Girls,I need advice, GIrls always know what to do,so help? Options

[sukixinaxmou]

Erik and I have been dating for 21 days.That is all.And he and I think we really love eachother.I'm not quite sure about my feelings for him,and I don't know if he is just trying to get in my pants.But,most of the time,he really does seem very respectful,and he does make it seem like he really does love me.I'm 13,and he's 15.And I am always wondering if I really love him like I say I do.So I don't know what to do.And,on top of that,he is a fifteen year old guy,and God only knows what the plans in his head are.But last night,he mentioned to me he wnted to marry me,but we are too young.But he then said after that that we are not too young to get engaged.I have had people tell me that I need to get my prioritys straight,and focus more on school.But I really don't know what to do.I need to clear my head.

[JustAnotherTeena...]

You're both really young. And you've only been together 21 days? You guys probably don't even know each other too well. While it seems like you're in love now, who knows what could happen? People change, & aren't always who they seem to be. You should definately wait a long while before agreeing to be engaged to the guy.

[synthase]

you guys have only been together for 21 days
its that stage where your "madly in love" with one another
even if it is that "love at first sight" I say you wait a little longer..
it doesnt hurt to

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

i think that you should wait a little because there's all the time in the world to get engaged. Yeah, at the time he might seem like a respectful guy, but at the same time, you don't really know him yet. If you're not sure about your feelings for him, then it's best you wait until you are sure. Doubts are usually instincts. IDK though, its really up to what you think. Only you know what's goin on in your relationship.

[iDecay]

I know you put girls on there, but really, there's definately going to be guys replying to this..

Moved to relationships.

[SimplicityGirl]

3 weeks and you guys are deciding forever? I've been dating my boyfried for 3 MONTHS, and we've only jokingly mention that maybe, just maybe we'll make it and get married. Engaged at 13? I'm 18 and I wouldn't think about getting engaged. Girl, give it some time...if you guys love each other that much, I'm sure a couple of years won't change that.

[multifaceted]

Honestly both of you should really stop putting your heads in the clouds and come back down to reality.

Married? Are you crazy? You must be kidding right?

If you guys want to do a mature thing like that, you need to grow up, go to school and learn something, get a job, earn money, and THEN think about getting married.

[dangerROSE]

Dude, you are too young. Seriously, to tell you the truth, when I was sixteen years old, I already moved in with my boyfriend & things will not always seem "oh so wonderful.." My advise, wait a while. Your Love might end up as "puppy love." Because there are so many times I thought that I was "IN LOVE" but trust me, when you meet other guys out there .. you'll find out that there's better one's out there. That's what I did & now I've been with my boyfriend for more than 3 years now. So, wait a while.

[Kontroll]

YOU'RE DUMB!!!!! YOU DON"T KNOW WHAT ROMANTIC LOVE IS. Newbs.

and he doesn't love you. He might like you. But that's it. He's fifteen....do you really think that he wants to be engaged? No. He might think so now, but like a couple weeks down the road, he's gonna think otherwise. You're both wayyyyy toooo youngg.

[malimars]

YOU'RE DUMB!!!!! YOU DON"T KNOW WHAT ROMANTIC LOVE IS. Newbs.

and he doesn't love you. He might like you. But that's it. He's fifteen....do you really think that he wants to be engaged? No. He might think so now, but like a couple weeks down the road, he's gonna think otherwise. You're both wayyyyy toooo youngg.

Totally agree,

I read this and I was like " WTF MATE" lol... you two are not in love im sorry but its a " strong like you have for eachother" not even close to love whether you agree or not...and the "engaged" situation... how do I said it without seeming mean ohh yes PATHETIC...Of course u 2 are all lovey dovey but wait till about 3 months and see how lovey dovey you too are ... stuff changes and FAST!...The words "engaged" coming from a 13 year old is very weird but totally expected as well because your just learning new things and probably actually believe he is the one for you but believe me THERES PLENTY MORE TO COME....Just tell him no your not ready to make that kinda comitment your too young and happy with what you two got now....anyways , In about a year from now come back and read what you have writen and I bet you'll laugh your a..s..s off and be like "omg as if I was even thinking that " lol

[*Uronacid*]

Whoa, is this the same guy who was telling you he would kill himself if you broke up with him?!

