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 Sep 1 2006, 02:50 AM
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I remember having a conversation with my stepmom half a year ago about how my own grandmother thinks I'm a big stupid loser because I'm not in college at the moment, I don't have a car, I don't have much money, and I didn't have my own apartment (which I do now). My stepmom made a point, saying that in her eyes, I'm not successful because most of society views success as being financially stable and in college or working a respectable job. She said that my grandmother's perspective of me is flawed, so instead of seeing me as an intelligent, mature young adult, she sees me as a lazy, unsuccessful teenager, thus making me immature and stupid-- basically, a failure at life.
Anyhow, that got me thinking: if the normal people believe that the only definition of success, what would the more intelligent people have to say about it? What, in your opinion, is your definition of success, as an individual? (And if this topic is repeated, I'm sorry; I searched many keywords and didn't find anything on it.) |
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Sep 1 2006, 02:51 AM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Success is fulfilling your goal in life.
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Sep 1 2006, 02:56 AM
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well. it's how do you measure sucess, actually.
My success is feeling great about myself for achieving a difficult goal. A person with success is someone who is mentally stabled, had common sense, strong-minded, wise, courageous, and had passion in what he/she/it do. Basically, a person with a strong willpower who will take a challenging/long-term tasks. My success is accomplishing a goal that I happened to struggle with. |
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Sep 1 2006, 06:58 AM
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what ian said :]
your happy in life, comfortable, doing what you want to do |
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Sep 1 2006, 07:42 AM
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 what do you think it says....if so obvious. Group: Member Posts: 1,838 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,420 |
agreed. i still have the same problem regarding with my parents ...after reading so many articles , iopinions , bios of other sucessful people ..it seems like it has the same atitude ..)well not exactly the same atitude ) to get what they want ....i believe the most sucessful people out there arent doing it for titlement , fame , money , etc etc .... i think the most sucessful people are the people who get famous , rich , creative and sucessful ....when they least expect of it . .....because there too passionate too there objective . if you know lRlElNlTl which im guessing you do ....the whole musical is about life i think you should watch it .
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Sep 1 2006, 07:54 AM
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QUOTE(Mr. Slowjamz @ Sep 1 2006, 8:42 AM)  agreed. i still have the same problem regarding with my parents ...after reading so many articles , iopinions , bios of other sucessful people ..it seems like it has the same atitude ..)well not exactly the same atitude ) to get what they want ....i believe the most sucessful people out there arent doing it for titlement , fame , money , etc etc .... i think the most sucessful people are the people who get famous , rich , creative and sucessful ....when they least expect of it . .....because there too passionate too there objective . if you know lRlElNlTl which im guessing you do ....the whole musical is about life i think you should watch it . Why do you think that? I think sucessful people are the ones who achieve their goals in life and become the person that they want. Not because of money. Like.. y'know scientists? They don't earn much money (not as much as a stockbroker, but definitely enough to live on) but I think they're successful. Why? Well, because they discovered things that noone ever knew before. They prove things that were theories. They don't do it for the money! They do it for the knowlege. They do it to teach people. Not for pride, fame, ect. I respect scientists. In my opinion, they're the successful people. Which is why I want to be a scientist when I grow up 
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Sep 1 2006, 08:18 AM
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what do you think it says....if so obvious. Group: Member Posts: 1,838 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,420 |
QUOTE(rawr SOCK @ Sep 1 2006, 8:54 AM) Why do you think that? I think sucessful people are the ones who achieve their goals in life and become the person that they want. Not because of money. Like.. y'know scientists? They don't earn much money (not as much as a stockbroker, but definitely enough to live on) but I think they're successful. Why? Well, because they discovered things that noone ever knew before. They prove things that were theories. They don't do it for the money! They do it for the knowlege. They do it to teach people. Not for pride, fame, ect. I respect scientists. In my opinion, they're the successful people. Which is why I want to be a scientist when I grow up umm yea  ....thats what i meant .  . when they least expect of it/ don`t realize getting rich, famous ,publicized , succesful . . ...they are sucessful because they love what there doing .
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Sep 1 2006, 08:24 AM
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QUOTE(Mr. Slowjamz @ Sep 1 2006, 9:18 AM) umm yea ....thats what i meant . . when they least expect of it/ don`t realize it . ...they are sucessful because they love what there doing .QUOTE(Mr. Slowjamz @ Sep 1 2006, 8:42 AM) i think the most sucessful people are the people who get famous , rich , creative and sucessful .... Why did you say that^ then? You can't say that successful people are the ones who get successful.. That doesn't make much sense. |
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Sep 1 2006, 09:23 AM
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A few months ago, I had a conversation with my friend about this very idea. The worship of money is almost appalling in America, when you really think about it. People work all their lives—sometimes at jobs they hate—just so they can buy a lot of crap that they don't really need. Look at the average family's home, and see all the little trinkets and gadgets that aren't necessary or even useful in the slightest way.
