get over her/him, how did u do it? Options

[chasingvictory]

well i went through some rough times with someone.. and right now I don't know if we are still 'together' or what not. So right now I'm just giving her space to cool off and stuff. But before, I used to try to call her after everytime we enter some disputes so we could fix it (or talk it out) but I just end up making the problem worst. Well I've learned my lesson after a number of failures of doing so and I'm not doing that again. Okay here is my question, I don't want to call her because I want to show her that I'm strong [emotionally] and that I trust her, but I keep thinking about her and I wrestle with myself trying to call her. So what do you to keep your mind of someone that you really love and appreciate? I tried keeping myself busy and I tried chillin with my other friends but when night time comes around, I being to think about her again.. and so many thought run through my mind. thanks u all

[*Uronacid*]

well i went through some rough times with someone.. and right now I don't know if we are still 'together' or what not. So right now I'm just giving her space to cool off and stuff. But before, I used to try to call her after everytime we enter some disputes so we could fix it (or talk it out) but I just end up making the problem worst. Well I've learned my lesson after a number of failures of doing so and I'm not doing that again. Okay here is my question, I don't want to call her because I want to show her that I'm strong [emotionally] and that I trust her, but I keep thinking about her and I wrestle with myself trying to call her. So what do you to keep your mind of someone that you really love and appreciate? I tried keeping myself busy and I tried chillin with my other friends but when night time comes around, I being to think about her again.. and so many thought run through my mind. thanks u all

I struggle with this... Dude, it's a real hit-or-miss here. Sometimes girls want you to call, and sometimes they don't. I would say, "don't call in some cases, and in others don't." There are to many complex situations to give you a straight answer for this.

I will say this though:

• Don't do anything out of spite.
• Be honest no matter how difficult it is.
• Be sincere when you apologize (if you need to).

*I hope Holly comes in here, because I'm so going to rob her tips... hehe*

[pkbabe]

Been through this before but well it didn't have a happy ending because unlike you I never stopped calling until it was too late.

But anyways this is how I finally stopped calling. If its a cell phone,delete the number(s) off of it & if thats not enough have your phone off. Not the whole day of course. Just from probably 7pm-morning(or whenever you wake up). During the day you should have it on silent & if you missed calls from others then call them back whatever.

Its so funny cuz when I started doing that, I would wake up,turn on my cell & notice I had voicemails from the middle of the night of just someone hanging up. LOL

So I hope this helps & it has its perks doing that:

1. You don't go over your minutes/txt
2. You don't rely on your cell as much/don't think about it

So yes..even though I'm single I'm debt free so whatever hppens at least you have no debt

[chasingvictory]

haha yea.... thanks..i just hope everything is well between us... but that whole thing about deleting her phone number doesn't really work because I memorized her number. haha... Well i'm just going to trust her that she isn't doing anything like cheating on me (plus she isn't like that), i just cant stop thinking about her.