If it's him:

Whoa, this kid is way unstable and immature, and he was trying to control you with threats. I don't know, but do you really want that in a husband. A man that threatens you when things go wrong instead of talking it out and making a compromise. You have to understand, marriage is a life time commitment, and being engaged is like promising to marry someone:

• Are you ready to make that kind of commitment?!
• You have only known this guy for 20+ days... do you really think you know him well enough to make those kind of promises?
• Do you think he's trying to get you to make these promises so he can control you with them? In much the same way he kept you from breaking up with him by telling you he would kill himself.

I'm not trying to tell you that you do not care about him. I'm sure you do, but I am telling you to watch out. You barely know this guy at all, and making a promise like this one at this point would be a foolish, constricting mistake.

Also, do you really know what you want in a husband yet? At 13, you have just entered into the world of relationships. The world of relationships is almost like shopping. I think you should "shop around" before giving marriage a thought. This doesn't mean you have to date everyone you may see a possible relationship with either. Just get to know people, and find out what qualities you are looking for in a husband before making such a serious decision. That could take years, and those people you were talking about are also right. You should be focusing on high-school. Your high-school education is your future. You should take one thing at a time. You have your whole life ahead of you. Don't rush it.

[Broken Wonderwal...]

21 days? Pardon me, I had to laugh at that.

You know nothing about love at 21 days.

agreed.

You should definitely wait.

[mzislandpinay]

you two are definitly too young. & if you are confsued about it.. then ur definitly not ready..

don`t rush things.. your still young. jhus live life. think about freinds a& skewl.

don`t rush yourself into a relationship.

[tokyo-rose]

I highly doubt that what you're feeling right now is true love. You're still at that stage where everything's new and overwhelming and you have this image of how he's "the one." Trust me, after a few more weeks it'll wear off and you'll realize that you were crazy for saying yes to getting engaged. Definitely wait it out and see how long you last. Even if you last a year or more, you'll still be only or 14 and that's far too young to be thinking about marriage.

[Kontroll]

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Haha. I love how there's not at least one sympathetic person. HAHA.

[*mipadi*]

This must be some kind of joke.

[TheReasonWhy]

seriously. 21 days? it's not Romeo & Juliet. what's the rush?

[allboutme2987]

thats sorta like me and my ex...
we started talking about how we wanted to get married and have kiddos together...

10 days later, we broke up
-___-

[gita]

don't be so quick to rush into that kind of a relationship. he's a teenage guy, and you have to think about hormones. he might not really love you that way. three weeks isn't long enough to tell if you're in love with someone, anyways. i'm 14, and my boyfriend is almost 17, and i have to be careful not to rush into anything. he's not pushing me, and you have to make sure your boyfriend isn't, either. if he is pressuring you to do anything, just say no - you're too young to turn your life upside down for a guy that you might not be with together. i'm sort of in the same boat, although i'm not rushing into anything. just be careful - your mind, body, soul, and heart are at stake.

[Joss-eh-lime]

yeah, wait.
love is patient

[*mishyerr*]

Erik and I have been dating for 21 days.That is all.And he and I think we really love eachother.I'm not quite sure about my feelings for him,and I don't know if he is just trying to get in my pants.But,most of the time,he really does seem very respectful,and he does make it seem like he really does love me.I'm 13,and he's 15.And I am always wondering if I really love him like I say I do.So I don't know what to do.And,on top of that,he is a fifteen year old guy,and God only knows what the plans in his head are.But last night,he mentioned to me he wnted to marry me,but we are too young.But he then said after that that we are not too young to get engaged.I have had people tell me that I need to get my prioritys straight,and focus more on school.But I really don't know what to do.I need to clear my head.

I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year. We're not engaged. You don't get engaged unless you know you want to marry them. And judging from the fact that you're 13, there's a, like, .0000001% of you guys getting married. Sorry :/

My friend, who is 18, dated her boyfriend for 3 years. They got engaged. He even got her a huge rock. They broke up. The end.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

i think you need a reality check. instead of focusing about falling in love in just 21 days how about focusing on your school work? your only 13, focus on your GRADES.

