Would You Date Your Friends Ex? Options

[EmoEyelinerx]

I always hear people saying "I would never ever, date my friends ex" but most of the time they go and do anyway. I was just wondering how many of you would/wouldent and why/why not. Do you think its wrong if someone does?

I personally would. I have before. I dont think its wrong afterall, it is their ex.

[31miracles]

I see nothing wrong in that.
Unless your friends ex did something really stupid to your friend.

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

I've done that before and then she did the same thing to me.
It's a long story but basically:
They went out and broke up.I went out with him and after we broke up, she went out with him again.
(The full story's more complicated than that, but I figured no one would want to read it.XD)
We're all still friends, too.
I don't see what the big deal about going out with your friend's ex is. =/

[*MyMichelle*]

It depends on if my friend is completely over the ex or not. And it depends on why they broke up.

[XRosesXAreXBlack...]

Uhhh...NOOOOOO. That seems like a left over to me. Unless their ex's name was Lupe Fiasco or Allen Iverson, probably not.

Why not?

[xhidethedetails]

Depends if my friend still likes them or not. Then I would concider it.

[Chanfleh]

Right now, I would date my friend's ex. She doesn't want to be my friend anymore for a stupid reason and I'm falling for her ex so even more of a reason why I don't care. She's not even a friend anymore.

It depends. There are these two girls who are "bestfriends" and there is this guy who goes back and forth between them, and they're supposely "depressed" whenever he leaves one of them for the other, yet they're still bestfriends. That doesn't make sense.

Also, some girls tend to take you going out with their ex badly. So you pretty much have to figure out which ones worth it.

[Chicago]

if i liked them, and my friend was okay with it

[RyanWasHere]

Dating a friends ex is never acceptable, someone who does that, is not my friend, I'd rather not be near my ex anymore than I have to be.

[xburnoutx00]

Uh. - Definitely not. That's all I have to say.

[misoshiru]

Depends on how close I am with that certain friend. If they're a good friend, then no, but if not? Maybe.

[crazeegirl411]

I would say not to, because really...no matter what your friend says, they will always have that feeling in their heart. Well, maybe it's just me, because I forgive but I don't forget. But still...it's just something you don't do unless you're not a very good friend. I've done something like that along the lines, and I nearly lost our friendship. I didn't, but it's never the same again. We don't talk the same way to each other...or share the secrets like we used to.

[ihearrtrevenge]

I see nothing wrong with it ; unless my friends not over her ex

[freeflow]

Depends on how close I am with that certain friend. If they're a good friend, then no, but if not? Maybe.

Yeea same here. If I like a person and they dated a not so close friend of mine why not.

[*stephinika*]

Depends who broke up with whom in the relationship and whatnot right? Like if the friend wasn't over it then obviously no, but otherwise, its an ex so whatever. One of my girl friends is dating my ex and I don't care.

[KayleighKins]

Naw, I understand jealousy, rage, sadness and heartbreak. If my friend had ever even uttered the words "I loved him" in any way, then I wouldn't date him. In fact, I would try hard to not flirt with him. Even if I didn't really think she had loved him.

It's just, there are sooo many guys out there. I don't know why I would want to jump into something that could hurt my friends feelings.

Unless, of course, my friend is already in another loving relationship. In which case he's up for grabs. Course I'd talk to her about it first. It would still make me feel guilty unless she convinced me it was ok.

[tokidokihuu]

I would ask my friend how she would feel about it o_o;;. If shes okay with it I would still have to consider how their relationship ended. If he made a horrible mistake then I'd probably think twice.

[synthase]

I'd probably be tempted to
and then I probably will
then I will feel pretty guilty
and..you know what happens

[gr00vyswordsman]

I've done that before and then she did the same thing to me.
It's a long story but basically:
They went out and broke up.I went out with him and after we broke up, she went out with him again.
(The full story's more complicated than that, but I figured no one would want to read it.XD)
We're all still friends, too.
I don't see what the big deal about going out with your friend's ex is. =/

Post the story somewhere :) id be a fun read, u know u want too!

