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[smileeetina]

Okay! Enough with it, the "i love you's" it has to stop. I can't believe I've said it incessantly to people, and I actually didn't mean it. So now I've made an oath with my bestfriend. That when I get a boyfriend, I wont say "I love you" until 5/6 months in the relantionship. But what I'm really curious about is how the way he would re-act to it.

I think his questions will be:
Why aren't you saying "i love you" back?
Do you even love me?
Why wouldn't you say it?
Is it because your unsure of your feelings for me?
What do you mean? I don't get it.

Hopefully he won't break up with me just because of this. But I wanna mean what I say. What do you think?

[topsyturvy]

I completely agree with you. It ceases to have meaning when people are constantly saying it.

BUT worst of all is when your boyfriend forces you to say it and is constantly worrying about how many "i love you"s he hears.

I think his questions will be:
Why aren't you saying "i love you" back?
Do you even love me?
Why wouldn't you say it?
Is it because your unsure of your feelings for me?
What do you mean? I don't get it.

I can't stand people who say that. If someone merely mentions their "concern" for my not loving them, it's over. I mean, where is the trust!?

[*This Confession*]

I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationship before ever saying I love you. What happens if you actually get in a relationship and 3 months down the road you know what love really is and the meaning and feelings behind it and you figure out you love this guy. Yet you can't tell him how you feel until 5-6 months. So your just going to keep how you feel away from him?

I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationships feeling BUT make a promise and oath to not say I love you until you truly understand what love means and truly know your in it before saying it.


When he tells you he loves you and you know you don't love him, tell him the truth. They will like you even more for being completely honest with them. Tell him that you know you don't like him but you know that you really like him. You can't just change your feelings for someone with the snap of a finger or the trading of a few words. It takes time and patience.


I think you doing a good job and its a neat idea. If the guy breaks up with you for something you really think is right, and something you really want to do. Then hes not the right guy for you.

[smileeetina]

I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationship before ever saying I love you. What happens if you actually get in a relationship and 3 months down the road you know what love really is and the meaning and feelings behind it and you figure out you love this guy.

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Hey! Your so correct, this makes me rethink everything I just said about the monthly limit. I'll take your advice into TOTAL consideration. Lol, you have such a good point.

[*This Confession*]

Awe, I feel so I don't know. I'm glad you agree though and that I could help

[magicfann]

mmkay. i see.

i'll tell ya somethin i've never gone out with a girl longer than 5/6 months kekeke

[*This Confession*]

^that just shows how much of a committed relationship you want and how much you just want to learn about it all at the moment.

[redpeony]

My boyfriend of 11 months told me he loved me a few weeks into the relationship and I looked at him questionably and told him to stop and not say it again until he meant it.

He then admitted to saying it only because he thought I would like it if he did.

He told me he loved me a few months ago and I knew he meant it.

I'm sure your boyfriend would understand how you feel and would agree with your logic if he thought about it a little bit... no worries.

[expoised]

I think you should tell him you love him when you actually mean it. I mean, hey, what if 5 months pasts and you still don't feel like you love him? What is love anyways? Obviously, it's just a chemical equation. I just haven't figured out the second reactant yet and will probably never figure it out. And the entropy and enthalpy and energy of reaction... it's just not working out.

I'm a really reserved person. I'll admit to WANTING someone,... but I've never told anybody I loved them.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationship before ever saying I love you. What happens if you actually get in a relationship and 3 months down the road you know what love really is and the meaning and feelings behind it and you figure out you love this guy. Yet you can't tell him how you feel until 5-6 months. So your just going to keep how you feel away from him?

I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationships feeling BUT make a promise and oath to not say I love you until you truly understand what love means and truly know your in it before saying it.
When he tells you he loves you and you know you don't love him, tell him the truth. They will like you even more for being completely honest with them. Tell him that you know you don't like him but you know that you really like him. You can't just change your feelings for someone with the snap of a finger or the trading of a few words. It takes time and patience.
I think you doing a good job and its a neat idea. If the guy breaks up with you for something you really think is right, and something you really want to do. Then hes not the right guy for you.

seriously. i couldn`t agree more.

[purrfecto]

just say how you feel about your significant other when you're ready. don't set up a time limit to say "i love you". love just happens...as others said, what if you realize what love truly is before 5 months in dating the person? my parents dated for about 3 months before they got married...and they're still together. there is no specific time limit to determine when you're truly in love.

