lying, when a guy lies Options

[ash08lhc]

you know what i hate? when a guy lies to you. its the worst thing a guy can do. i was texting to my boyfriend and we were having this fight and i told him that i wanted to take a little break. at the same time i was talking to his best friend (whom i sorta have a thing for) and he was telling me that my boyfriend was crying and just giving me updates. after a while i was telling my boyfriend's best friend that i sorta had a thing for someone else. after a few hours of this my boyfriend finally texted me saying "i have a confession. it was really me on (his best friend)'s phone." i got so pissed and just stopped talking to him. he lied to me because i even asked "is this really (his best friend)? it doesn't really sound like you." so he lied. big time. that is not right. what should i do?

[Cujiine]

Well sorta.... umm well see even if I knew for 100% certain, that it was his friend, I wouldn't tell him (bf's best friend) that I had a "thing" for someone else. Anyways, he only lied to you to try and see what you really felt. I've done that before and it was just because one of my friends was mad at me and I used another name and was talking to her (on AIM) and she was yelling at me and then on the other one, she said that she was mad at me because the guy that she likes doesn't like her but likes me.... when she found out that just made everything worse so don't really get mad. He only lied to find out what was bugging you.

[cupcakex]

I think it's shady of him to do that, but it's wrong of you to tell his 'best friend', before you'd tell him.

I'd be hurt too, if I were him.

But, then again, I'd be pissed if I were you.

[Bonobo]

Well i think its kinda low for you tell his best friend that you had a thing for someone else, when you told your boyfriend that you just wanted to take a break. So you were lying too...

[*Uronacid*]

you know what i hate? when a guy lies to you. its the worst thing a guy can do. i was texting to my boyfriend and we were having this fight and i told him that i wanted to take a little break. at the same time i was talking to his best friend (whom i sorta have a thing for) and he was telling me that my boyfriend was crying and just giving me updates. after a while i was telling my boyfriend's best friend that i sorta had a thing for someone else. after a few hours of this my boyfriend finally texted me saying "i have a confession. it was really me on (his best friend)'s phone." i got so pissed and just stopped talking to him. he lied to me because i even asked "is this really (his best friend)? it doesn't really sound like you." so he lied. big time. that is not right. what should i do?

Don't you think that you were lying by omission? A.K.A. Not telling him you had a thing for someone other than him...

It sounds like you're angry because he beat you at your own game *sigh*...

[alysaphobia]

i think it's understandable you'd be angry at your bf for going behind your back like that... but then again, you told his best friend you liked another guy before you told your own boyfriend. and for that, i think he has every right to be just as mad... or even more mad at you, since you told him you wanted a break and not a break-up.

you should probably apologize and assure him you would have told him the truth sometime. and then tell him it wasn't right of him to pretend to be his best friend, too. if you're into another guy, chances are you aren't going to have much chance to save the relationship... it'd probably be best to apologize/have him apologize and then make a clean break

[Ington]

You know what I hate? I hate when hypocritical girls complain about their boyfriends.
I say stop being such a prick and apologize to him. You're at fault.

[minioligo]

you know what i hate? when a guy lies to you. its the worst thing a guy can do. i was texting to my boyfriend and we were having this fight and i told him that i wanted to take a little break. at the same time i was talking to his best friend (whom i sorta have a thing for) and he was telling me that my boyfriend was crying and just giving me updates. after a while i was telling my boyfriend's best friend that i sorta had a thing for someone else. after a few hours of this my boyfriend finally texted me saying "i have a confession. it was really me on (his best friend)'s phone." i got so pissed and just stopped talking to him. he lied to me because i even asked "is this really (his best friend)? it doesn't really sound like you." so he lied. big time. that is not right. what should i do?

Wow. Okay, I understand you're a little pissed about him lying to you, but...
1. You had a thing for his best friend while you were going out with your boyfriend? Wth.
2. You think best friends won't tell each other anyway?

I agree with Ariel, you're at fault. Hate to be harsh, but you're the one that has a 'thing' for another guy. What's the point of staying in a relationship if you like someone else?

[cupcakex]

..since you told him you wanted a break and not a break-up.

I totally agree with that.
When people say they think they need a 'break', it really makes me mad.

queen, either break things off, or don't.

[*suddenly she*]

What you should do is put yourself in your boyfriend's shoes and see what he'd be thinking.

[ifonlyyouknew]

Well, you shouldn't have a boyfriend if you like another guy..Thats one thing.
Also, he was probably wondering and suspecting and thats why he did it.
I think he did it because he cares. I think if he told you it was him he would think you'd be even more mad at him.

[pinayprincess]

well.. it was YOUR fault for confessing to your boyfriend's bestfriend that u like another dude.... you wouldnt think they wouldnt tell but heloooo THEY ARE BEST FRIENDS..... anywho, yeah boys who lie are assholes, but some of them like your boyfriend in this case i guess was either tryna help the fight out or just figure out who u like which you obviously confessed

[*Monochrome.*]

Don't you think that you were lying by omission? A.K.A. Not telling him you had a thing for someone other than him...

It sounds like you're angry because he beat you at your own game *sigh*...

PREACH.

BUSTED.
Dude you got busted at your own game.He should be the one mad at you,You f**king sat there and told his so called "best friend" you liked someone else.And then it got messy when he admitted that the person you were infact talking to was him.Sure when guys lie it sucks.If you liked someone else you shouldent have done the sleezy way out of it by asking for what i call "a cheaters insurance" or break,You should have jsut flat out broken up.But nooo.Then you get mad that he lied to you.OMFG ARE YOU KIDDING ME.This is so damn hypocritical.

[SimplicityGirl]

Like everyone else has said before me, sure he lied. Sure what he did wasn't that great, and sure you have every right to be pissed at him, but hey, don't make yourself the victim here, cuz you're not. What kind of girlfriend ARE you to your boyfriend if you like his BESTFRIEND. If you LIKED his bestfriend, then why did you go out with him in the first place. And I suggest you NOT go out with your guy's bestfriend even if the two of you DO break up, because you'd be breaking the unwritten rule of never have anything to do with your friend's ex...cuz you might cause some serious damage to their friendship.

You're at fault. Go apologize to him and have a talk. And about the whole break thing...don't drag it on. If you want to split, then split. Breaks are messy.

[pedophile]

You know what I hate? I hate it when girls like YOU bitch about their bf's doing something wrong, yet think it shouldn't matter if the gf does something wrong herself. Yeahhhh, sure, what he did was wrong, but what you did was also wrong. Maybe if you hadn't been dishonest about this, maybe this wouldn't have happened.

Quit bitching, & realize this wasn't all his fault.

[y0urelectrikk]

sounds like your the one lying. By telling him you wanted a break instead of telling him you had a thing for someone else.