[dilnozaboy]

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[nycaf12]

well, for my situation, i think its acceptable. at first, my bestfriend dated "A" for a while and "A" cheated on him, so they broke up. i started talking to "a" and i got with her, but before that, i asked my best friend if hes alright with it. haha turns out my best friend was gna date "A"s best friend, "B" so yeh, but they didnt last long because'B" went back to her ex. i continued dating "A" for a while, 9 months? then she cheated on me, so we broke up. and before, "B" was dumped by her ex. a month later, i got with "B". "B" told and asked "A" if it was alright to date me, and "A" said yes, but then afterwards she told her friends that "B", also her bestfriend,was very bitchy for her to do get with me because "B" knows that "A" hasnt gotten over me yet. however, it hink that its acceptable in this case because "A" cheated on me,so she doesnt even have any right to say whatever after i broke up with "A"

kinda gay eh?

[*alovesopure*]

I guess it really depends on how close I am with that friend. Thinking of all my best friends exs, I wouldn't. Just cause I think they are dumb. Potheads and such.

But if I fell in love, and it just happened to be a friends ex, then yes. I think my friend would understand.. and if not then oh well.

[SimplicityGirl]

Yes. In fact my bf is my .. er... well...ex friend's ex.
It's a long story. We all had a huge fight over it, and in the end, she just couldn't face the fact that he didn't want to be with her anymore.
Nothing wrong with it as long as you put it out in the open.

[MrStrife]

You have to ask your friend's permission first if you want to pursue the relationship. That's the rule. But please do correct me if I'm wrong.

[trulyandnever]

Yeah.. why not?

Why ask your friend for permission...
If theyre over- its done, yup?
Shouldnt need anyones permision, she/he/friend can get over it

I suppose the reason/circumstances of why they split would play a role though.
Like, if they split because say, the boy didnt love the friend anymore, and had taken a liking to you instead...
That would be kinda different. All depends!

[sarmanas]

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[MrStrife]

Yeah.. why not?

Why ask your friend for permission...
If theyre over- its done, yup?
Shouldnt need anyones permision, she/he/friend can get over it

But what if you guys are tight and would still be hanging out a lot? Even so, it's just being considerate towards a friend's feelings because they might be sore about it but at least they'll know you didn't backstab them.

[transcendentalis...]

if they were over each other, why not.

[xKatt]

I've gone out with my best friend's crush of 2 years. I've gone out with my best friend's ex (who's not my best friend any more, she can burn in hell ). Uhh... I've had crushes on guys my friends liked. I've flirted with their boyfriends or crushes and ended up going out with them. I've broken pretty much every friend/boy rule in the book.

My friends and I have no problems with it at all (mostly because the guys here are a bunch of losers not worth fighting over). It's like a game to us. We're so tight it doesn't even matter.

But that's just us!! So don't go doing it like it's all fine and dandy. Things are different here, I guess. Our group doesn't do drama.

[jennyjenny]

i did
except my "friend" at the time had already moved on and plus she wasn't my friend that much at the time.

i guess there are some exceptions because i know that if my friend dated my ex then i would get kind of upset. i think it's just a matter of whether said friend has 1. gotten over it and 2. isn't mad at him

[YourSuperior]

It definitely depends on which one of my friends it is. But usually there's a rule between me and my guy friends that states "Never date one of your friends' ex girlfriends".

[idalisa]

not really. i cant imagine me with my friends ex :o

[MoHaWkGrl]

It depends on if my friend is completely over the ex or not. And it depends on why they broke up.

When I was 15 years old I did, since I'm older and smarter hell no. It's an unspoken rule. Just imagine how the other person will feel, if someone dated your ex you would be mad as hell!

[iGio]

Yup.My so called "friend" more like an acquaintance in 7th grade dated the girl I liked.While he dated her,I made her fall in love with me too :P.So yes I would definitely date my friends ex.I mean their just a friend.If its my best friend.Thats a diff story,I'd let them know first.

