New to Forums and could really use some guidance Options

[superman1091]

Hey guys, im brand new to the forums and i could really use some advice because ironically the only people i trust enough to give me advice on the problem, are in a sense, the problem itself. Sorry in advance if this blog gets kind of long but hear me out and i could really use some help.

So once upon a time i met this girl... haha sorry, but yea about 6 years ago i met this girl and didnt know her all that well cause i knew her through a friend of mine. We barely knew each other and i guess she developed a small crush for me. When she told me how she felt i was surprised because we hadn't really ever spoken much and i declined. However, because of that day we grew much closer and she was how you say, magnificent, and pretty quickly became one of the closest female friends i'd ever had if not the closest. She was pretty great in every aspect and seriously one of the coolest people i've ever met. Then years passed and as expected i grew deeper feelings for her, much deeper and i've been in love with her ever since. For the past three years she's known how i felt but any attempt i make has always been hit with quick rejection. Now 3 years ago i met my best friend who was also a great guy and began to grow closer with her. I think you guys can see where this is going. When he knew about how i felt he would switch back and forth from trying to give advice to telling me to get over it. Then recently, he had this idea that i got over her and told me he's had feelings for her for 7 months which pretty much calculates into my 3 years...and well.. they've gotten pretty close and she started to like him... and what drives me crazy is... i've waited on her for 3 years.. but i get the boot but he comes around and it seems with little effort, wins over her heart... and the part that drives me crazy is that they both confide in me and kept telling me that if i told either of them to go for it and go for each other that they would do it. how could they possibly tell me to basically give the go for this to happen. its like handing over the girl of my dreams to my best friend.. and i dont know how i could live with that, the stupid thing though is i did.. cause part of me just wanted to see her happy, since shes pretty much never been with a decent guy... and i dont know.. my best friend told me today it was pretty much official.. and i kinda lost it and told him to just stay the hell away from me.. which was pretty rash... but they both know how i felt.. and yea im just lost guys.. any advice on what to do...?

[iDecay]

Moved to Relationships

Hey, welcome. I'm Tina.

Well, this is basically common. I'd say you should definately talk over it with your bestfriend and get things settled with you two. I really don't know about the girl, though...

[superman1091]

Moved to Relationships

Hey, welcome. I'm Tina.

Well, this is basically common. I'd say you should definately talk over it with your bestfriend and get things settled with you two. I really don't know about the girl, though...

hey Tina, thanks for the advice and i've already talked to him about it before he asked her, i told him about how i felt and everything, he told me he'd take everything into consideration and well the rest is history now i suppose..

[femmefatale4160]

Hi, I'm Sarah, but everyone here calls me femme.

First off, I'm really sorry that you're in this uncomfortable situation. Does the girl know how you feel about her? Make sure she knows how deeply you care for her. Talk things over with your friend and settle the argument, although you have every right to be upset. I also think that both of your friends should know that you're upset about their relationship, but you might have to be the bigger person and try to be happy for them.

Hope everything works out for you.

[superman1091]

Hi, I'm Sarah, but everyone here calls me femme.

First off, I'm really sorry that you're in this uncomfortable situation. Does the girl know how you feel about her? Make sure she knows how deeply you care for her. Talk things over with your friend and settle the argument, although you have every right to be upset. I also think that both of your friends should know that you're upset about their relationship, but you might have to be the bigger person and try to be happy for them.

Hope everything works out for you.

hey femme, thanks for the advice and yea i have told the girl, and it was difficult because part of me thought it was kind of like stabbing my friend in the back, but i just had to, so they both know how i feel but yea, i dont see what else i can really do.. i really love her and care about her a lot, and i want to be the bigger man and let it go but how can i... i've waited so long to just have a chance to be with her and to have it all basically stripped from me, well it doesnt feel very good..

[fall3n_s0ul]

Welcome to createblog, My name is Bandy which is a really crappy name for a guy. I'm not that famous in CB but I drop by pretty often.

Sometimes, a close friend is better than a girlfriend. If you get close, don't get into a relationship. It'll screw it up real bad. But that's from personal experiences. Don't hestitate to let them know your feelings. Don't keep your emotions inside. Don't be weak, break your limit. Try to let the memories go, or they'll haunt you for the rest of your life. At least now, you finally let the girl know. Try to get rid of all the burdens you were carrying during these 6years.