people think we're going out.. Options

[ilauqh]

i'm good friends with this one guy, i guess closer than most of my guy friends. everyone keeps asking us if we're in a relationship and it's really awkward when people ask both of us, together. at least when people ask me when i'm not with him, i can just say no and i don't have to worry about what his reaction is.. like him saying omgg ew no or anything. he usually isn't like so surprised people are asking though. i liked him a couple of months back and i kind of do still. i'd go out with him if he asked me but he seems like he likes me when he's with me but never really initiates going places or hanging out with me too often. he sometimes says, yeah we totally should hang out more.. but doesn't do anything about it. should i try to get us to hang out more or just let him do what he wants?

[y0urelectrikk]

I think you should try to hang out with him and see where it goes from there.
you'll never know if you dont try.

[priyas]

^^i agree.

[mocassinsx29]

god your font is small. you know how hard that was too read? REALLY hard.

just ASK him what the deal is. better that than wonder forever.

[SimplicityGirl]

Well me and my bf used to be like that until I had a talk with him...and asked him out =] Just talk to him about it ^^

[Señorita Semi-Au...]

Just be friends, don't push anything. If it's meant to be it will happen. Don't worry about what people think and if he ever does have a weird reaction take it as his insecurity, because that's probably what it is.

[*Uronacid*]

Just be friends, don't push anything. If it's meant to be it will happen. Don't worry about what people think and if he ever does have a weird reaction take it as his insecurity, because that's probably what it is.

Right, don't push anything and don't worry about what people think. If he says he wants to hang out, call him up!

[Kounouri]

me and my best friend are sorta like that. there's rumours going around right now that we went on a date last night. (we went to see a movie with a few friends. nothing romantic.) even my parents think we're dating, and his are convinced we're going to get married someday. haha.

but it's all a matter of perspective. what does his friendship mean to you? are you friends with him just because you like him, or does he as a person matter more than your relationship with him? if you're just hanging out because of the sexual tension i can obviously see why you might not have the chemistry others think you do. but if you honestly want to be his friend before all else, then just stay that way i guess, and let whatever happens, happen.

[multifaceted]

Of course you try to hang out. But if you really don't like him the way you did before, don't bother trying or he'll think you were using him.

[misanthropist]

The only right solution to this problem is that you go out on a "date" to a movies and then unzip his pants and go crazy. Duh.

[Kontroll]

Well, if he's not doing anything about it then there are two conclusions...

1. He's too shy and needs to grow a pair. Like me.

2. He's not interested in dating you.

Listen, you're going to ruin everything if you think about it too much. Don't even tell me that you're thinking about marriage already?

That would be classic.

[ilauqh]

Hah thanks for the advice guys.. And no, I'm not thinking about marrying him. I couldn't see us getting married anyways. I rather stay his friend I guess instead of making things more complicated. If he wants to start something, he can. I'll just stick to being his friend, which is probably a thousand times better than a relationship anyway.