How old is too old?, should age really be a factor Options

[aznlyka]

it seems as women grow older and more mature, how much older a guy is than the chick doesn't seem to be such an issue. my mom is 45 and my dad 53, that's not a big deal, am i right? 8 year diff, but old is old, lol.

but then i JUST TURNED 18 and there's this coworker thats 25. 7 year diff, but that seems wrong to probably the majority of on lookers. i'm not sleeping with him, or in a relationship, but there's definetly something between us, but it feels like it's wrong to even think of starting a relationship with the dude.

when ladies get older and wiser, it seems more socially acceptable to be with a guy who's 5, 6, 7, ... 10 years older because they are women who know what they're doing, who has lived life and experienced relationships. i'm 18, i have a whole lot yet to experience.

maybe i'm not as mature as i feel i am, but i really like this guy, and i'm sure he likes me, but i only just turned 18 and he's 25. what to do? what to think?

ladies, this issue should be discussed.

[trulyandnever]

Aww... well I reckon if you think your not mature enough to be with him... give it a go anyway!
Assuming you guys seriously wanna hook up.

I'm just one of them people that wanna experience everything in life though.
& dating a older guy doesnt sound that bad.
(Better than the other way around in my opinion anyway).

Age is like.. a number. Its one of my favorite sayings, simply because its so true.
My BF's a year older than I, but I feel I've passed him in maturity by a long shot. Still love him though.


My ex step dad and mother were together 7 years: He's 45, she's 34 (9 year difference).
My new step dad is 21 and my mum's still 34. Whacked up shit nuh? 13 year difference.

But I mean, if they seriously love eachother... why not?

Go for it :)

[KayleighKins]

Both a man and womans brain doesn't mature until your 20. That's why the older you get, the more it doesn't feel like anything, because your brains are basically at the same wavelength.

I know what you mean though, I'm 18, and when this 20 year old started crushing on me I was a little freaked out. I think maybe you go through your childhood thinking "wow, omg 20 year old guys, thats just wrong for little me" and then you wake up and your legally a woman, and you can't help thinking with that 16 year old mentality.

Or, at least that was how it was for me.

After doing the math your relationship isn't creepy, but if it creeps YOU out, obviously you have to go with your gut. Right, in 5 years he'll be 30 and probably wanting to settle down. In five years you'll be 23, and probably ALSO wanting to settle down. But what if you don't want to? Relationship issue possibility number one.

And what if you two break up? Will you feel guilty, or wronged in anyway, or start to think that he was dating you for your body and not your personality? Relationship possibility issue number two. Although this can happen to anyone, but it might be stronger with a older guy.

What if you start getting the "have I dating enough men? have I had enough fun?" jitters? Relationship issue possibility number three.

Anyway. That probably has nothing to do with now, I'm just saying.

[lorrytruck;]

I am 15 and when I was 14 I once had a 18 yr old bf (we didn't do anything!) I think it's alright, but sometimes when the age difference is too far apart (like... I don't know. 20 yr olds and 50 yr olds?) I guess personally if I'm comfortable with who I'm with it's always fine, it's only when i start to think "hey i was 2 when he was 15!" or something, that scares me. Haha I hope i'm not confusing anyone; I probably am though

[helloxtine]

anna nicole and jay howard marshall. now that's a big difference.

[Becks539]

If you like him that much, I say go for it.
It's highly likely you will get the people that give you weird looks when they find out the age difference..butI think you are both adults and it's not so bad. If you were still a teenager in high school that'd be a different story.
I'm 15 and my boyfriend is a year and 3 months older than me. Some people think that'sa lot (i don't think so at all)
like a previous poster said, age is just a number.

[dilnozaboy]

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[truebeliever]

i'm in the same kinda situation
i think people mature or change the most in their early 20's
thats probably why when we get older it doesnt matter as much
i started to have a thing for this guy that is 22, 5 years older than me.
we get along well but the truth is we're at totally different places in our lives right now so at this point nothing is gonna happen

[Tramatize]

Thats a difference between teenager/adolescent, and adult, or young adult, its different than grown adult, with grown adult.
Age should, sometimes, be a factor.

[espressive]

well age is one thing and maturity/mentality is another. there are some people who have the maturity of a 10 year old and are in their 20s. i think there are a lot of other factors that coincide with age, so i don't think that age is normally the bigger issue. like i'm 18 and my boyfriend's 22.

[shoryuken]

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