[AllyWally00]

Don't be in a rush to get enaged my love. Your only 13 and he is only 15. And you've only been dating for 21 days. Yeah you might like him or love him alot but your still got your whole teen years ahead of you. Don't be in a rush to jump into something you may end up regreting. I am 19 years old and their was this guy I dated in high school. His name was Robert. We where together for about 2 years and a half and well we wouldn't have been in more love with each other. We weren't your typical high school relationship. Our connect was so much deeper then about sex. Which nowadays is the typical high school relationship is all about sex. Their is a rule most woman follow by it's called the 3 month rule. Don't do anything sexual and don't rush anything to fast, don't tell a guy you love him before then and you'll save yourself from alot of pain in the end. A guy may promise you the world and that he will love you forever. But just remember that promise isn't always true. Now til this day me and robert aren't together but I know deep down in each others hearts we'll always truly honestly love each other but we can't be together. We've both changed and we've both grown apart. We tried to hold onto something that wasn't their anymore and fell apart on it's own. Just remember don't do something you'll end up regreting. You may say that now that you wont. But honestly think about it this way. If you where really inlove with him you wouldn't have to go around asking other people for advice or their thoughts on the subject, if you really wanted to get engaged you wouldn't lisen to anyones elses words and you would let it happen on it's own and support yourself threw everything. If you honestly truly love someone and they will love you. They will honestly wait for you for as long as it takes. Your just at the begingings of a new relationship, you two truly don't know each other yet. My ex-boyfriend chris when i was 14 said the same words. And now adays I don't even really remember much about him.

[xoForbidden_Love...]

i say you wait
for the sake of your relationship not breaking

[lemonpie]

you know what i think 1. you both are too young. & 2. 21 days isn't enough to know you really luv someone. please just think before you act.

[magicfann]

i bet you suck at life

[Stefanny]

Don't let a guy take control of your life right now.
21 days is NOT good enough for marriage. Wait until you've finished high school to get married, or at least wait until high school for engagement.

[amyx312]

21 DAYS? & you guys are in love. i don't think so. i don't think you both know if you guys really love each other. & you guys are really young. just have fun you know. just don't take your relationship in a whole level like getting married & everything. i remember when i was 13 i thought i loved this guy but it turned out i didn't & it also turned out that he was trying to get in my pants. just think about it.

[voguelove]

..youre 13, and youve only been together for 3 weeks.
obviously, it should be no.


are you really ready to assume all responsibilities of a wife? i mean, you're only 13 for gods sakes. some people date for YEARS before the word marriage is even brought up. and why are you already thinking about sex? do you really believe that you can carry a child in your mini adult body and actually care for it?





think about what youre trying to ask us, here. because, it's ridiculous.

[-sincerely]

you're in middle school. no.

[Sammiebanks]

it's too early hun. my little sister is in the same boat as you, she 'LOVES' this guy and theyve been together for 7 months, she's 14 and thinks he's her life forever from now on, but let me tell you, your wrong.


i may not be the right person to be dictating to you as i got engaged at 17, but this was to someone who i had been with for nearly 4 years, only then did we think about it. If this is a way of you two getting together just to have se.x which is what your post sounds like, dont do it! it isnt as good as it's made out to be, im being frank with you, but the younger you are, the more it hurts! my sister lost her verginity at 14 and when she went to the doctors they likened it to hitting a peach with a brick! your insides just arent ready for it and thats why theres an age limit, dont do anything silly as it really isnt worth it!

you may feel like he's perfect now, but youre only 13, there are so many more males out there, and you need to maybe experiment a bit before settling down, especially at the age of 13 :D

if your still together in 3 years, maybe think about it again, but certainly not at the moment

Sammie x

[cancholac]

Only 21 days you should deffinatley wait longer plus your too young to think about marrage
especially after 21 days

[*Uronacid*]

I don't even know why you guys waste your time in this topic... Blaire obviously doesn't care about what we think because she hasn't replied.

[shortnsweet88]

At that age relationships rarely work...they do work...but rarely. My suggestion is that if yall get engaged its going to be a very, very bad move. You have to understand that you are very young and its a big decision that some people have trouble making at much older ages even. Plus, the fact that yall think you are in love...after dating for 21 days, its just not going to cut it. I was in love with my boyfriend for five years, people split though, and you dont want to do that in the middle of an engagement. Be careful, take it slow.

[xylophonist]

You're waaayy too young. And I can guarentee that you guys aren't in love. Getting engaged is for more serious relationships that have been going strong for months or years. 21 days isn't a long time at all.

Plus, i doubt your parents would allow you to get married anytime soon.

Good luck on staying together though.

[mszladyp]

Woah.. engagement are for people who wants to get married. You're like 13 only plus you've only met the guy for 21 days. WTF!? (no offence)

[y0urelectrikk]

i bet you suck at life

......lol

ah 13.. so you're like in middle school?
I serioulsy thought this was a joke at first.

[Kontroll]

i think you need a reality check. instead of focusing about falling in love in just 21 days how about focusing on your school work? your only 13, focus on your GRADES.

Tolly. Love knows no age, but in this day and age, people are less mature at younger ages. School is more important than a boyfriend right now. I'm gonna love when you're like 20 and see how much of an idiot you are.

