My Predicament, So confusing. Options

[Jayembe]

Here we go:

I currently have a boyfriend. We are more physically attracted to each other, to be honest i dont really know his personality which is so stupid to be in a relationship. I am willing to take the time to slowly get to know him better. Except i dont really like him that much right now. I met him at a party and he was just someone i could flirt with and i guess he took it as me liking him. He seems to be perfect for me though. He lives right across the street. Hes innocent, sincere, caring, sweet and the list goes on. Even my family likes him. The problem is ive been with him for about a week and well i want to break up with him already.

This is why..

There is another boy. Ive liked this boy since September. You could possibly say my heart seems to be slipping for him. The only problem is this boy lives far away. Two states away to be exact. He is coming to see me in the summer. Which im excited about. Although this boy's personality is so much like mine maybe thats why i adore him so much. He's hurt me before though. Which is what scares me. He almost left me for another girl. The girl rejected him so he came back to me. What im afriad of is if i leave my boyfriend and i go for him what if he leaves me for a different girl. Distance does its things i guess. I was heart broken ever since that though. Ive tryed to stop liking him so much. Ive done everything. I even stopped talking to him but, its like theres something that makes him keep coming back.


What i need help with is:

Should i leave my boyfriend and stick with this distant boy and wait for him til summer.
Should i stay with my boyfriend until around summer and see what happens.

I dont know anything else.
These few past weeks its like my brain is on a mental shutdown.
But i think the best thing would be to tell the boy who is distant everything. Im just scared of how he will react.

PLEASE HELP.

[tokyo-rose]

I think you should get to know your boyfriend better before telling everything to the boy two states away. Your boyfriend sounds like a good guy. It's hard to find guys who are genuinely sweet and everything else you said, and that your family also approves of. He might grow on you once you get to know him better. He sounds safer than someone who's already hurt you and is liable to hurt you again, plus the distance would make things tough. Wait another week at least and really try to get to know your boyfriend. But if you really feel that the other guy's more worth it, break up with your current boyfriend since it wouldn't be fair to lead him on.

[LostRenaissance]

dun break up with ur bf yet get to know him better but by the way u described him he has no idea wat is going on and has no idea how everything works. The other guy on the other hand probably does. i did say wait and see wat happens in the summer. that way u have 2 month to know ur bf and by then u'll know the other guy too.

but i think i can see where this is going already. unless ur bf rite now start learning how to keep u interested, u'll be bored in a month max.

[Jayembe]

So a couple days ago i decided to let the distant boy know. He didnt seem to mind he was like thats why we will be together in the summer. But i dont know if he likes me the way i like him.

He so confusing at times.

And yeah i am gonna give my boyfriend some more time.

[LostRenaissance]

look into the small details then u probably be able to figure him out. He'll have a exposed spot. that u can draw a conclusion from.

[EmoEyelinerx]

Well i dont think you should date the one guy you met at the party and wait until summer when that other guy comes to visit you; then you would be doing the same exact thing he did to you; dumping you for someone else.

[pinayprincess]

this happened to me before...only the boy who was distant was a subway ride away; he lived in jersey and i live in ny... well... i'd say to leave the dude... hes not worth your time, i did that same exact thing [well staying with the current boyfriend] and it did not work out at all... things are different in most situations, but i suggest to stop wasting your time and wait for another guy [if not the one you actually like].

[spongeboblover]

its seems like you have the good guy but want the bad guy
what i would do is
write the pros and cons of your boy friend
then write the pros and cons of the other guy
and who ever has more pros wins