asking my girlfriend... Options

[nycaf12]

this is definitely pg13.
hmmm ive been dating this girl for a while. we got really close and really close and finally went to 4th base. but then everytime we have it we skip the 3rd base(oral). how should i ask my girlfriend politely that i want 3rd base? i dont want to force her to, which is why i am here.

thanks..

[EmoEyelinerx]

Theirs no really polite way to ask her. You just have to wait. She seems likes shes not comfertable at doing oral.

[Jules19]

Theirs no really polite way to ask her. You just have to wait. She seems likes shes not comfertable at doing oral.

hmm well i would have to agree here! maybe she is just weirded out or needs to get more comfortable with you (i have no idea how since you've gone all the way). i would tell her that you want her to do it, you know? make it a point that you find it sexy as hell and even tell her that you would do the saem for her! i never minded going down on my ex, he would even ask me sometimes, and i would oblige because i knew he would do the same for me! if she's worried about the taste, smell, or even you coming, tell her that you would let her know when you're about to and just come over someting else. i dunno, you just need to talk to her about it, but not like a sit down convo, more like when you're in the heat of things and say it in a sexy way. but hey some girls just will not do that, so you just have to ask!

[deplorable]

have to agree with sugar kisses...
just wait.maybe she'll ask you.

[megan_x3]

Wait until she's comfortable , or ask her if you really have the urge for her to go down there .

[RyanWasHere]

I have a solution, that I can garuntee right now will work, or your wasted time reading this back.

Ok here we go, the next time you get intimate tell her that you always wanted to try going down on a girl, I'm betting on the fact that you haven't since she hasn't, anyway fast forward, go down on her, do your thing, have sex and what not, the next time you get intimate ask her if she will go down on you, just so you can experience something new, she will not say no, chances are she will go down on you after you finish being down there with her...but if not, wait till the next intimate time, and ask, flat out...don't be shy about stuff like that, if your to shy to ask your partner about something sexual, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them.

And I completely disagree about waiting till she's comfortable, sex is an exciting, scary, fun, amazing thing, but it is nerve racking to do something you've never done before, you just have to bite the bullet and get over your fear of trying new sexual techniques, and if you tell it to her like that, she will understand, and probably agree.

Good luck, but just remember, if you go down on her and you can't stand the taste or the texture or something and don't want to do it again, don't expect to get oral from her again, only take what your willing to give back to the relationship.

[*steve330*]

Just talk to her bout it. Tell her you would like to, but you won't force her too. Explain why, and tell her you'd do anything in return. Some girls are shy about a guy's face being down there haha, but will return the favor even if you don't.

[sweetest-emotion]

And I completely disagree about waiting till she's comfortable, sex is an exciting, scary, fun, amazing thing, but it is nerve racking to do something you've never done before, you just have to bite the bullet and get over your fear of trying new sexual techniques, and if you tell it to her like that, she will understand, and probably agree.

BING! i totally agree!!! sure if she's uncomfortable then don't be an ass and force it on her, but hey sex is sex, and it's a B-E-A-UTIFUL thing! and when you try new stuff who knows you may find something feels so amazing and you'll be killing yourself for not trying! and hey if stuff goes "wrong" or a situation gets funky, just laugh it off and soon you'll just be going back at it. no worries, just have fun!

[pinayprincess]

Theirs no really polite way to ask her. You just have to wait. She seems likes shes not comfertable at doing oral.

word.... you just have to tell her [straight up].

[Rachel]

I have a solution, that I can garuntee right now will work, or your wasted time reading this back.

Ok here we go, the next time you get intimate tell her that you always wanted to try going down on a girl, I'm betting on the fact that you haven't since she hasn't, anyway fast forward, go down on her, do your thing, have sex and what not, the next time you get intimate ask her if she will go down on you, just so you can experience something new, she will not say no, chances are she will go down on you after you finish being down there with her...but if not, wait till the next intimate time, and ask, flat out...don't be shy about stuff like that, if your to shy to ask your partner about something sexual, you probably shouldn't be having sex with them.

And I completely disagree about waiting till she's comfortable, sex is an exciting, scary, fun, amazing thing, but it is nerve racking to do something you've never done before, you just have to bite the bullet and get over your fear of trying new sexual techniques, and if you tell it to her like that, she will understand, and probably agree.

Good luck, but just remember, if you go down on her and you can't stand the taste or the texture or something and don't want to do it again, don't expect to get oral from her again, only take what your willing to give back to the relationship.

