Which is better?, All or nothing? Options

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

All right, I've been thinking about it for a while and I wanted to get your oppinions.Which do you think is better in a relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriendd: 1)Having almost nothing in common or 2)Having pretty much everything in common.

1)If you don't have a lot in common, you might lose interest in the person, due to lack of having something to talk about, right?But...A lot of times people say "opposites attract".From what I've seen, a lot of times in relationships where the two people don't have a lot in common, the often get the feeling that the other person "completes" them.It's one of those "you're everything I'm not" types of things.

2)If you do have a lot in common with the person, you'll almost always have something to talk about that interests both of you, correct?But, I mean, you could get bored.Like...Talking to someone who's almost exactly like you would get old eventually, wouldn't it?

So, what you you all think?

[31miracles]

Both, I believe you can make love work no matter how similar or differnet two people are.

but if I had to pick, I'd choose nothing (different). Nothing does not have to mean opposite. I like my girls to be different and individualistic. It's more interesting, because I would have "one of a kind. But I've also had a relationship with someone similar to me, and that worked out too.

[EmoEyelinerx]

I think I would rather have everything in common then nothing in common becuase then you would always have something to talk about, other then nothing. You guys would also understand eachother alot more.

[JustAnotherTeena...]

Ok, well from experience I'd say 'all'

I've had 3 boyfriends, the first wasn't anything big. The second guy I had almost nothing in common with. Opposites attract, but after that we ended up clashing & love just wasn't enough to hold us together anymore. Never really had much to talk about, since we didn't like the same sorts of things & had totally opposite personalities so we'd often end up breathing at each other over the phone or whatever. With him it was just break up, get back together, break up, get back together...that happened a few times until I finally broke it off for good. My third [and current, though we went out once before] boyfriend, we have a tonnn in common. It's so much fun because we can talk forever about anything or nothing without getting bored with each other, we like the same sorts of things [always a good thing], and we have the same basic morals & such[definite plus].

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

Yeah...I think I agree with XxSugarKisses-TeddyHugsxX and JustAnotherTeenageLoser, I'd rather be with someone who I had a lot it common with. =/

[*stephinika*]

For me personally, I'd say everything. The more I've had in common with him, the better the relationship has seemed to work out.

[*steve330*]

Mix of both. Different interests/hobbies with similar ideals.

[sprezzatura]

It's impossible to have everything in common, there must be something different from each other for me to find out. That will make me become more interested in him, right?

[through-with-you]

Mix of both. Different interests/hobbies with similar ideals.

i agree here.
i think its just a massive mix of everything.
dont go looking fo your perfect guy.girl.

one day you'll just find each other.

myself and my current boyfriend have been going seven months since next monday.
and we met purely through my best mate screaming and running and jumping onot him when he saw him in town...
haha >.<
and since then we got on and stuff.

and that was it.

but its a mix of both tbh.

you'll know when it's right :D

holly.
xxx

[sweetest-emotion]

yeah with either you just need to work at the relationship and it will work! i've had bfs who, now that i think about it, we weren't total opposites, but i haven't met a guy who i'm totally alike with. i like that actually. you learn about new things and about each other. then again you do need stuff to click on. so it doesn't matter if you have common interests and such, as long as you click and are easy going with one another (like the convos aren't forced or silent). really any relationship can work as long as both sides work at it.

[*JoanOfArc*]

I think its better if you have a little bit of both. Its bad if you have too much or too little in common. You need a jist of both for the balance. If you have nothing in common, you never get bored. If you have a lot in common, you bond more. Depends what you want in a relationship.

[luxuriate]

Fact: Opposites attract but its usually a stressful relationship.

[AngelinaTaylor]

From all the relationships I've had, my current one is the healthiest. He's a musician also, just like me. I wouldn't want to spend my life with someone who didn't understand why I have to practice 6 or 7 hours a day.

[ladysovereigna]

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[cupcakex]

It depends. No one wants to date someone that's exactly like them. But, why date someone you have absolutely nothing in common with?

My boyfriend and I share a lot of beliefs, but our hobbies are almost opposite. =p

[fathomlessdame]

well i dont have too much in common with my boyfriend. but he's a gamer and is slowly turning me into one i think

meh, i think if you haveeverything in common, like could get pretty boring. but if you dont have things in common..at least at first... you can learn alot and be exposed to new and different things

[xburnoutx00]

My boyfriend and I have a lot in common, but we don't have everything in common. I would hate it if we did. [we need something to argue about] haha. just kidding.