There's this guy., Okay I wouldn't post in here if I didn't have problems Options

[xMayleex]

Okay.

I'll just you give some background details about me and this guy.

I grew up in the street as him, we pretty much knew eachother inside out when we were younger. Since I was about 12, and he was 14 .. he liked me, and I pretty much liked him back. This went on for ages .. 2 years now, he's 16 and I'm 14 now. He keeps up bringing up these feelings, and never does anything about it .. I even give him a little push but he seems to be scared to do something.

He's pretty cool, but lately he's been getting involved in the wrong crowd. Drugs, drink .. you know what I mean? I care for him a lot, and I also worry about him. Anyway I went on holiday this summer, I didn't even have one thought in my head about him .. I pretty much forgot he existed. Anyway, yesterday he told me he liked me ... again. I don't know whats wrong with me but I immediately felt something for him.

It confuses me, it's as if I deep down never lost any feelings for him .. even though I forgot about him. I even met another guy on holiday, but still. So we talked and things, he doesn't know how to go about it.

I then proceeded to tell him this is exactly 'also .. i just dont think i can put myself through it again. when i liked you for 2 whole years, and nothing happened .. i hated myself for so long and if nothing happens now, then nothing will ever happen .. i just need to let you know. i was naive before .. and i let you think i was fine with everything when really i wasnt'

Anyway .. he said thanks for telling me that, we carried on talking and stuff he was fine with me. Then today I im him, hey you okay and all that jazz. I then ask him 'do you still like me?' .. because I needed to know .. before I did anything 'stupid'. He says I got to go for food .. hour later .. obviously I wasn't sitting at the computer waiting. I left the PC on to send my friend some music .. and he doesn't reply.

So I'm thinking .. he's avoiding me. It's like all he needs to know is that I like him, and then he pisses off.

I'm really fed up of this, and to be honest all I think I can do is leave him. I feel as if he doesn't deserve me, and also all this stuff thats going on with him. It scares me, it scares me that he's perhaps not in the state to have a relationship with me.

Anyway, I'm sorry it's so long .. I just needed to have you understand.

I would be grateful for any advice =]

Thanks.

[c4rL4]

Don't push someone away when all you want is for them to be closer.
Trust me, i'm going through it right now.
& i guess i messed up.

Yeah,
just tell him how you truly feel.
don't let anyone or anything decide for you.
it's your feelings.

do what's for best.

[OhMyAnniee]

maybe when he's away, or call him & leave a voicemail, or text him and say how you feel. sometimes they just don't understand the perspective from a girl's point of view, you know? and if this was me, i would tell him that i can't wait forever. open up to him!

[Synthetic.Love]

Okay, honestly I'd say forget him, but that's not always the easiest. So...

I think you should just tell him, face to face. Ask him to go out for a bite, and then lay it all on the table. Ask him how he feels and all that. If he's still being childish about it (making up lame excuses for trying to leave and the like), or even if he says no, just drop him. It might not be the easiest, but, you're right, he doesn't deserve you. You deserve SO much better then a guy who can't even tell you how he feels about you, or be mature.

So go for it, and if he wants to be stupid and not realize what's in front of him, find someone better. There's someone out there for you =]

[*krnxswat*]

Exactly. When you went away during the summer and didn't think of him at all, that's a sign you don't like him; however, when he confesses his feelings for you, what you do is you start to stirr your old feelings back. Back when you actually liked him. That confuses you into thinking you still like him. You don't like him; it's just that your old feelings confuse you.

[*krnxswat*]

Anyway I went on holiday this summer, I didn't even have one thought in my head about him .. I pretty much forgot he existed

Exactly! You don't like him anymore. It's just that when he confesses his feelings to you, what it does is it stirrs up your old feelings for him back up so it confuses you into thinking you still like him. Because you've liked him for two years, and damn that's a pretty long time, it's easy for you to get confused into thinking you still like him. I mean if you went on a vacation and he was still on your mind, that's a definite you still have somewhat feelings for him; on the contrary, if it was to the point where you even forgot his existence, then you know what your feelings are telling you.

Atleast that's what I believe to be from my past experiences.