Society at it's most primitive, Darwinism has reached it's peak. Options

[Luciadus]

Im facing a sort of personal, morale dilemna here. When exactly was it when I stopped caring? I'm with my brother and we get pulled over. He has multiple warrants and gets arrested on the spot. Didn't care at all. My mother comes down to the police station in tears, frantically searching for my brother. She's in hysterics and crying the entire time. I didn't care, I kept telling her to calm down. He recently got into a fight and got his jaw kicked in. I didn't care. And it's not only family, I've noticed that I've become less compassionate in a lot of things. People I see on the bus or walking down the street, the beggar who asks me for spare change for food and I tell him Im broke while holding a ten dollar bill in my pocket that I dont really need, old people who cant remember where they are or what they're doing and need help, I don't lift a finger or volunteer to help, I just try to mind my own buisness. What I'm getting at is that I don't like how I've become, how uncompassionate I am, how I've decided it's better not to get involved than to show a little good samaritanism. I want to be a big brother, a mentor, a good example. someone to look up to, but also not become an outcast because of this. What I mean is that I don't want to be shut off from the world for simply trying to help others, I'd like a life of my own as well. Chivalry died a long time ago, now Darwinists are enjoying their time of fortune, our civilization has slowly re-reared towards the kill-or-be-killed mindset and nobody seems to notice, or care. I'm sick of it. I want things to change.

[AngryBaby]

what the f**k are you talkin about?

[*Libertie*]

^He's talking about apathy. Seeing people in need and not caring. And to be honest, I think we can all feel like this at times. Me, I'm the complete opposite. I get guilted into helping people SO often, I'll give someone $20 without question even if it's all I've got on me if it means they have enough gas to get home. I let my brother take my car ALL the time (that's a biggie) when I shouldn't because I'm not even finished paying for it yet. I woke up at 7am the other day to take his girlfriend to school when it turned out she lived only a block away and I pulled into her neighborhood literally right behind a school bus. I can't help it, but I bleed myself dry trying to help people.

To the original poster, I'll bet you're like me, too, and maybe you're just feeling tapped out. If that's any indication of how all this is going to make me feel, perhaps I should stop letting people take advantage of my inability to say no. >.<

[angelrevelation]

Why exactly do you call them Darwinists? just curious.

I think people are just so used to all the bad things that happen that it doesn't seem that big of a deal to them. There is also the growing mistrust or presumption. Like, if you give a little they'll ask for more, or that people will use you.

[clarity]

^ I agree with you.

I'll admit I don't care that much either. I earn money, when I don't really need it... I could of donated it to charity... instead i spend it on something that I don't even really need. I sometimes think its greed and pride of being okay if you get what i mean.

[demolished]

I'm a generous people who help out without noticing. It's a natural thing. I still help people when they don’t need help. I don’t know why. i always help others. It’s my moral. Whenever i tried to prevent myself from naturally helping other people, it hurts to see myself suffering in front of someone. They don’t know it because there aren’t many people are like that.



It’s sad, really. I have friends who will lie not to help others. Not helping others is an excuse to me. Blah, i really dont know how to explain it.

[OhMyAnniee]

I feel bad when I see someone else crying or feeling sad.

The other day, my friend was crying at lunch and I felt bad so I went to talk to her about whatever happened to her. & people who were suppposedly her friends just walked passed her without saying or doing anything. I was thinking, "WOW. I THOUGHT YOU WERE HER FRIENDS."

It really shows who a person really is..

[Bonobo]

I am unhappy with the outcome of my personality. I too wish I could change, but its easier said than done. We don't want to get involved in hell but we know we need to, yet we still ignore it.

[HakunaMatata]

I don't understand how Darwinism fits at all with your situation, dear.

I know that you're feeling apathy, but at least you know the rest of the world isn't. Your mom cares very, very, very much. I'm sure one of these days, very randomly, you'll come across something that you will care about just as much as your mom cares about you and yoru brother. Something you'll be able to throw yourself into and really delve in it.

Right now, it seems that you are (and as am I) just trying to find that balance between taking care of yourself and taking care of others. Try throwing yourself to the other edge, maybe, see what you like better. Force yourself to be like Dani (okay, maybe not that extreme ), but while you can't force yourself to care, you can force yourself to try.

[krnxswat]

I don't understand how Darwinism fits at all with your situation, dear.

Darwnism. Survival of the fittest.

Get it? Make the connection?

(Note: I'm not really sure if what I said was entirely correct, so please feel free to correct me!)

[HakunaMatata]

Hold on, as in:

What I mean is that I don't want to be shut off from the world for simply trying to help others, I'd like a life of my own as well.

....means that by living his own life, he'll be surviving...as...the...fittest? Like, Darwinism is about outliving the other, not helping the other.

Ergh, brain fart. But I do understand now the connection with Darwinism.

[breakingdawn]

What I'm getting at is that I don't like how I've become, how uncompassionate I am, how I've decided it's better not to get involved than to show a little good samaritanism. I want to be a big brother, a mentor, a good example. someone to look up to, but also not become an outcast because of this. What I mean is that I don't want to be shut off from the world for simply trying to help others, I'd like a life of my own as well. Chivalry died a long time ago, now Darwinists are enjoying their time of fortune, our civilization has slowly re-reared towards the kill-or-be-killed mindset and nobody seems to notice, or care. I'm sick of it. I want things to change.

I don't get it. You want to help, but you don't really give a damn. You want to help, but you don't want to be considered and outcast. You want things to change, but you're not willing to make the first move because you're afraid of being looked at funny. Somebody's going to have to start, and if you're so concerned about it it might as well be you. Be bold. If it's something you really feel compassionate about you shouldn't be afraid to go against the grain.

[Kontroll]

I'm too happy of a person to ponder on a negative feeling for too long. When I do get a feeling like that, it just shuts off like I have ADD or something. I'm like, I feel really bad for people, *Bing* lets get some ice cream Jeremy. Will you buy it for me? HAHAHA.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Hm, this post and replies confuses me.

You compare Darwinism with wanting to help people but instead you lay back. I guess I don't 100% understand your situation because you say that you want to help people but not get involved. I don't think there's anyway around that.