Jealously, How to control it. |
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 Jan 20 2007, 08:01 AM
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I'll be the first to admit that I have a jealously problem. I get jealous of my boyfriends past crushes, and girls friends, and now i am even jealous of his gay friend (which isn't as ridiculous as it sounds). I'm not alone in this because he is just as jealous. But i hate when i am jealous because there is no reason to be. Anyone have an tips on how to get over this or control it? It really puts a strain on our relationship.
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Jan 20 2007, 08:18 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Er..it's a bad combo if both of you are the jealous type o.O How to control it...well it's normal if you get jealous of other girls hanging around your bf, and his past crushes...but really...his gay friend? o.O How I deal with it is ... whenever I'm jealous (which is rare.) I just remember that my boyfriend is with me right NOW and not with anybody else. He CHOSE to be with me and not with any of the other girls. So therefore I'm "better" than them...and if I'm "better" than them, why am I jealous of them? =P
Try that and see if it works? |
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Jan 20 2007, 09:06 PM
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Yeah I know being jealous of his gay friend is a bit weird and extreme, but they work on websites together, and his gay friend pays for all of them. That was fine, no problem. His gay friend started working where my boyfriend does- thats cool. But he bought he a 300 dollar ipod for Christmas....now that is a bit weird. They don't even hang out, they just talk on the internet and see each other at work some times, so they arent too close, but yet he drops 300 dollars, and 60 bucks a month for him.
To me it is kinda kind of weird. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 21 2007, 01:37 AM
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You need to gain confidence in yourself.You need to believe that you are good enough for him and that is why he choose you as his girlfriend.
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Jan 21 2007, 04:15 AM
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 ~+Blood +Seeker+~ Group: Member Posts: 70 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,286 |
QUOTE(doc'sgirl @ Jan 20 2007, 9:01 AM)  I'll be the first to admit that I have a jealously problem. I get jealous of my boyfriends past crushes, and girls friends, and now i am even jealous of his gay friend (which isn't as ridiculous as it sounds). I'm not alone in this because he is just as jealous. But i hate when i am jealous because there is no reason to be. Anyone have an tips on how to get over this or control it? It really puts a strain on our relationship. i have the same problem ... i need to work on it to and its so hard for it not to get to you |
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Jan 21 2007, 05:13 AM
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1TRIPZ FUCC UP Group: Member Posts: 311 Joined: Nov 2006 Member No: 482,242 |
Maybe you shouldn't even have a boyfriend. This is one reason I refuse to commit myself to anyone. rofl I have a hard time convincing myself I can handle the responsibility of a job..
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Jan 21 2007, 05:24 AM
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QUOTE(doc'sgirl @ Jan 20 2007, 8:01 AM) I'll be the first to admit that I have a jealously problem. I get jealous of my boyfriends past crushes, and girls friends, and now i am even jealous of his gay friend (which isn't as ridiculous as it sounds). I'm not alone in this because he is just as jealous. But i hate when i am jealous because there is no reason to be. Anyone have an tips on how to get over this or control it? It really puts a strain on our relationship. The same thing going on for me, I guess you should try and talk to him and basically change the subject on things, thats what I usually do, I keep my jealously inside instead of showing it and then I talk to my boyfriend and I don't think about it much anymore. 
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| *Sephora.* |
Jan 21 2007, 01:40 PM
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I don't really know, I don't control it, because I can't. I'm a very jealous person, so... I can't really control it.
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| *My Cinderella.* |
Jan 21 2007, 03:40 PM
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I remember there was an episode from Unfabulous on how to control jealousy. Let me see if I can remember what Gina said:
1. You need to except the fact that you're a jealous person. (But you've stated that already so next one.) 2. Think of the positives, name some good qualities about yourself that you KNOW people love about you. 3. Believe in yourself. |
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Jan 23 2007, 09:34 PM
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Genin Group: Member Posts: 196 Joined: Oct 2006 Member No: 471,009 |
Well, when you get jealous, try to change whatever it is on your mind. Like think about something else. The whole, knowing that he picked you over other girls, thing works, but it never worked for me. I was constantly jealous and suspicious, and I had the right to since he was constantly doing stuff. But we broke up since my "jealousy" was too much for him to handle. So whatever you do, try to control it right away or you might end up like my ex and me.
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Jan 25 2007, 01:18 AM
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 Hello There. Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 |
QUOTE(showme @ Jan 21 2007, 2:13 AM) Maybe you shouldn't even have a boyfriend. This is one reason I refuse to commit myself to anyone. rofl I have a hard time convincing myself I can handle the responsibility of a job.. same! |
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Jan 26 2007, 10:18 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 35 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 466,344 |
QUOTE(showme @ Jan 21 2007, 5:13 AM) Maybe you shouldn't even have a boyfriend. Thats just a bit harsh. |
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Jan 26 2007, 10:38 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
To overcome jealousy.
Take those blowup punching person things. Put a picture of whoever you're jealous of. Then punch, kick, slap, etc. till your heart's content. You'll get a workout at the same time. 
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Jan 27 2007, 03:22 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(doc'sgirl @ Jan 20 2007, 8:01 AM) I'll be the first to admit that I have a jealously problem. I get jealous of my boyfriends past crushes, and girls friends, and now i am even jealous of his gay friend (which isn't as ridiculous as it sounds). I'm not alone in this because he is just as jealous. But i hate when i am jealous because there is no reason to be. Anyone have an tips on how to get over this or control it? It really puts a strain on our relationship. Sorry for being blunt, but you're an attention whore. You want his attention. I just know this cause I'm the same way. I get jealous of some of my female friends who already have boyfriends and I don't even like them. It's just you want attention from that person at that time. Simple. Complete. Done. Fin. End. Hope that clears it up. Just turn your head when ever you get jealous. Think of something. In time it will disappear. |
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