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 Jan 15 2007, 12:25 AM
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 DING DONG.  Group: Member Posts: 162 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,900  |
okay. im like madly in love with this girl. and YES im a girl
 . what EVER...anyways. i cant seem to like kiss her. i want to but i just cant. is it because like my heart is telling me its wrong or somthing?? no no  . i dont know, like i just cant seem to have the guts to move just a liiiiiiiitle closer. do you think its just because im nervous and ive never like kissed a girl  ??
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Jan 15 2007, 12:55 AM
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First off, you've told us nothing about the situation. Is she into girls, as well? Is she even into you? Are you guys good friends? Or what?
If you know she's into girls, as well, I'd say just drop a few hints, grab some body oil, and shove your tongue down her throat. No, just kidding. Honestly, just try talking (communication is key) to her to see how she likes kisses, or whatever, and then make the move. You don't want to rush it, if you guys are good friends, as that can ruin any friendship. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 15 2007, 12:55 AM
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Maybe you just aren't a bisexual.
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Jan 15 2007, 12:56 AM
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QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jan 14 2007, 9:55 PM)  Maybe you just aren't a bisexual. She'll only know by experimenting. |
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Jan 15 2007, 01:01 AM
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DING DONG. Group: Member Posts: 162 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,900 |
okay... yeah. i didnt say any details
.1. we are going out, have been for about three months. 2. okay duhh shes into me of we are going out. okay we go that part now. 3. uhh. anything else you would like to know  ?
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Jan 15 2007, 01:05 AM
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 my michelle. Group: Member Posts: 792 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 267,094 |
okay, so you are together.
you're probably just a bit nervous but hey, everyone has their nervous moments especially when it comes to kissing or something. if you're hesistating then you're not ready. wait til you feel that it's right. |
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Jan 15 2007, 01:10 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 111,264 |
Yeah, waiting is probably the best advice that anyone could give you. No one can tell you when it's right to kiss or not kiss your girlfriend. Relationships aren't all about sex and physical activity, anyway.
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 15 2007, 01:24 AM
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Um.... sounds like you just haven't kissed a girl before, and you're nervous.
Don't sweat it. |
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Jan 15 2007, 04:55 AM
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 chinky Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,566 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,437 |
Haha, follow your heart.
I've never kissed a boy or a girl before either.  You'll know when you're ready. |
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Jan 15 2007, 10:29 AM
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Follow your heart
I hate that statement. I think you still need to have time to get comfortable with her before you decide to kiss her, if you rush it you may end up regretting it more.
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| *a painefull euphoria* |
Jan 15 2007, 12:24 PM
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QUOTE(Imlearning @ Jan 15 2007, 6:01 AM) okay... yeah. i didnt say any details .1. we are going out, have been for about three months. 2. okay duhh shes into me of we are going out. okay we go that part now. 3. uhh. anything else you would like to know ?as a bisexual i had a issue with that. the feeling that to kiss a female is wrong for me it was beacuse im catholic and beacuse my mum doesnt know i go both ways lol.even to this day when i got over my experimenting stage she dosnt know. but i slowly and eventualy got over it. the most important thing you need to do it talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel. beacuse the worst thing you could do is make her feel that its her. when really a personal issue.the fact that you also have never kissed a girl before also factors in. [remmber the advantage to dating another girl is that you know how you as a girl want to feel and be treated.] and tell her you need some time to adjust. i have 2 questions 1] is this your first time experience with a girl? 2]do your parents know you are bi/lesbian/experimenting? im asking beacuse those can affect your relationship with her. PM me if you want to talk ok? 
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Jan 15 2007, 01:48 PM
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DING DONG. Group: Member Posts: 162 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,900 |
QUOTE(a painefull euphoria @ Jan 15 2007, 10:24 AM) as a bisexual i had a issue with that. the feeling that to kiss a female is wrong for me it was beacuse im catholic and beacuse my mum doesnt know i go both ways lol.even to this day when i got over my experimenting stage she dosnt know. but i slowly and eventualy got over it. the most important thing you need to do it talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel. beacuse the worst thing you could do is make her feel that its her. when really a personal issue.the fact that you also have never kissed a girl before also factors in. [remmber the advantage to dating another girl is that you know how you as a girl want to feel and be treated.] and tell her you need some time to adjust. i have 2 questions 1] is this your first time experience with a girl? 2]do your parents know you are bi/lesbian/experimenting? im asking beacuse those can affect your relationship with her. PM me if you want to talk ok? okay, um, to answer your questions.. 1. yes this is my first experience with a girl. 2. no, my parents do not know. and i would be dead if they found out  .
