him, i would still be devastated and grieve. instead of marriage, i think the most important thing would be whether or not him and me can conceive a child. that way, he can carry on in the baby. |
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Jul 4 2007, 10:16 AM
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Yes, because marriage is for better or for worse, in sickness and in health.
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Jul 4 2007, 09:26 PM
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QUOTE(HakunaMatata @ Jul 2 2007, 08:19 PM) Actually inspired by C.S. Lewis, who married his wife knowing she'd die. c.s. lewis is my idol.ive read alllll his books (yes, there is more than just the "narnia series".) in fact deplorable is from the deplorable word in the magicians nephew... anyway, back on topic. yes i would. plain and simple. |
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Jul 4 2007, 10:16 PM
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this sounds like it would be a book nicholas sparks would write
but anywho, no. |
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Jul 4 2007, 10:56 PM
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 AttacKATTack! Group: Member Posts: 697 Joined: Jun 2007 Member No: 536,660 |
^ Agreed. His books are so tragic!
 [/obviousness]Shouldn't this be in Relationships? And of course I wouldn't get married to them. That's just retarded. I'd be doing an Anna Nicole Smith right there, getting married for the money and then getting half of it when the guy dies. What's the point? I can love a guy until he dies, but getting married would be entirely unnecessary. |
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| *steve330* |
Jul 5 2007, 02:20 AM
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How long til they croak?
Why not just live/stay with them til they die so you don't have to worry about paperwork? |
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Jul 6 2007, 10:33 PM
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If I truely loved them, then yes, I'd marry them. Sure it'd hurt and I'd be sad when they're gone, but wouldn't I feel the same way if I hadn't married them? Only then I'd always wonder what it would have been like if I had married them and so on and so forth.
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Jul 7 2007, 09:24 AM
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 Brown hand smash Group: Member Posts: 654 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,582 |
QUOTE(Jinny @ Jul 3 2007, 09:37 AM) I would, if I loved that person more than anyone else. same here........ |
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Jul 9 2007, 10:27 PM
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nho. was the point if he/she dies ud be goen through to much but if u TRULY REALLY LOVE EM then id say go head
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