[goodcharlotte]

^Seriously. My uncle got married on his first date. He had a dream that he had to go buy an engagement ring he did and my parents set him up with my aunt and she had the same dream except she got proposed to.

[me1issaaaa]

I agree with purrfecto. It's not about the time period that you've been with them where you think is appropriate, it's how close you've gotten and all that you've shared together. For instance, my boyfriend and I were together for only a few months before we said it, but during that time we had become so incredibly close it's just unimagineable for anyone else to even comprehend, because they don't know about our relationship the way that we do. But, that's just me... whatever works for you.

[*Uronacid*]

Jeez, Holly you beat me to this one... and I completely agree ;]

[_sarcastic_]

i agree with holly, you shouldn't have a set time for you to say i love you to your significant other. you should say it when you know you mean it.
but yeah i totally agree with you

[*This Confession*]

yay most people agree with me in here

[EddieV]

Which is why I never said it..

[Nymphetamine]

I love you Eddie.

[EddieV]

I love you too Sandra!

[Nymphetamine]

[blurrr]

i think its a good idea to not say it too early...but dont put a time frame on it...u dunno if ur gonna fall in love with him in 5 months...if u truly are in love with him at 3 months then u can tell him...

[smileeetina]

HAHA, okayy thanks for the adddviiccee.
But what is love anyway? Whaaaattss your opinion?

[*This Confession*]

Oh NOES

WHATS LOVE?! What do you think love is?

Now that I think about it, its different for everyone, everyone expresses love in their own way. Its never the same. Thats why when you change lovers and move on your love is always going to be different for them, because people need to be loved in different ways.

Thats why you can't just jump in a relationship and say you love one another because you may know each other on the best friend level but not on the relationship level.


I'll have to come and edit this later

[*krnxswat*]

i think its a good idea to not say it too early...but dont put a time frame on it...u dunno if ur gonna fall in love with him in 5 months...if u truly are in love with him at 3 months then u can tell him...

We got that established already, shithead.

[*Uronacid*]

Love, simply put, is doing what id best for people, but love is complicated as hell and isn't always what it seems... this is a very broad deffinition, and if you want to know more you wil either have to ask more specific questions or think about what I said... for hours....

[smileeetina]

We got that established already, shithead.

Geez homie, don't got to to be so rude about it. Its okay to hear it more then once.

[*krnxswat*]

Geez homie, don't got to to be so rude about it. Its okay to hear it more then once.

NO, IT'S NOT. MY MOOMMY SAID I SHOULDN'T TALK TO VERSATILE BABY'S STOP GO AWAY!!!!

[smileeetina]

LOOOOOOOOOOOL! You think I'm a versatile BABY? HAHAHAH! Look whose talking mister.

ALL YOU HAD TO DO, was be nice about it. Was that so hard?!

Edit// Posted it back up, just for laughs.

[*krnxswat*]

LOOOOOOOOOOOL! You think I'm a versatile BABY? HAHAHAH! Look whose talking mister.

ALL YOU HAD TO DO, was be nice about it. Was that so hard?!

That's your xanga username, dumbshit.

[smileeetina]

I DIDNT SAY IT WASNT! HA!


Why don't we settle this on Aim or something?


Edit// Posted it back up, just for laughs.

[*krnxswat*]

If you're intrigued in me, just state it. Don't try to send indirect messages or beat around the bush, little pussy!

[smileeetina]

Okay! Intrigued in you? All I wanted to do was, work it out. DUHH. Aim is better? And I'm not being about Pussy about it, nor beating around the damn bush. PLUS, if you weren't being so damn rude about some one elses comment, none of this shit woulda happened. RIGHT?

Edit// Posted it back up, just for laughs.

[*krnxswat*]

Work it out? What's that 'it'? Does that "it" implicate my penis? In that case, perhaps a more appropriate way to work "this" out would be my bedroom; if you prefer, your bedroom. It's alright, babe. Everything's gonna be alright, k? I'll always be by your side, sweetiepie.

[*krnxswat*]

Who are you?



I'm Robbi.
...Be nice.
- CLYDE

[smileeetina]

Really? Work it out? Hmm.. my room it is!








SIKE! Okay, Work THIS out. Are you happy now?

