Can A Lesbian fall for a Gay guy?, Im so lost Options

[Dabme]

Alright so...not too long ago i met this guy, who i never thought in my lifetime would never meet. Because we were from two different worlds and somehow i didnt even give it a chance upon first seeing him. But things happened and we were introduced. When I saw him for the very first time smile at me, i thought wow theres juss something about this guy. I didnt kno if i should like it or love it or even hate it. So every weekend from then on, since his cousin and my cousin were dating, i would see him one way or the other. So we juss started talking and before i even realise it, he was spilling his heart out to me!!! and me being an idiot didnt kno wat to say bak. He told me he was gay, and i told him i was a lesbian...he was out of the closet nd i wasnt. Some how he convinced me to tell my parents (something i never thought i would do until i was outta the house!) i dont kno wat it was, but everytime i saw his face it juss killed me more and more that he makes me want to be a better person. Even though he was telling me everything about him, i still didnt have the courage to tell him things. I think that he always felt rejected because he'd sit there and wait for me to say something and i wouldnt have anything to say! not that i didnt have anything to say, its juss that i wanted to let everything out at one time so when i opened my mouth, I'd juss choke and turn away..damn im such a fool. SO months went by with me still acting this way, nd him still trying to get the best part of me out. it wasnt until recently i realised sometihng that had been growing from the first time we met...we were at my cousins party and ran off somewhere to smoke..nd when we were sitting in our usual spot, out of no where he tells me that Im his BEST FRIEND and that if we both werent gay/les that I would be his girlfriend. OMG...nd yet again there i was turning away not saying anything!!!!!!!!! what was i going to do? he took the words right out of my mouth!!!!! I could feel his eyes watching me when i looked the other way...I juss kept telling myself that i was a lesbian..so now its a month later nd a little too late to say that i felt the same way. I noticed that since Ive met him, i dont look at girls the same way, i only see him...Everytime i have time to think, hes the first thing that comes to my mind..wow I love this gay guy who might juss feel the same way, but i rejected him by not taking his hint that he likes me...nd then juss the other day, as a way of trying to say that "I like you too" I bring up bad memories and juss start saying things..I was so scared to tel lhim that maybe this could work that i pushed him away and made him feel the way everyone else makes him feel. Nobody treats him good, he was always rejected growing up..nd now there i was, the only person that would never make him feel that way..I had to do it..Im such a dumb f**k. And i really love him. I never thought i would have feelings for any guy..and this guy juss happens to be gay..now wat..

[tokyo-rose]

If you feel like you could be together, then there's no reason you shouldn't try. So maybe you were sure you were a lesbian until you met him, and that you could only ever like girls from then on. But that doesn't mean that you can't be attracted to guys too. There are always exceptions, and it looks like he is that exception for you. After all, I'm pretty sure I'm straight for now and I have a boyfriend, but that doesn't mean that I won't meet a girl that I start to like. Give it a chance. It might be weird at first but it could work, and you could end up very happy. Good luck.

[Dabme]

thanks ^_^ that makes me feel a heck of a lot better...
lol im so ensecure

[*a painefull euphoria*]

wow thats amazing.
go for it.
you may both be bi.
but who knows this might work out for the better

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

Maybe you guys are just confused about your sexuality? I mean if you feel chemistry with a boy, regardless if he's straight or not that you aren't really a lesbian. If it's something you feel strongly about go for it but be careful if you are confused.

I juss kept telling myself that i was a lesbian

Lesbians don't have to convince themselves that they ARE homosexual, just like how straight people don't have to convince themselves they are heterosexual.


I remember last year when a bunch of Freshmen's started saying they were bi like it was a trend. It was so immature... I mean you are only like 14 or 15 and have probably never even been in a serious relationship.

[tokyo-rose]

thanks ^_^ that makes me feel a heck of a lot better...
lol im so insecure

Oh, I'm glad I could help you. Have you talked to him yet? Obviously you should probably think about it for a few days, but I really do think you should go for it.

Also, ditto the posts that said you may both be bisexual. If you were definitely lesbian, you wouldn't think of guys in that way at all.

[*krnxswat*]

Are you aware of the meanings for the terms 'lesbian' and 'gay'?
Apparently not.

[KielReese]

I hate topics like these....and you can ask 12 of my gay male friends and many lesbian friends and they would say the same

You CANNOT CHOSE to be gay or lesbian. You are born that way. You cant just one day say hey Im going to become gay. If you are, you are and thats that.

And acting like you have a choice actual offends some of them. If you like him you are most likely straight as an arrow. If in any chance you are actually or someone this story is about is actually gay, then its the simple fact of infatuation.

Hope you can sift through these words to actually find the help...lol

[Rachellll]

the object of my affection.

this kinda reminds me of that.

[elaboratedream]

if you like him, and you think there's a chance that he might like you, go for it.

By thinking that its impossible for you to think that you could be anything but a complete lesbian, you're being as closeminded as the "straight" kids who have feelings for the same sex but are convinced they couldn't be anything but straight.

just let yourself experiment a little bit, you never know, maybe you're bisexual or maybe you're straight even. or maybe you're right and you're a lesbian. whatever the case, dont let yourself fall into being totally inflexible about your sexuality.

whatever your orientation is, dont worry about it too much. you're young, you can still change your mind about it.

[xmoon_lightx]

i think yu should give it a try. he sounds like a really caring guy. =]

[femmefatale4160]

I think you should give it a try, too. You could be cute together. And you're already good friends, so that is the best basis for a relationship.