I don't know what to do, but I know I want to do SOMETHING., comforting a girl that just got out of a long relationship Options

[unconfirmed_exis...]

Problem solved. .__.;

[mzislandpinay]

just be there.. hug her.. you dont really need to say anything. girls like to be comforted wen they are crying. wen she's crying grab her and hold her. comforting is the best way. Get her mind off the guy. Take her out fer ice-cream. Spend lunch with just her. Talk to her.

but wen she is looking at you.. if tearrs in her eyes.. just comfort her & hold her

end thoguht: girls like to be held close and comfortable.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

I find it so awkward sometimes..
Maybe it's because I'm not exactly the
snuggling type outside of relationships..

I'm afraid she might push me away..
(ahahah even though she's too nice to do so)

Thanks for your opinion mzislandpinay!

[pkbabe]

WEll I know what its like to have gotten out of a long term relationship. So the best thing I guess just be there for her. Let her vent & don't judge her for her opinions(even if you disagree with her) because that will just bring her down some more & maybe she will slowly distant herself from you & not trust you as much. My girl best friend did that to me so now I just don't discuss anything that has to do with guys & relationships. Have a sleepover & watch alot of funny movies or just hang with her when you can

[*x1227x*]

well you dont really know her enough, but i think the best you can do is probably ask her what's wrong and try to be like what happened and just ask ya know. x)

if you dont know her that well -- all you can simple do is atleast ask whats wrong.

[OhMyAnniee]

You should go up to her and maybe say like "Oh hey (name) .. I heard about you know & you always look sad(?) Are you okay? What's wrong or what happend?" and you should tell her like she doesn't HAVE to tell you but if she needs someone to listen then you'll be there.

[xmoon_lightx]

CUDDLE HERR tightly=]

[unconfirmed_exis...]

Whaaaa, I go home from school to see 4 more responses..

AWESOME. (Thanks for replying everyone!)

camcha--> Be there.. Sounds simple enough.
But it's difficult just standing near a person and
having them vent out with tears and say nothing..

x1227x ---> A simple approach. And actually a logical approach.
lskjgakwsjg it is sort of odd I have to be behind the scenes
to understand why she's crying.. I'll put that on my to do list.

hardxcoreL0VER ---> Just what I needed! A blueprint on how to approach a person.
Maybe I'll try this the next time I get a chance to..

xmoon_lightx ---> I tried that today.. @.@ It was.. Awkward..
One of my male friends dragged me off after that attempt because
he thought I was making an embarressing scene..

[*Infinite.*]

Just tell her the truth, I mena everything happens for a reason. And of course shes going to be sad for a while but she'll move on and get over it. Shes not going to realize it for the time being though. Just make sure she knows that people care about her and that they want her to get better and be happy. Thats about it..

Myspace comments aren't that important, not really close to real life if you can actually see her. It would mean a million times more if you told it to her face.

[*My Cinderella.*]

A hug is always nice. Holly said it all. If all else fails, get her to look at some cute boys.

[itsnever4ever]

sometimes just asking someone what's wrong, or letting them know that you're there for them, will help a whole lot. So just talk to her about it, maybe let her open up, and vent a little.

[fall3n_s0ul]

Get close to her somehow. Talk to her about awkward things on AIM or something. Make her smile. When she cries, hug her. Just be there to her. I'm not sure if you like her based on the comments you give that you like her or not but, just be there for her - as a friend. BTW - you'll get comments from us everyday. This is an active forum. Make a friend here and there, we got instant messengers and links inside our profiles. Feel free to talk when you want to or need it. We're nice people - most of us >_> ^_^

[*krnxswat*]

All those previously stated advices are crap.

Don't hug or. Or cuddle her. Or give her a purple nurple.

From my limited knowledge and observation, it seems to be that you're a pretty shy guy. Don't be so direct by asking 'Hey I heard about you and who, and what happened, are you okay? What happened?'

Start off by just talking to her. Don't talk about relationships or anything. Just have normal and fun conversations. Slowly get her mind off of it. Make her laugh. Make her smile. Joke around. Get close to her. Cautiously let her know you're there for her.

If you feel you've gotten pretty close with her, take her out a few times. Maybe to an amusement park, dinner, lunch or just anything fun! Give her some time. Time heals.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

krnxswat I'm pretty darn sure I'm a girl,
maybe shy but definately not a dude.

I still pretty much suck trying to communicate my thoughts out but hey
I somehow somewhat found a loophole around the uneasiness I have
with reassuring people.

Today I just gave her a stuffed bear I got from Reno
after playing a few games a few weeks back.
I managed to squeeze a "I hope things are better"
and she thanked me telling me she appreciated the
messages of concern I sent her on myspace/facebook.

