I hate pretending, I know I'm just using her. i need advice. Options

[elaboratedream]

My relationship status right now is sorta weird.
I'm in the middle of this insane love triangle/threesome relationship.

It started off with me and my bf. We were, overall, doing well together. a few times I was pretty sure he was cheating on me, but i cheated on him a few times too (no more than kissing though) but after one of the times i was pretty sure he cheated on me, he asked me for an open relationship. of course I refused. he continued pushing the subject, and two days later i hung out with him, my ex gf, and two bisexual girls I barely knew. to make a long story short, we ended up having a wild orgy. then four days later, one of the girls invited my bf and me over to her house.

things happened, and we decided we should all three go out.
or more, my bf and now gf decided that. i sorta went along with it because i saw a potential gain for me. I knew from the start I didn't care about her.
I knew from the start I was just using her.

because she has a car and a license. Neither I nor my bf have that.

so this way, I can actually hang out with my bf at his house.... I couldnt do that before. because I would always have to have my parents drop me off.

but anyways....

now I'm questioning this whole relationship. I know its not fair to pretend like I love her when I really couldn't care less about her. but more than that, I want her out of the way. I want it to just be me and my bf. I know if I do dump her, it's gonna hurt her, and I might even end up losing my bf. and more than that, I'll lose my form of transportation and entertainment.

I know it sounds aweful.

and I know most of you are going to just say "dump her. its not fair to her."
but you also have to consider how she's going to react to that. this isn't going to work out well either way, but at least like this, she's happy in her ignorance.

what should I do?

[smileeetina]

In my Opinion, whatever choice you make, someones gonna get hurt either way. And you should basically just do the right thing, and you know what the right thing is. But I think she already knows your using her. Its almost obvious.

[Smoogrish]

Dump her. Even if she's happy now, she'll find out eventually, and that'll just be a billion times more painful for her. And also you owe it to yourself to be good to people. Don't try to trick yourself into doing things you know are wrong.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

In my Opinion, whatever choice you make, someones gonna get hurt either way. And you should basically just do the right thing, and you know what the right thing is. But I think she already knows your using her. Its almost obvious.

i agree.

[HakunaMatata]

and I know most of you are going to just say "dump her. its not fair to her."

Well then, you already know what's right.

[_sarcastic_]

do what you know is right

[*Uronacid*]

wow, I have never heard of something like this... all I can say is that...

YOU ARE F U C K E D

Do what's right and learn from this.


Just a few things I see that you could learn:

- You cannot use people.
- You cannot have a healthy three-some relationship.
- You have to be more honest with people.
- You cannot throw love around unless you know what it means.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

wow, I have never heard of something like this... all I can say is that...

YOU ARE F U C K E D

Do what\'s right and learn from this.
Just a few things I see that you could learn:

- You cannot use people.
- You cannot have a healthy three-some relationship.
- You have to be more honest with people.
- You cannot throw love around unless you know what it means.

i agree. i mean COULD YOU GO ANY LOWER?!! i cant believe you would use someone jus for your advantage and could possibly even think that a THREESOME realtionship was okay? do you, your boyfriend and your girlfriend have any SELF RESPECT? obviously you guys have a \"disturbing\" way of showing that you love each other and i suggest you and your \"lovers\" go to a sex education class and go deeply into the subject about aids, stds, and other realted sexual diseases because if you cant tell if your girlfriend and boyfriend are so comfortable be intimate with you and each other wat makes you so sure they arent having sex with other people who might even have aids? obviously none of you guys know the meaning of love or respect.

p.s sorry, but i just want to be honest and not lie to you and try to comfort you and say its okay what you did because NO ITS REALLY NOT OKAY.

[elaboratedream]

i agree. i mean COULD YOU GO ANY LOWER?!! i cant believe you would use someone jus for your advantage and could possibly even think that a THREESOME realtionship was okay? do you, your boyfriend and your girlfriend have any SELF RESPECT? obviously you guys have a \"disturbing\" way of showing that you love each other and i suggest you and your \"lovers\" go to a sex education class and go deeply into the subject about aids, stds, and other realted sexual diseases because if you cant tell if your girlfriend and boyfriend are so comfortable be intimate with you and each other wat makes you so sure they arent having sex with other people who might even have aids? obviously none of you guys know the meaning of love or respect.

p.s sorry, but i just want to be honest and not lie to you and try to comfort you and say its okay what you did because NO ITS REALLY NOT OKAY.

yes, we all have self respect.

and I know they're faithful. and besides, we've all been tested multiple times.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

yes, we all have self respect.

and I know they\'re faithful. and besides, we\'ve all been tested multiple times.

im curious...what do you define as being faithful and having self respect? i kno that you think they are faithful because in your own mind you know that you wont be unfaithful to your boyfriend or girlfriend but your not in thier minds all day..and not all people are going to think like you how do you know if they meet someone else outside of your guys \"realtionship\" hey if they can sleep with more than one person wat stops them from sleeping with other people and not tell you? your not them and no matter how faithful you think they are you dont watch them 24/7 and they wont tell you the truth either.

when your boyfriend comes from having sex with your girlfriend and comes and haves sex with you do you think that is respectful to you? are you happy if your boyfriend kisses you and accidentally maybe he says another girls name besides you? you deserve to have a boyfriend or girlfriend who has time for you and only you. i mean its not right in my opnion that you 3 think its healthy to be in this kind of realtionship.

GOOD LUCK.

p.s dont use people, because karma is oh so real.

[Mizz1Exquisite]

Oh you are so wrong you are one



f**ked up bitch with you weird ass bi sexual three way relationship.

i mean how could you do such a thing. dump both your bf and gf.



damn your twisted.And even if you wanted to tell your self mabye there is a way to make this work ,you know you couldnt its terrible so over all make a sacrifice you should never mess with another heart what goes around will always come back around to bite you in the ass.

[expoised]

Eh. I don't have anything bad to say about your three-way relationship, except for the fact that I don't understand how three-ways can ever work out.

I guess I'm the possessive type and I want to be the ONLY one in my hypothetical boyfriend's life. I guess I'd get too jealous.

But whatever.

I think it's wrong to use people, but it's okay to have fun.

If she thinks you "love" her when all you're doing is using her as transportation and a source of entertainment, that's not a good thing in any "relationship."

I'd be careful of what you're doing, because someone's going to get hurt no matter what you decide.

[christina lee]

wow.

[Trinie]

this is crazy! i actually have one friend that has a 3-way relationship. but they are all lesbians, so they are very happy! i actually thought it wasnt going to work out beacuse the other 2 girls have been together for 8 years, and then my friend jumped into their relationship just 4 months ago. now all 3 of them are happy.

but this story of yours is just crazy........ either way someone is going to get hurt either way....

[loveTWOhateTWO]

Wow, you're in pretty deep, huh?

Well, let's see... Maybe it's just best to sit both of them down and talk about it. Or, try finding somebody completely different, and slowly pulling away from this little triangle.

[elaboratedream]

i dont care if you dont like my relationship.
I'm comfortable with having a three person relationship, we have plenty of self respect, and we're all faithful to each other.
i dont need people telling me how f**ked up i am for going out with two people.

you aren't answering my question properly by just telling me that i'm f**ked up and should break up with them solely because there are three people in the relationship.