[*Monochrome.*]

Honey. i really think you shouldent worry about all of this just like right now.
after all you are only 13.

[pinacoolada]

Well there are two problems here...XD
1. You're 13, and you're probably just infatuated because...
2. You guys have been dating for 21 days.
Take it slow, and if you guys last a few years, then maybe you should. Just enjoy what it is for now and don't worry about the future =]

[hmm_dragon]

thats the stuff that makes teens lose there virginity at such a young age because the girls believe them

[Aerjae]

You should think about it first. I mean, come on, it's the rest of your life.

[lanbexx]

why is it that the guy's always have the shortest, the most realistic, and the most meaningful answers

[*Uronacid*]

Well, I have already been serious in this post... so...

STOP BEING SUCH A f**king IDIOT AND DUMP THIS MANIPULATIVE MORON!!!

[Lacey;Elizabeth]

Erik and I have been dating for 21 days.That is all.And he and I think we really love eachother.I'm not quite sure about my feelings for him,and I don't know if he is just trying to get in my pants.But,most of the time,he really does seem very respectful,and he does make it seem like he really does love me.I'm 13,and he's 15.And I am always wondering if I really love him like I say I do.So I don't know what to do.And,on top of that,he is a fifteen year old guy,and God only knows what the plans in his head are.But last night,he mentioned to me he wnted to marry me,but we are too young.But he then said after that that we are not too young to get engaged.I have had people tell me that I need to get my prioritys straight,and focus more on school.But I really don't know what to do.I need to clear my head.

If this is a serious question thats crazy. Im gonna be 18, have a kid on the way, and Ive been with my boyfriend for over two years and Im not gettin engaged cuz i know im too young. Dont ruin your life. Your 13 years old you got plenty of years to go before you find the one your gonna marry. Hey maybe you guys will stay together till your actually old enough to make the right decisions but odds are your not gonna! Dont get engaged until you have your life on track. Finish school, go get a degree or something, then get a house, then get engaged!

[*Uronacid*]

AS SERIOUS AS YOU ARE ALL BEING... THIS STUPID GIRL HASN'T RETURNED TO THIS POST IN AGES!!!! DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME THINKING ABOUT SOMETHING NO-ONE IS GOING TO READ...

[*Frénésie*]

I didn't read the whole text. After seeing:

Erik and I have been dating for 21 days.

And

I'm 13,and he's 15.

My answer is HELL NO.
I'm sure you know why. You're not stupid.

[deletethisplease]

you guys are a little young, not that there's anything wrong with that, but, how many people have you dated? Rushing into something such as engagement and marriage along is mere stupidity unless your 100% sure that that person is everything you need and want. so the answer is don't get engaged, because chances are you don't want that either.

[me1issaaaa]

That just wasted a good minute or two of my life.
This deserves a slap in the face. Actually, about 10 slaps. And then some.

[deletethisplease]

That just wasted a good minute or two of my life.
This deserves a slap in the face. Actually, about 10 slaps. And then some.

agreed, try 25

[haha_you_have_a_...]

Do not even think about marrying him.
You are only thirteen.
And he is only fifteen.
You should wait a while.
Seeing as you are so young and you still have your whole life ahead of you.
Keep in mind, that whatever you choose, if you choose to get engaged him, it has to go through your parents as well.
And you should also remember that if you DO get enganged to him, and you eventually DO end up marrying him which cant be until you turn eighteen... You will be with him for however long it will last which wont be very long because marriages like that usually go haywire.

And if you end up regretting it, it will be with you for the rest of your life.

[NgocQuyen]

Wow, are you serious? 21 days? lol. i'm sorry, but i think it is much too soon for you two. you two are still way too young to be getting engaged or anything like that. so after 21 days you think you love him? >< let me tell you something, my friend was in your same exact position and she thought she was in love too. she wasn't. he ended up breaking her heart into PIECES. PIECES I TELL YOU! lol. yeah. it's much too soon my dear. why are you thinking about marriage and commitment when you're only 13? you're still young. trust. when you wait it out and you guys are still together when you're older, then that means you two were really meant for eachother. don't you think? wouldn't it be better to get engaged and what not then? :)

[cupcakex]

Yeah, my boyfriend &I have been together for almost a year, [-5 days] &we don't even talk about being married.
o.o

[niciDOOM]

21 days..?
13 & 15?
engaged?
uh i think youll need to grow up alittle
before committing yourself to anyone sweetie.