Well I completely agree with the bolded part but everything else, meh, might not work on her. A lot of girls are more uncomfortable receiving oral sex than giving, infact most of friends prefer to give. I know that I personally would much rather give it any day. And before you say you just haven't had someone good at it, believe me I have and I still don't like it that much. I also definitely don't expect it in return, it's something I do to please. Your strategy is pretty good though and it's completely true about taking what your willing to give.

My boyfriend, and my ex, simply got me to do it by asking. Some girls don't mind the act, they just want you to ask for it. It puts us in a position of power and we know that it will be appreciated.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Jewelry my friend. Jewelry.

[NgocQuyen]

^lol BELLA! that's not right! haha ;)

i didn't know there was a 4th base. i thought it was a home run. oh well. anyways. that's completely off topic. haha :D umm..you should just surprise her. :) if she doesn't stop you then it's okay. haha ^^

[fathomlessdame]

um, i would wait until shes comfortable. if she wants to, she will most likely do it. idk really, if my bf askedme too, i might, i might not. idk if i'm ready to go that far yet... but thats me, maybe sometime ask her. if she says no, leave it. leave her alone and dont ask again. if she knows what you want (trust me shes not gonna forget)she will give it to you when shes ready most likely

[nycaf12]

thanks everyone.. :)

[spongeboblover]

well with my ex boyfriend
he didnt really ask me when he wanted it
he gave me hints
like he would be like just give him a kiss
not give him a kiss with tongue
and then he was like he wants to say hi to your tonsils
so try it that way
it worked for me lol

[fathomlessdame]

and for me, i wasnt gonna tell him i wanted to go to 3rd base with him cuz idk, it just seemed like that would be a bad thing to say. and when he practically invited me to do it, i gave him it. and now we're both happy and i dont expect anything in return, i dont want anything in return (at least now anyways...) but just the fact that i was giving him a great amount of pleasure made me happy.

[Cujiine]

Well if I was your girlfriend... actually you'd have a hard time getting to 2nd with me but anyways... Ask her. It's better than just forcing her head down and making her do it. That'd end everything right there.

[fathomlessdame]

^yeah, but you dont want to seem too forward either. but how long have you been goin out?

[nycaf12]

well guysss haha you guys have mistaken it. sure, i dont mind getting head, but i wanted to give more than recieve because she was kinda stressed out lately and i wanted to do something to make her feel better.
yes. ofcourse there are other sth better to do than that, but id just thought itd be nice to try something new. i talked to her about it during, and shed let me go down next time we have it, which i guess is good? ive been going out with her for almost 6 months.

[KayleighKins]

Talk about it. How can you be having sex if you aren't even talking about what you really want out of everything sexual?

Teach yourself to be more open with her, and her more open with you. It's healthy.

[cupcakex]

Wellll, if she's having sex with you, she obviously isn't uncomfortable being with you. My advice for you, is to go down on her first. Then, obviously, she'll pay you back.

Or, if she doesn't want head, &she wants sex, just tell her you want head, first. Or, as you've so politely titled it, "third base".

[KayleighKins]

Wellll, if she's having sex with you, she obviously isn't uncomfortable being with you. My advice for you, is to go down on her first. Then, obviously, she'll pay you back.

Or, if she doesn't want head, &she wants sex, just tell her you want head, first. Or, as you've so politely titled it, "third base".

I dunno. If my boyfriend tried that sneaky crap on me I'd probably knock him out.

"Hey I just went down on you! Pay me back! It's not like I enjoyed doing it!"
"WHAT? THEN WHY THE f**k DID YOU DO IT?!"
"CAUSE I WANT YOU TO--"

And he's on the floor. We don't want that to happen.

I'm telling you, talking it out is the healthiest thing anyone can do. Get used to talking about sex, and oral and masterbation and everything under the sun. Figure out what she really wants to do.

Maybe she's the kinkiest girl on the planet and she doesn't even know! Help her open up her mind, and figure out what she does and doesn't like. Practice talking dirty, giggle and ruin the mood by messing up. Who cares? It's something to have fun with, not something serious.

[iGio]

Theirs no really polite way to ask her. You just have to wait. She seems likes shes not comfertable at doing oral.

^Agreed.You should wait on it,she may not want to do it at all.But your best option is to be open with it.Dont rush into bringing it up.Just ask her when the time is right when your alone,if she is comfortable with the whole concept of it.

[sadolakced acid]

you don't play much baseball, do you.

the goal is to go home, not stop at third.

[*kryogenix*]

You can't just skip third base. If you do, the pitcher can just appeal and throw to third and you lose.

Of course, you shouldn't go home without getting the go ahead from the bench or your third base coach. Which it sounds like you completely missed. Go back to teeball, junior.