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Help., stuck in the middle.
preciousbabyrae
post Oct 7 2006, 11:02 AM
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first of all its my birthday today but that's not important.

so i have my boyfriend of almost 6 month. now, we go to different schools. during these 6 months, its been bads and goods. so yeah, like i said we go to different school and i've met one of my friends that i've known in kindergarden. as day passes, he grew feelings for me. and i think im too scared to like him because of my bf. i'm seriously confused. when i get home, all i want to do is talk to him. i dont know about my bf. before my bf and i got together, we didnt really talk but now we do. and yeah. i have a feeling that the other guy treats me better than my bf when we werent together.. what should i do?

the guy reeally likes meand stuff and so does my bf.
im stuck in the middle.
 
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post Oct 7 2006, 12:20 PM
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Who do you like? This guy or your bf because it's not fair to your bf if you have feelings for someone else and it's not fair to you that you aren't free to like this kid.
 
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post Oct 7 2006, 12:45 PM
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A relationship at this point in your life shouldn't be like an obligation. Do you like your boyfriend? Do you want to be with him? Think about that. Don't think about all the other guys that you MIGHT want to get into a relationship with because that's what confuses people.

If you're just with your boyfriend because he likes you and you're used to him, then something's really wrong. You should be with him because he makes you happy and because you feel something for him. If you're not, then you're not being fair to yourself or your boyfriend.
 
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post Oct 7 2006, 01:46 PM
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that is exactly what happened to me, except i didnt know my friend since kindergarten - he was just my best friend. what everyone said above is pretty much right on target. just figure out what you want to do, and just try not to break any hearts - WHICH IS SO FREAKING HARD! *sigh* just dont make it a shock to either one, and make sure its REALLY what you want to do: decide then wait a weekish to act so you have time to really think it over
 
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post Oct 7 2006, 03:29 PM
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Well, who do you have the most feelings for? (even though this question has been asked before me :P)
Don't care about who's the one who has feelings for you, it's your decision, not theirs. But of course, if you don't like any of them - which is totally wrong - then going with your friend seems better. Even though I'll guarauntee you'll hurt him badly.
 
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post Oct 7 2006, 06:14 PM
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First things first: Happy Birthday! Sorry it seems so lousy....


I can understand your problem here.
I think you should stay true to your boyfriend and not get involved with this guy. I'm not sure how close you are to your boyfriend. But if you want to know what the right thing to do, that is it. You would hurt him badly if you left him for another guy . . .

Now, if your boyfriend IS treating you badly, and you really don't care for him too much and feel neglected, then my all means, break up with him.
But that's only if you feel that way. Then wait some time before you jump in another relationship with this other guy.

Again, not sure how much you care about your boyfriend, but try to remain friends with this new guy. If things really get bad with your boyfriend and you dont' care for him anymore, then break up with him. But I say stick this out, don't stress about it, and see how this naturally unfolds.
 
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post Oct 7 2006, 06:23 PM
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QUOTE(funk.this @ Oct 7 2006, 1:45 PM) *
A relationship at this point in your life shouldn't be like an obligation. Do you like your boyfriend? Do you want to be with him? Think about that. Don't think about all the other guys that you MIGHT want to get into a relationship with because that's what confuses people.

If you're just with your boyfriend because he likes you and you're used to him, then something's really wrong. You should be with him because he makes you happy and because you feel something for him. If you're not, then you're not being fair to yourself or your boyfriend.


^Agreed. Well said.

Oh, and happy birthday happy.gif
 
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post Oct 8 2006, 12:55 AM
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QUOTE(funk.this @ Oct 7 2006, 10:45 AM) *
A relationship at this point in your life shouldn't be like an obligation. Do you like your boyfriend? Do you want to be with him? Think about that. Don't think about all the other guys that you MIGHT want to get into a relationship with because that's what confuses people.

If you're just with your boyfriend because he likes you and you're used to him, then something's really wrong. You should be with him because he makes you happy and because you feel something for him. If you're not, then you're not being fair to yourself or your boyfriend.



True.
I think some of us have been in a similar position where we are trying to choose between two people. For me, I tried to solve the situation by trying to compare the two and the pros and cons in their personalities. But if I'm seeing things that I don't like about both of them, then why date them? So what I didn't realize was that I didn't need to be with either.

You don't need a relationship to function. It's a great feeling once you realize that and just spend your life being single and focusing on things you want to do. There are plenty of awesome guys out there that you haven't met yet, not just these two confusing boys.


And happy birthday birthday.gif
 
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post Oct 8 2006, 04:18 AM
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Who the f**k cares about your birthday?
 
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post Oct 8 2006, 05:37 AM
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You have to ask yourself if you would be happy w/ your boyfreind(the way he is) and you wouldn't think about breaking up with him if the other guy didn't exist.

What i wanna say is: if u hadn't met again this guy that treats u better has anicer bahaviour etc. would u break up w/ your bf?

Thta's the thing. I mena you should sit down and think:
-why u want to be with you bf? does he make u happy? does he treat u well?
-why u'd like to be w/ the other guy? only because he treats u better than your bf does? do u have feelings for him?

Staying w/ your bf only because you're used to him isn't ok at all.
But u should also think that the other guy has feelings for u, so if u don't feel the same don't get together w/ him only because he treats you well. I magine yourself in his place. I guess u wouldn't like it. rolleyes.gif

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!! victory.gif birthday.gif
 

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