It occurred to me that I don't want to work my whole life to fill up my house with stuff I don't need. My friend agreed, and told a good anecdote. He's at college, studying to be a doctor. Sure, he likes it; it's cool. But he's also an avid skiier, and he said his real thrill comes from looking down at the top of a sharp slope, feeling the adrenaline rush, and then whooshing off down that slope. In a way, that's what he lives for. He lives to ski, and he looks forward to tackling many more slopes. Being a doctor might help secure finances for that, but being a doctor isn't necessarily what he is. The problem is that in America, you're defined by your job. As an adult, when people ask who you are or what you do, they don't expect answers like "I'm a skiier" or "I'm an amateur musician" or "I grow a fabulous garden in my backyard." They expect answers like "I'm a teacher" or "I'm the vice-president of finance for This Corp." I think a person is successful if they are passionate about something, and lives to fulfill his passion, whatever that may be. And I think a person is successful if he is truly content and happy. Happiness and passion is what life is about. You only get one shot, so you might as well make it happen now. |
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Sep 1 2006, 09:55 AM
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what do you think it says....if so obvious. Group: Member Posts: 1,838 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,420 |
QUOTE(rawr SOCK @ Sep 1 2006, 9:24 AM) Why did you say that^ then? You can't say that successful people are the ones who get successful.. That doesn't make much sense. i shoudlve said the most sucessful people who get rich ,famous etc are the people who least expects it .... sometimes i have bad grammar ill admit it = / . |
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| *Zatanna* |
Sep 1 2006, 10:44 AM
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Being able to be in the shower for a short enough amount of time as to not run out of hot water.
Hey, I'm a simpleton. |
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Sep 1 2006, 12:36 PM
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what do you think it says....if so obvious. Group: Member Posts: 1,838 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,420 |
btw mipadi i kinda get intimidated by your avatar lol .
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| *Zatanna* |
Sep 1 2006, 12:43 PM
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QUOTE(mipadi @ Sep 1 2006, 10:23 AM) As an adult, when people ask who you are or what you do, they don't expect answers like "I'm a ski"...  My dream man is a ski. 
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Sep 1 2006, 02:01 PM
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QUOTE(Mistress Bags @ Sep 1 2006, 2:50 AM) I remember having a conversation with my stepmom half a year ago about how my own grandmother thinks I'm a big stupid loser because I'm not in college at the moment, I don't have a car, I don't have much money, and I didn't have my own apartment (which I do now). My stepmom made a point, saying that in her eyes, I'm not successful because most of society views success as being financially stable and in college or working a respectable job. She said that my grandmother's perspective of me is flawed, so instead of seeing me as an intelligent, mature young adult, she sees me as a lazy, unsuccessful teenager, thus making me immature and stupid-- basically, a failure at life. Anyhow, that got me thinking: if the normal people believe that the only definition of success, what would the more intelligent people have to say about it? What, in your opinion, is your definition of success, as an individual? (And if this topic is repeated, I'm sorry; I searched many keywords and didn't find anything on it.) Have you been stalking me? Tahts freakin story of my life. I've had thedrema of making music and beign successful at it and because I didn't make straight a's and make plans to go to college that I'm a lazy failure trying to use music as a way to laze my way through life. No matter how much I succeed at what I'm doing (like writing songs and recording them and putting together a website etc etc) because I'm not in college with a job with a corporation working miserably 9-5 5 days a week I'm a failure. Even though I enjoy what I'm doing and I will suceed they don't want to see it. I could be working at blockbuster(and I was) and they respected me more than for what I'm doing now. sucks. to me, success is happiness. I you wake up everyday satisfied with where you are and what you are doing, then you are successful. It depends on the person. And it takes time sometimes. I hate how peope think if you get a college degree you are automatically a success. My boyfriend is about to get a general studies degree, andall that willdo for him is get him a better job at thefast food joint. Its worthless...but because is a degree all of a sudden its worth something. I've got a full fledged plan for my life and I work hard for it everyday, andI'm a lazy slacker who will never amount to anything. So like I was saying, when you wake up and look at your life and are satisfied with yourself, that is success. Success can't always be compared to others because we're all supposed to be unique right? I mean sure I look at my successes and I compare it to say Beyonce or something, because we are both in the same thing. she is successful, and I'm not yet. But you can't compare me to say my cousin Lauren who is in school to be a teacher. But to everyone around me she is going to be successful and I'm not. Even though the second I win something or make some money the same people will be there acting like they supposerted you all along. I say base your success on yourself. Living a full happy life by your standards is success. at least...I think so haha. Success for me personally is grammys, platinum albums, fame and influence. I wanna be able to reach people through my music, and when I finally reach the point that I become a positive role model, I'll see myself as successful. Anything from that point on is just icing on the cake :) |
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Sep 1 2006, 02:22 PM
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 roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
My definition of success is leading a content and happy life based upon your goals or whatever you want.
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Sep 1 2006, 02:22 PM
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Remember, you're unique; just like everyone else! Group: Member Posts: 225 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 457,419 |
QUOTE(starlette @ Sep 1 2006, 2:01 PM) Have you been stalking me? Tahts freakin story of my life. Haha, well, I'm glad we can relate. :] |
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Sep 1 2006, 02:23 PM
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QUOTE(rawr SOCK @ Sep 1 2006, 5:54 AM) Why do you think that? I think sucessful people are the ones who achieve their goals in life and become the person that they want. Not because of money. Like.. y'know scientists? They don't earn much money (not as much as a stockbroker, but definitely enough to live on) but I think they're successful. Why? Well, because they discovered things that noone ever knew before. They prove things that were theories. They don't do it for the money! They do it for the knowlege. They do it to teach people. Not for pride, fame, ect. I respect scientists. In my opinion, they're the successful people. Which is why I want to be a scientist when I grow up LIAR !! YOU DIDNT TELL ME THAT!! |
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Sep 1 2006, 02:33 PM
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When did I not tell you that? Astrophysicist/Astronomer/Spectroscopist is just a type of scientist. I'm just keeping my options open. |
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Sep 1 2006, 05:00 PM
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Senior Member Group: Posts: 8,274 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,001 |
   oh yeah. |
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