[me1issaaaa]

It depends on when they went out and when they broke up, and why. Like, if they "went out" in the eighth grade or something, that really doesn't count. But if they were together for two years or something, I would feel really weird about it. And, I guess it also depended on how close I was to my friend at the time when they were together.

[towntown2]

I'd never say never.
If I start liking my friend's ex, I'd definitely tell my friend first and ask her if she'd be okay with it. My friends know that they can be honest, so if she were to say no, then I wouldn't dare to go any further.

I also have to take into consideration the reason for their break-up.

[illriginal]

F.U.C.K. NO. Especially if they were once in a serious relationship... man f**k that.

[*steve330*]

Lol that would cause huge drama.

[popoberry]

hells no!! you think i`d want leftovers?!!?! ahahhaha

[illriginal]

Lol that would cause huge drama.

Highly Agreed x100000000000

[popoberry]

i wouldn`t cuhz i don`t want leftovers from a friend of mine .

[Rachel]

It depends on when they went out and when they broke up, and why. Like, if they "went out" in the eighth grade or something, that really doesn't count. But if they were together for two years or something, I would feel really weird about it. And, I guess it also depended on how close I was to my friend at the time when they were together.

Completely agree. And honestly, unless I saw the relationship having long term potential, I wouldn't risk a friend for it.

[Kontroll]

Yeah, if I liked her and he didn't care. Why not? Just because my friend dated her, doesn't discard her as a person and potential ass.

[temporary-insani...]

I would. But only if your friend says it doesn't bother them and if the reason they broke has a possibility of repeating, like cheating or being too possesive. In my case dating your friends ex happens alot with me and ppl I know because I go to a small high school and live in a small town. :P

[ubeonmymind]

well it depends. if my friends ex did sumthin really mean/stupid i wudnt date them. and yea it is their ex unless they still have feelings for them.

[*Spencer*]

Uhhh...NOOOOOO. That seems like a left over to me. Unless their ex's name was Lupe Fiasco or Allen Iverson, probably not.

what about michael jackson?

i think this is more of a girl thing because i know guys could really care less, but you get those guys to where if anyone touches the girl even after they're over, they'll try to act tough and try to beat the guy up. i guess it's a form of flattery if he thinks he's the best thing that happened to the girl...especially when they're not together.

[*Programmer*]

yeah...i dated this girl then her best friend dated me behind her back. but i was kind of lied to because the friend told me her best friend was ok with it.

[nerjalover2007]

Yeah I would.

But I'd make sure its at least 2 months after their relationship.

[*Spencer*]

Yeah I would.

But I'd make sure its at least 2 months after their relationship.

fuuuuuuuuuuck that. if someone was your true friend, they wouldn't care, over them or not. just because you dated him does not mean there is a label placed on his forehead saying he has once been claimed.

girls are confusing. just date the person you like and move on.

[SSJ Kenshin]

My best friend's ex was my longest and most serious relationship.

[MissFits]

Well.
It's a long story for me. I always said I would never do it.

I dated two guys my best gal pal was interested in.
Those two guys are best friends. I broke up with one of them to get with the one I am with now.

We have been together for almost 2 years and I have never been happier. I guess it depends on the people

[blacknailpolish]

I never hear anymore anyone claim they would never date their friend's ex anyway, so this is all sort of pointless. I do however enjoy playing along...

Yes, I would do it and have done it and will continue to do it as long as my friends continue to date and break up with awesome guys. What can I say, my friends have great taste in guys and short attention spans =P

[NgocQuyen]

lol i was actually thinking about this the other day. i'm not really sure if i would or not. if i was going to date their ex i would probably tell them about it before. if she feels uncomfortable with it then i'm just not going to do it. :xx

[arghrawr]

Depends.
If it was a mutual decision to break up and they're over him, and I reallllyyyy liked him, then sure. Keeping in mind I move pretty slow with my relationships. I hate it when one person is passed around all the time.

[Crash2]

I try not to, but if it happens, it happens

[hollywoodpink]

maybe. depends on the boy and the reason why they broke up. it would definitely never say i'd never date my friends ex. oh, and how long they've been broken up matters too. i wouldn't date him if they just broke up, even despite the reason why.