friend problems, can u help me??? |
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 Jun 14 2004, 08:36 PM
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 spiCy*  Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,758  |
ok so heres the deal, like i have these 3 best friends, but lately, 2 of them have been idssing the third whenever shes not around, and im pretty sure they diss me when im not around. i told the third girl, and we agreed to be honest and try to avoid the other 2, but one of the girls were avioding keeps IMing me asking me why im not talking 2 her, but when we all like go out somehwere, se talks behind our backs, and thyere all so hypocritical. i have no idea what 2 do. shud i ditch the mean ones, or try 2 make the friendship last??? HELP!
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Jun 14 2004, 08:42 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
okay you got to confront those 2 means girls and tell them that you know about them talking behind your back, but it seems mor elike you THINK they are talking behind your back since they talk about your third best freind behind her back... you should confront them and tell them taht best freinds don't talk behind each others back and they should not be sooo two face (being nice in fornt og you but a bitch behind you) explain to them how if they keep the act up, then theres no point of being friends anymore... try to work it out first, and if that don't work, then try finding new friends, but you can garentee that your new freinds wont do the same either.. and to build best freinds i think that takes time and trust... so yeah think it over and talk about it with them first, take care hun.
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Jun 14 2004, 08:43 PM
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 Sharie. Group: Member Posts: 2,429 Joined: Dec 2003 Member No: 103 |
This should probably be in the relationship forum?
Anyway...this is a no brainer. Don't be friends with such losers...they're not your friends if they talk behind your back. That's the worst thing besides "dissing" you in front of you. Tell them straight out instead of avoiding them! |
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Jun 14 2004, 08:44 PM
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 i'm susan Group: Official Member Posts: 13,875 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 5,029 |
this should be moved to relationship
anyways if ur uncomfortable or dont like it...then just ditch them. well do they talk behind ur back all the time like nonstop? tell them that ur sick of it and they say sry to u and keep on doing it? just dont be friends with them... u dont need a friend who kepts on talking behind ur back |
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Jun 14 2004, 09:04 PM
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 Drew Group: Member Posts: 489 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,012 |
if i was a girl... i'd confront them about wat they were saying ... and if they still talk about me i'd end my friendship with them.... but in the boy wolrd thats different..
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Jun 15 2004, 03:57 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 10 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,448 |
duh... ditch them. chances are, there r much better peeps u could become bff's w/
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Jun 15 2004, 03:59 PM
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 pixel hybrid Group: Member Posts: 6,410 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,081 |
Make new friends.
moved to relationships. |
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Jun 15 2004, 04:44 PM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
Confront them. If they deny it and say it's no big deal. Ditch 'em. They're not a true friend if they do such things. If they apologize and are sincere, make it last.
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Jun 15 2004, 05:34 PM
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spiCy* Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,758 |
thanx so much 4 the help, we all talked openly. and we all agreed to be honest. i think it wil work. thx again.
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Jun 15 2004, 08:02 PM
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 Quand j'étais jeune... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 6,826 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,272 |
QUOTE(happyforever @ Jun 14 2004, 8:36 PM) ok so heres the deal, like i have these 3 best friends, but lately, 2 of them have been idssing the third whenever shes not around, and im pretty sure they diss me when im not around. i told the third girl, and we agreed to be honest and try to avoid the other 2, but one of the girls were avioding keeps IMing me asking me why im not talking 2 her, but when we all like go out somehwere, se talks behind our backs, and thyere all so hypocritical. i have no idea what 2 do. shud i ditch the mean ones, or try 2 make the friendship last??? HELP! *confused I was in the same situation, but you know what? It was all a huge confusion because no one was really honest with one another. I confronted one of the girl a year later and found out the whole thing was just a big miscommunication problem. Do you think it could be that? I mean if one girl wanted you to side with her, she'll say that your other friend was talking behind your back just so you'll agree with her. It happens. |
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Jun 15 2004, 10:26 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 30 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,229 |
...i kinda know how you feel. my friends and i use to be the same way, we always like gossiped and stuff but finally we just kinda realized that made some of us feel really bad (including me) so we try to not exclude people nemore. im not saying it doesnt happen nemore, but yeah, just tell your friends how you feel about talking behind peoples backs and if they really are...mean...about it, theyre not exactly the best people to hang out with...
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Jun 16 2004, 11:26 AM
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 <3~Tara~<3 Group: Member Posts: 345 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,491 |
yea confront da 2 grls bout it n tell them dat its wrong n if they;re still dissin ur 3rd best frin or u then u should ditch them who needs frins like them
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Jun 16 2004, 06:09 PM
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spiCy* Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,758 |
yeah like i said b4 we talked it out and it was a miscommunication and every1 was using me and the second girl, but i think its ok now. and yeah, sry bout it being moved 2 relationships, i thot i originally put it here, but i guess not, my puter is weird sumtimes. thx 4 the help.
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Jun 17 2004, 06:10 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,831 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,324 |
Wow. I had the same friend problem. I had 2 best friends, and we were always talking behind each other's backs, and there's like more than one side to every story. You guys should all be honest to each other. Confront her or them all if you need to. Just speak up and stop letting people talk behind each other's backs. Don't let things go to a point where you can't fix the problem anymore because of your bad timing.
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Jun 17 2004, 06:29 PM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
that's EXACTLY how my friends are. if you want them to change you have to say something. I don't even think you should consider them friends. You don't need them. You got us (createblog).
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Jun 17 2004, 11:21 PM
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 scream my lungs out Group: Member Posts: 125 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 22,578 |
same here. ive got 3 really close friends. but becos of some silly stuff, 2 of them are not talking to each other. they are always telling us how annoying each other is. we have no idea how to deal with it. its really sad. we used to be the gang of four but i dont even know if we still are. they just dont want to face each other and talk it over.
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Jun 18 2004, 04:03 PM
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 .....eat my booger Group: Member Posts: 125 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 20,920 |
yea... confront to those girls.. so called as your friends..
.. just remember.. some friends arent good to keep. mostly ones that betray you and get you killed.. .....thats what happened to my bro.. best friend betray'd ... got him kill and 4 other pplz.. becareful who you choose to be your friends. lock the good ones in your heart and keep them to treasure. |
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Jun 18 2004, 04:22 PM
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 I HEART NICHOLAS TSE Group: Official Member Posts: 2,726 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,116 |
U should confront them... and if they denies it.. just drop them.. u dont need friends like that... Lately i've been goni through the same problem.. but it's with my cousin, i thought i knew her.. but i found out just last week that she's been talking crap behind my back. I confronted her.. and she just denies it.
 but anyways... it's better if u confront them all together.. with the 3rd friend around. what ever u choose to do.. I wish u the best of luck.
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Jun 18 2004, 11:50 PM
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 The Used Group: Member Posts: 265 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 17,501 |
well first tell those 2 girls you know that they talk behind ppls backs. then tell them u dont wanna hang around ppl like that so they better stop.
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