I need advice...or some help... Options

[La Barbie]

Ok well this all started in Oct. i met some boy, and well before i went out with him i talked to him and everything soon he was like my bestfriend we went to the same highschool so i saw him everyday, in school i hung out with basically all boys n just one girl so..anyways i liked one of his bestfriends but his bestfriend didnt like me in the way i liked him so i was hurt but i didnt really care, my heart was so confused because after i started getting over his bestfriend he started to "Steal" my heart i guess....so he told me he liked me and well i didnt know what to say i thought i liked him so i told him i did too.....he asked me out n well i said yes but soon all his friends started to butt in n they found out that i still liked his bestfriend n that i was only going out with him to forget his bestfriend, that was a total lie because at that time i thought i was over his bestfriend...so 3 days after we was together we broke up so basically we were together for 3 days...so 2 months went by n i met a new boy he was the new kid in the school so i started talking with him and since he took the way i took to go home i would walk home with him and we would talk and talk soon he confessed to me that he liked me n well i didnt know what to do because honestly i did like him but i didnt want the other boy to get hurt so i just stood quiet the next day my bestfriend was thinking of going out with some boy so since i liked the new kid i decided to go out with him so, time went by n no one knows that i went out with that boy then since i couldnt handle it no more i decided to tell not the new kid but the other one everything when i did he said he was fine with it but i knew he wasnt but now i dont wanna be with the new kid n i told the other kid that so now he asked me if i broke up with the new kid would i go back out with him i said that i didnt have time to answer that right now cause i had something else to deal with even though it was a lie.....so now..

what do i do??? which one of them do i choose???? or do u think i should leave both of them be on my own n make a fresh new start???

[MyEverLastingHop...]

Well;

Almost everyone I ever talk to when I need advice, that I know personally, tells me to "Drop them all and start over", but I've always thought that was a bit harsh.

It seems like you do need a break, I didn't say "Drop all of them", but maybe try taking a break away from your mass amount of love issues.

If you like someone, go for it. But if you have feelings for someone else at the same time, your going to have doubts.

If you do decide to be with someone, don't let other people's input influence your feelings.
You can't help how you feel and everyone needs to accept that.

If you do choose to make a fresh start, you can have all of them as friends, IF they understand how you feel. You don't want friends swooning over you, trying to get you to fall for them, when you need them as friends, not lovers.

[La Barbie]

you need them as friends, not lovers.

See u have a point but the thing is that not the new kid but the other one is my friend its just that i dont know how the new kid is going to take it i mean everyone has told me to drop them both but to keep them as friends but what if the new kid doesnt want to be my friend...i mean i know i shouldnt care its just that boys now a days if u hurt them they will spread rumors that arent true and people will start.....thats what i dont want

[MyEverLastingHop...]

Ms.,

If you are afraid that a boy will be immature if you hurt him, do you really think dating him will make it any better ...?

You shouldn't be afraid of a boy black-mailing you, or spreading rumors, just because you are not dating him, or don't have an attraction towards him.

Try to forget for a moment all of the negativity. Forget what would happen if you picked whom ever. Just ask yourself which one you like more. Then think about all the negativity. Ask yourself if it's worth it.

"Do I like him enough to put up with it all ...?"

[La Barbie]

true....u make a good point...to tell u the truth i dont like any of them i just like them as friends n one of them knows that the other i havent even seen him n i like it that way i guess....

[MyEverLastingHop...]

Well there you go.

If you only like them as friends, then there isn't much of a problem.
^_^;

Tell them that, and if they have an issue, they can get over it.

& If you develope stronger feelings for one of them, feel free to take action.

[La Barbie]

i highly doubt im going to.....but thx

[*My Cinderella.*]

I think you shouldn't pick any of them. Take some time to figure out how much you really care about each of these boys. You shouldn't go out with one if you have feelings for the other.