[*krnxswat*]

You little pervert. I knew it all along. You were always interested in me. Why didn't you just say so? It's not my fault you pretended you didn't like me and someone else stole my heart away. Just forget it. Drop it. Drop it like it's hawt. Leave me alone, okay? My heart doesn't belong to you anymore. It belongs to my bestfriend, Bob.

[smileeetina]

Okay, you have issues. And Instant message me on AIM why dont you? Is it cause your afraid? And I don't want to create mess on Createblog budddddyy. Theres sio much I want to say to you that I can't say here.

[*krnxswat*]

How about you guys settle your private matters elsewhere, okay?

TEEHEEHEE. OUR "PRIVATE" MATTERS TEEHEEHEE

[smileeetina]

Quit it, already.

[*krnxswat*]

Okay, you have issues. And Instant message me on AIM why dont you? Is it cause your afraid? And I don't want to create mess on Createblog budddddyy. Theres sio much I want to say to you that I can't say here.

OKAY OKAY. What's your number?

[smileeetina]

Just gimme your aim.

[*krnxswat*]

Anyways, to get back on topic, sure, you can read tons of definitions of love others have defined for you, but that surely isn't going to let you know what love actually is. You're not going to know until you actually encounter/feel it.

[*krnxswat*]

Just gimme your aim.

hi im seon ho

[AngelinaTaylor]

^ This guy rocks!

[*Uronacid*]

Ugh, what a moron.. >.> dude just leave this topic... please... You're funny, but you're going to get the topic closed... -_-

[Mizz1Exquisite]

Damn dude your funny as f**k but you gotta leave this topic you could get it closed if your going to continue writing here you might wanna be a bit more specific about it k baby.



catch ya later sexy!

[*krnxswat*]

Ugh, what a moron.. >.> dude just leave this topic... please... You're funny, but you're going to get the topic closed... -_-

Who're you calling a moron? Frankly, I post more intellectual posts than you.

[Mizz1Exquisite]

ok lets be honest here you do act imature and more like a moron more then ever so just except it you sound really cute and smexy but sometimes your just to funny just way to funny and

[Synthetic.Love]

I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationship before ever saying I love you. What happens if you actually get in a relationship and 3 months down the road you know what love really is and the meaning and feelings behind it and you figure out you love this guy. Yet you can't tell him how you feel until 5-6 months. So your just going to keep how you feel away from him?

I don't think you should put a time limit on your relationships feeling BUT make a promise and oath to not say I love you until you truly understand what love means and truly know your in it before saying it.

^^Word. Haha. I was gunna say the same thing, but I realized it was already said.

There's no time limit on love, so you can't say "I won't say I love you until 5 or 6 months into a relationship." It doesn't work that way. Love is spontaneous, and it just is. It's something you can feel. And when you feel it, say it. No sooner, no later.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

First time my boyfriend said I love you to me was on the phone and I was awkward.. and was like UhhhhhhhhhHuh.. Then hung up and started hyper ventalating.. Haha

[*krnxswat*]

^

He's a real man, I tell you. He's got some f**king guts!

[GlecieC]

Ohh man. In my last relationship (which I am no longer in), I said "I love you" just because I thought the moment felt right. I thought the moment felt right, but my heart didn't...well at at that time yes. But as days flew by I realized it wasn't love, it was just infatuation. We broke up.

I hated how he always said "I love you" like every minute or something. I got so fed up I stopped answering and he'd be like "you don't love me anymore?" Grr sooooo annoying. But I'm over it now, and I know better.

Well everyone practically covered the whole thing for me. So good luck!

[Mizz1Exquisite]

I have experiance but I mean after being with my boyfriend for three years i know i love him not because of the time but because after the first time he said i love you which was a year and a half later I mean when we made love for the first time it meant more then i have ever imagined.I knew i love him because for every morning that i woke up next to him i felt as if i loved him more then the day before. I know that i love him because he has my heart and after learning what love really is the real meaning behind love i no longer dought him or us for that fact.At first going through all of this was weird to be honest but then after i knew that everything was going to be ok.

[pinacoolada]

Hmm..5 or 6 months? But what if you're really in-love before that? Shouldn't you express it?

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

^

He's a real man, I tell you. He's got some f**king guts!

O_o Was that sarcasum?

[Mizz1Exquisite]

O_o Was that sarcasum?

Nope Immature Idiot was being serious.

[cutey2kc]

I believe there is no set or permanent time to say "i love you," it seriously and really does just happen when someone thinks they really do love you... and that's the main importance of the phrase.