do you guys consider 1 year a long time? Options

[kstar]

ok me and my boyfriend have almost been together for a year and we were talking about it one day and he was saying how its not that long so he thinks doing something special is kind of childish. I personally think its special...not a huge deal like " buy me a ring" or anything...but doing something cute would be kind of nice. I just wanna know what you guys think.

[*Uronacid*]

Everyone has a different value for everything in there life. Your boyfriend my not value your anniversary than you do. As far as it being childish, I don't think that there is anything childish about it. I think it's great that you want to celebrate the start of your relationship. It's deffinitly something to celebrate. It's a land mark, and it's like your relationships birth-day. It's a day where you and your boyfriend can celebrate your relationship and be happy that you are still together.

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[kstar]

oh no i completely understand that and i plan on being with him for a long time. Its just that is a big deal being together that long because then obvioulsy something is going right. Im not EXPECTING anything because that kind of stuff really doesnt matter to me. I am just basically wondering if 1 year seems special to anyone else'?

[*Zatanna*]

While I think one year is great, I wouldn't necessarily be quick to call it a "long time." Time is also a very subjective thing when it comes to relationships though. To me, the real indicator of a relationship, the thing that makes one stand out from another is how two people relate to eachother during times of hardship (emotional, physical, financial, etc.)

[OhMyAnniee]

I think it's not THAT long but it just symbolizes a strong relationship.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year. I think it is a long time since I didn't think we would last that long since its high school. I know, I think so highly of my relashionships. Haha
Um, Depends on who you are and what you think.

[lyin_in_wait]

i think a one year anniversary is something to brag about...its hard being with someone longer than 4 months and still have the same feelings as you did when you first started dating. im not sayin run out and have a $400 dinner, but i personally would like to do something special. maybe thats just in my case though, after all a lot happened in my relationship and we barely hit 6 months...

[kstar]

thanks guys for your opinion. I also think its something special to brag about. Im in my 5th year...going back for a semester and then I am done. We have been together for almost 10 months and were stilll sooo in love and we have been through so much together. I defeinetly think that it would be sweet to ackknowledge it rather than saying " its not a big deal".

[_sarcastic_]

i agree it is definately something to celebrate.
i mean it's not very long but hey

[foxxyman]

I think he's just a cheap ass f**k.

[elaboratedream]

1 year is a pretty long time to me. but then again, my longest relationship so far has lasted 6 months. people have different views on what a long time is.
if its important to you, make that clear to him

you should celebrate it to some extent. even if that just means hanging out or something. it doesnt have to be too extravagent, but you should definately do something.
for my 6 month, we're gonna be hanging out at his house and maybe watching a few movies... maybe you could do something like that.

[me1issaaaa]

Yes and no. For this generation, especially kids in high school, it is a long time. It all depends of your expectations in where the relationship will be going, what you want out of it.

[*My Cinderella.*]

It depends. If it was a year of shyness and nothing gained mm...not really. But it was memorable and great of course.

[Trinie]

tell him that you think 1 year is special for you! i mean i know when i had my one year anniversary with my bf, it was defintiely something to celebrate. now our 8 year anniversary is coming up in about a month, and it's still something to celebrate. :)

[misfit]

My boyfriend have spoken about it as well, he thinks we should do soemthing special & so do I.. Ask your boyfriend how long he thinks should be a time to do something special? And say it's not as if you have been going out for a month, but a year is a fair long time...

[Trinie]

My boyfriend have spoken about it as well, he thinks we should do soemthing special & so do I.. Ask your boyfriend how long he thinks should be a time to do something special? And say it's not as if you have been going out for a month, but a year is a fair long time...

i agree with you. 1 year is a long time. so go out and celebrate! tell him how you feel.

[*Libertie*]

It IS your first year, so long time or not, it's a milestone. If anything, you should at least go out on a date (doesn't have to be too special) and say happy anniversary.

[*xcaitlinx*]

me and my boyfriend's 1 year anniversary is in 2 months...and we're definitely doing something special. i think that 1 year is not necessarily a long time, but a big mark especially if you're teenagers. if you want to do something with him, then talk to him about it and see what he says.

[thanhmai]

I think he's just a cheap ass f**k.

word.

[expoised]

Hm... I would think that the 1 year anniversary would be more significant than say.... the 23rd year anniversary.

It's not necessarily a long time, but still... come on... One year!

[KissMe2408]

I personally think 1 year is a very long relationship.
I think I only had 1 that actually got there, and it was more like 11 months, haha. Rounded it off. But, usually when 1 year comes around, most of the couples I know do something. Go out to dinner, buy little somethings for each other.
However each couple is different, and i'm not sure how close you guys are. But even if he doesn't do anything for you, maybe think about still showing him you care with something =)

Congrats, btw.

[imnoxonesmemory]

heyy. well... personally i think it's a long time. don't want to say anything bad because he's your boyfriend.but personally, it's not childish. i know some people that celebrate their monthly anniversaries. anyway :) different ppl different opinions <3

[CO0KiE]

aww almost a year ? me too ! my boyfriend and i have been going out for 8 months and something days!! lol wellll.. tell him that its not being childish!! cuz i think its not.. nope nope nope! [: hmmm yeaaa you two could just like.. idk do something together for the whole day like-- idunno.. lol.. and yeah i dont celebrate the monthly thing but i always say:: HAPPY 8 MONTHS ! er something like that.. and even still.. when we get to one year.. we prolly wont get to hang out bcusss.. er yeah long story ^_^ talk to youre bf !

[cassjamminx]

i think doing something for you one year would be cute. like, i've been dating my boyfriend about almost 2 years in like 2months, we celebrate big anniversaries. like.. 1 month (haha), half a year, one year, and year and half, 2 years, etc.. all within 6 months of a time.

i dont think it's childish. if he takes your relationship seriously, he should behappy that you've been dating for that long and would want to celebrate. but if he doesnt want to, then you know he's not the type to. which there is nothing wrong with, just hang out like its a normal day then

have you two celebrated any other anniversaries before?

[Dr. Phil]

Of course one year is a long time!

Dr. Phil does not mean to offend you but, from what Dr. Phil has observed by the way you type, Dr. Phil infers you are probably in late middle school or in high school.

Dr. Phil's point is that many teenagers these days in the world struggle to keep a relationship that long. Because many teenagers, especially in high school, are involved with drug use and alcoholism, most of them just want to have fun and, sorry for the expression but, get some "arse."

Dr. Phil believes you should suggest it to your boyfriend about doing a little something to celebrate it. A few suggestions are, but not limited to:

A) Buying each other a small gift. Does not have to be so expensive, but make sure it's not so inexpensive either! However, if it's a hand made gift, that is a different story. Hand made gifts tell each other one has spent a considerable amount of time on that gift, and often makes the other drop their jaw in awe and gratitude.

B) Go out for dinner at a nice restaurant. Does not have to be expensive. As long as it's not Micky D's or any sorts.

C) Go out for a walk in a park. Something romantic.

D) Write him a poem.

As mentioned above, those are only some of Dr. Phil's suggestions and is not limited to those!

Dr. Phil congratulates you!