I think everything is peachy now huzzaaah.
And I didn't even have to take her out to get her mind off of it.
Thanks for the advise everyone!!

And fall3n_s0ul---> That's comforting to know.
Though the tv sort of scared me telling me of potiential
50 year old geezers trying to find a young victim..
I'm sure someday I'll talk to some of the members in createblog
through aim or something.

Everyone sure seems pretty spiffy.

[*krnxswat*]

Wtf, are you a lesbian?

[unconfirmed_exis...]

No.. Not a lesbian, infact I already have a boyfriend.

What made you think I'm attracted to this girl in any sort of way to begin with?

[*krnxswat*]

SCREW THIS TOPIC@$&*^@y*@#*#@

[PandaKnight14]

SCREW THIS TOPIC@$&*^@y*@#*#@

... Moron, kthxbai.

Aside from that, looks like there's not much to say.

[*krnxswat*]

Thanks, dickface!
At least I wasn't some troubled emo who tried cutting myself. But it's okay!

[PandaKnight14]

Thanks, dickface!
At least I wasn't some troubled emo who tried cutting myself. But it's okay!

Neither am/was I, what's your point?

[xx-sam35]

make her feel like the most special person in the world =)
bake her brownies oror write her a note with compliments :D
take her dude shopping o.o find another bf x) to keep her mind off that guy..or maybe not

[*krnxswat*]

Neither am/was I, what's your point?

I tried it. It wasn't that great. I returned to my preferred methods sulking and took slight comfort in not falling into the emo stereotype.

You're the moron.

[PandaKnight14]

You're the moron.

You're 19, almost 20, you've been on createblog since 2003, and, as far as I can tell, you decided to dig through my messages for a totally unrelated thing to use against me.

Okay, fine. I've looked through your messages. You know what?

You're nothing but a troll.

You go through topics and post entirely unhelpful things like "Then you kill yourself," "You shouldn't bother posting on cB," or, my personal favorite...

"You think you're invincible? Next thing you know, you'll be jumping off of a bridge, which I sincerely hope you do attempt, and expect to live without a single scratch (but, I highly doubt that)."

What exactly do you give to createblog? I looked at your posted messages; your whole first page is mindless drivel. Do you just travel from topic to topic looking for the next person to insult?

[smoke]

Stay on topic guys, and krnxswat, watch the verbal abuse or you will be suspended again.

[***Lucy**]

I thought that u were a guy too! lol
And I was about to ask u : do u like the girl?
lol...........
Anyway, i think hugging her is the best solution.
U could also give her chocolate or stuffed animals like u did.
When my ex dumped me a girl that i had never spoken to, came and give me a bracelet and she told me: Lucy, I'm so sorry i think utwo were adorable together.
and she was so honest and i still have the bracelet and i never forgot her.
So just be there for her.

[*krnxswat*]

You're 19, almost 20, you've been on createblog since 2003, and, as far as I can tell, you decided to dig through my messages for a totally unrelated thing to use against me.

Okay, fine. I've looked through your messages. You know what?

You're nothing but a troll.

You go through topics and post entirely unhelpful things like "Then you kill yourself," "You shouldn't bother posting on cB," or, my personal favorite...

"You think you're invincible? Next thing you know, you'll be jumping off of a bridge, which I sincerely hope you do attempt, and expect to live without a single scratch (but, I highly doubt that)."

What exactly do you give to createblog? I looked at your posted messages; your whole first page is mindless drivel. Do you just travel from topic to topic looking for the next person to insult?

I give createBlog excitement; thrill; laughter; but, yes, you're right. I just travel from topic to topic looking for the next person to insult!

Stay on topic guys, and krnxswat, watch the verbal abuse or you will be suspended again.

He called me a moron first, you little moron.

[FoxLucky]

Chocolate = Best medicine for heartache

[demolished]

generally, i would say, " ... hope you feel better ..."

I give createBlog excitement; thrill; laughter; but, yes, you're right. I just travel from topic to topic looking for the next person to insult!



He called me a moron first, you little moron.

you shut the f**k up smashed-face. dont play smart, old man.

[*krnxswat*]

You know it's true.

[unconfirmed_exis...]

The issue was resolved a while ago.
So any posting done since the last time I posted..

Errr is nice but not needed..
Seems like when this topic is brought up it's just
krnxswat vrs other members of createblog now.

krnxswat---> Doesn't it get dull arguing in here?
Go find another victim and let this topic die, it's getting old!

[demolished]

You know it's true.

oh what? what's true?

[*krnxswat*]

Don't play smart, old man.

[unionly]

okay