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 Sep 1 2006, 01:09 AM
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so i've been hanging out with this guy that i used to date a few years ago. when we dated before it all turned out so bad and he pretty much broke my heart but since it was so long ago i forgave him and just went on with my life. well we've been hanging out again but we both just got outta pretty serious relationships. he's making plans of things to do like all winter so i assumed he plans on sticking around for awhile even if we are just friends. and even though we are, i know there are feelings there between the 2 of us. so tonight i confronted him and told him that i didn't care if we hung out and that i wasn't asking for a relationship right now since we both had just ended relationships of our own but i didn't want to get hurt again and if this whole thing was just a game to him, to end it now and stop talking. he told me he would try his hardest not to hurt me because he doesn't ever want to put me through that again and kissed me. but i'm not so sure i did the right thing by confronting him like that because when we talked on the phone when he got home, he was quiet like he was thinking and he told me i made him think too much...so idk...i'm confused and just wondering if i did the right thing or not...
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Sep 1 2006, 01:11 AM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Yeah. It just means that he is thinking about your relationship.
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Sep 1 2006, 01:16 AM
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Why didnt you care that you hung out?
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Sep 1 2006, 01:18 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 85 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,178 |
i didnt mean it like i didn't care if we hung out...i was just saying like i didn't mind hanging out as long as he didnt' hurt me again...
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Sep 1 2006, 02:19 PM
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I've never dated someone from the past... never really tried only for the reason of... if it didn't work out at first it wont work out again. But that's just me..
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Sep 1 2006, 03:13 PM
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All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Uh I don't think that is her question.
You made him think about what he wants in a relationship sense. Does he want to be friends or more? This is what he is talking about. |
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Sep 1 2006, 03:53 PM
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He broke your heart once. He could just as easily do it again. I don't know, I obviously don't know the entire story, but this guy just doesn't sound like someone I would trust. You definitely did the right thing because he should know what you're thinking, whether he thinks the same or not. Just be careful.
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Sep 1 2006, 03:53 PM
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 I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 |
I think you did the right thing. I don't think it's a good idea to get involved with past relationships.
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Sep 1 2006, 05:06 PM
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Addressing the relationship aspect the second time around was the right thing to do since it wasn't addressed the first time around. The fact that he said he would "try" is the biggest sign you will receive. You both are tainted by former relationships as well as your own past relationship...how much longer will you keep piling on the extras before the sweetness of the relationship starts to melt or tumble over?
I agree, going back (back-peddling) on past relationships especially on a "try" will only make you cynical further down the road of life. Keep the friendship but loose the hanging out unless it's a group thing. I also agree, the silence you heard on the other end of the phone was him "try"ing to assess his position in the "hanging out" relationship. Remember, a woman's definition of "hanging out" differs completely from a man's version. Realize what you really want in a relationship, don't settle, keep your goals in mind and wait. |
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Sep 1 2006, 07:31 PM
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you did the right thing by telling him that if he wants to hurt you again he better think twice . i agree with xoxo_koala_kisses_ he for some reason does not seem really trust worthy to me and could as easily break your heart again. you can be friends with him if you want but dont be anywhere alone with him go and hang out with a group of friends. trust should be gained back slowly and by actions he can easily say right now that he will \"try\" to never hurt you again but thas jus words anyone can say promises and break them easily wat you need is actions actually proving that he wont do anything to harm you.
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Sep 1 2006, 11:55 PM
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haha personally, if someone broke my heart once i`d forget about them.
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Sep 3 2006, 12:22 AM
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 What a sick, masochistic lion. Group: Member Posts: 1,853 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,535 |
QUOTE(yrrnotelekktric @ Sep 2 2006, 12:55 PM)  haha personally, if someone broke my heart once i`d forget about them. me too  if you guys's relationship didn't work out, there must have been a reason for it yeah? the times i've gone out with my exes have turned out pretty catastrophic.
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Sep 3 2006, 02:49 AM
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hmm he's probably thinking about getting back with you. so the question is.. IF he hurts you again, is the pain gonna be worth it ?
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