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Jan 15 2007, 01:56 PM
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Well that just brings you back to the fact maybe you'll feel like you'll deceive your parents or something. I think you should be upfront and honest with your partner if you truly care about her. Tell her the truth and tell her that you want to kiss her and all but you just can't because of whatever reason you may think is causing this. I don't think your comfortable enough to kiss her yet and you two should just get to know each other more and more until you find is the right time. I know plenty of people that were in relationships for 6 months or longer before they ever kissed.
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| *Uronacid* |
Jan 15 2007, 02:46 PM
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QUOTE(Intercourse @ Jan 15 2007, 1:56 PM) Well that just brings you back to the fact maybe you'll feel like you'll deceive your parents or something. I think you should be upfront and honest with your partner if you truly care about her. Tell her the truth and tell her that you want to kiss her and all but you just can't because of whatever reason you may think is causing this. I don't think your comfortable enough to kiss her yet and you two should just get to know each other more and more until you find is the right time. I know plenty of people that were in relationships for 6 months or longer before they ever kissed. Agree... I'm pretty sure you only know 2 >.> haha, ;] It's definitely something you aren't used to yet... I wouldn't rush it... just do it when you feel comfortable enough to do it. |
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Jan 15 2007, 02:53 PM
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 Internet-aholic Group: Member Posts: 84 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 405,192 |
Well, I asked my sister what to say, because she's bisexual and she says:
1. If you want to kiss her, then just go for it. OR 2. Just nudge her in a playful way (in case she's not for you kissing her just yet) and say, "I really wanna kiss you." But laugh a little and note her reaction. |
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| *My Cinderella.* |
Jan 15 2007, 05:51 PM
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Don't feel discouraged if you're not able to kiss her. You shouldn't rush into anything. When you feel confident enough to do so, then you know that you're ready.
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| *x1227x* |
Jan 15 2007, 06:01 PM
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I don't think that you're ready to kiss your girlfriend yet? Don't rush into it. I agree with what Diana said. I think you should tell her about not being able to kiss her, and saying that it's not her. She'll probably blaze out and be like "WHY AREN'T YOU KISSING ME?!?! IS IT ME?!?!" Jane read my mind.
I think you should just wait till you're comfortable enough to kiss her.
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Jan 15 2007, 10:04 PM
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 straight as a rainbow and twice as colorful Group: Member Posts: 523 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 112,415 |
I went through this with my first girlfriend... I was really nervous about it.
I guess for me, it was partially because I was still not ready to accept that I felt that way about girls... Once you get that first kiss over with, it'll seem a lot more natural. but as for how to go about that... idk... just say "I really wanna kiss you right now" and see how she reacts. |
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Jan 16 2007, 12:37 AM
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 x_pinaystyle_x Group: Member Posts: 472 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 366,326 |
awww!! how cute!!
im kinda in that situation.. but i would never go for it. my reputation. |
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Jan 16 2007, 12:40 AM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
gather up all your courage and pounce on her and plant a big one right on her.
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Jan 16 2007, 03:47 AM
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 Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jan 15 2007, 12:55 AM) Maybe you just aren't a bisexual. Hhaa. Josh, you're too much. Um, I have the same problem, except I'm straight. I always wait for the girl to make the first move, which is wrong because it shows a weakness in me, and it can be used against me. The thing I am afraid of is that I'll get rejected. I know, something so childish can be so hard. It really happened after my first girlfriend, (Shut up Josh), because I think I went overboard and she even said something to me. From then on I've had this the confidence issue and it's gotten the better of me. If you want a kiss...then just do it. There's no better advice out there. At least in my opinion. Like I told some one else...What's the worse that can happen? She says no. That's all. You're not going to die, are you? No. It's not like you're not going to be friends or whatever you guys are anymore. It's just a simple no, or a pull back of the head. haha. |
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Jan 16 2007, 04:13 PM
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DING DONG. Group: Member Posts: 162 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,900 |
QUOTE(JakeKKing @ Jan 16 2007, 1:47 AM) It's just a simple no, or a pull back of the head. haha. hahaha. that made me laugh... but good point
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Jan 17 2007, 05:47 PM
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 the most flavored one Group: Member Posts: 132 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 148,593 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Jan 14 2007, 11:55 PM) Maybe you just aren't a bisexual. I agree. Maybe that's why. |
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Jan 18 2007, 04:28 AM
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i bet people dont like u in ur school LOL
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Jan 18 2007, 07:02 AM
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^Looks like you've been warned already today, although I cannot find record of it anywhere on the forums. However, I'm seeing continued behavior, so for the second time:
QUOTE PERSONAL ATTACKS Flaming, trolling, member bashing-you name it-will not be tolerated here. If you're making an argument, it's always better to retort with reason and composure. Personal attacks are childish and have no place in these forums. If this is something that is really new to you, I suggest taking a look at the rest of the Community Guidelines. |
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Jan 19 2007, 03:59 PM
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DING DONG. Group: Member Posts: 162 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,900 |
QUOTE(coro.hehe @ Jan 18 2007, 2:28 AM) i bet people dont like u in ur school LOL thanks. ^ |
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Jan 19 2007, 05:02 PM
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QUOTE(Imlearning @ Jan 19 2007, 3:59 PM) thanks. ^ Well, ummm.... I think it's just like kissing anyone, it takes guts to do it. Probably more for you, because it may be against your religion. Don't rush it, just do it when you think it's time. If you feel like you are doing something wrong then you should wait. Look, I'm against homosexuality, but hell... I have to give you the same advice I would give anyone else (straight/bi/gay). It's all got to be fair, and I can't discriminate... I wish you the best of luck with your situation. I just don't know how much help we can give you. |
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Jan 19 2007, 09:20 PM
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DING DONG. Group: Member Posts: 162 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 131,900 |
yeah good point. thanks ^^
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Jan 19 2007, 09:44 PM
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QUOTE(da_SALSA @ Jan 17 2007, 2:47 PM) I agree. Maybe that's why. i pretty much agree.. it does not seem your like really sure about your sexuality right now. Maybe it could be an expermental stage. Or maybe you dont want to kiss your girlfriend because deep down you might have doubts if its right or what your parents might think. The best thing for you to do is talk with your girlfriend and tell her how you feel. Then just give it sometime you dont have to kiss her if you are not ready. good luck! |
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Feb 7 2007, 09:24 PM
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 we roll mad deep yo! Group: Member Posts: 33 Joined: Feb 2007 Member No: 501,326 |
QUOTE(Imlearning @ Jan 15 2007, 12:25 AM) okay. im like madly in love with this girl. and YES im a girl . what EVER...anyways. i cant seem to like kiss her. i want to but i just cant. is it because like my heart is telling me its wrong or somthing?? no no . i dont know, like i just cant seem to have the guts to move just a liiiiiiiitle closer. do you think its just because im nervous and ive never like kissed a girl ??it's prob. just nerves everyone get's em'. |
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Feb 7 2007, 09:27 PM
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I'm Cattt. :] Group: Validating Posts: 1,722 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 130,831 |
Pretend she's your teddy or pillow or whatever you practice kissing with.
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Feb 7 2007, 11:36 PM
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 Yea Yea. Group: Member Posts: 837 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 79,366 |
It might not be kissing a girl that's the problem, it's having a first kiss with your new boyfriend/girlfriend is always hard. Even if you've had plenty of kisses with your ex, it's always different with someone else because you don't know if they share the same feelings or want to kiss yet, etc.
I think you should just stick it out a little longer, then maybe ask her how she feels about it because she could be feeling the same way you do. I also agree with others.. I don't think your 100% sure on your sexuality right now but it's okay and I think you should try to make the best of your relationship anyways. |
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Feb 10 2007, 02:55 PM
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i now how yo feel....well not really...but im trying to figure out my sexual orientation..but of course im being riduculed...just wait a bit and come out honestly to her..also you dont HAVE to tell your parents..belive me i am NEVER telling my parents im still in the closet
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