After The Break Up..., do you stay friends? Options

[177emories]

i know how most people say "lets just be friends" when they break up, but do you actually stay as friends after the break up?

i'm actually still friends with all my exes except for maybe like the first bf i had, well i don't really consider SOME those a relationship anymore now that i look back, they were just too short to be considerd a relationship... in my opinion less than 3 months...

[xtremeliquid]

You can always try to be friends.

[MrElsewhere]

second!! well im still frienz wif mai exes..

[xtremeliquid]

It might feel weird afterwards thats why.

[XxKrNqTcUiTyxX]

im still friends with mai exes

[fionnaax33]

[FONT=Arial][SIZE=1]i guess it depends on who you are. i mean, i had a few exes. but i dont talk to them again. i would say hi and everything. but i think they're still pissed off that it was me who broke up with them (;

[xquizit]

nope, the majority of my breakups are messy.

[phatty]

nope im not friends w. my exes

[x_perplexity]

im friends with all my ex boyfriends because they really are great people.

[illuminessence]

with most of my exes, we are cool, but the one that I really cared bout is a no no and wants nothing to do with me.

[immersion31]

i'm still friends with my ex gf's

[opim]

I'm still friends with half of my ex's. One half I don't see everyday and the other half, I see on a daily basis.

But then again..we talk occasionally...so I guess they're more of an aquaintance?

[mai_z]

im still friends with all of them, why make it hard fo urself rite? like i mean they really are great ppl, or i wouldn't have gone out wit thm rite?"

[rivendell]

Most of my breakups are messy messy things, and I'd rather avoid the exes at ALL COSTS.

Im actually only friends with one of my exes - he was my first real, substantial boyfriend too. We're very very close still.

I actually still have a thing for him ... even though we broke up a couple years ago.

[StarryEyedSurpri...]

i at least *TRY* to stay friends with my ex boyfriends... even though it dont work half the time

[dukesoccer07]

9 out of 10 people do not stay friends... that should explain everything...


Me and my ex were friends but she tried changing me cause she wanted to get back together with me... and i hate when people do that... so you do the math

[omgitsaudrey]

Ehh, it took me a couple of months, but we're talking. But not as much. He thinks that i've gotten over with whatever he's done. But in my head, i'm still really mad at him.

[barbie]

in some cases yes, but in alot no. either too painful or jsut too different

[Winter]

I've only had to real BFs and the break ups were mutual. So I'm still friends with both of them.

[HaNeul-ye]

no, because there's a reason for them being my exes. thats y i broke up with those bastards! excuse de language.

[silver-rain]

well, my boyfriend and i broke up mutually, but i guess he doesn't want to be friends or anything because he always tries to avoid me. but i still want to be his friend!

[dani41790]

im stio frenz with mai exs. in fact im almost best frenz with one of em. the rest moved away.

[psychoticangel]

hrm... well as far as I know, some break ups end up like that, and some are too violent or too messy as roxanne said. so yah. anyway, mai past break-up was... okai i guess? said it calmly and stuff... "I don't love you anymore" o.o;; was what i said just to make him stop calling o.0; there were more tears than yells so yah xD

[islandkiss]

I have a thread that relates to this. It depends on how you break up. I would want to stay friends with my exes though..

[sheepy]

im still friends with all of them, why make it hard fo urself rite? like i mean they really are great ppl, or i wouldn't have gone out wit thm rite?"

i agree

[cutielilsuga]

yup my and ex and me stayed friends for a while now
and we got other peoples in our lives of course
but it is so possible of course

[x0143637x0]

im not friends with one of my exs.. but tha other two i guess we're still friends

[LiTToE_sLeEpii]

I don't think i'm ever friends with any of my ex's. haha yeah yeah we always say "lets be friends" but i think it's just too much pain. to talk to each other and knowing we can't be together type of thing or either we just become friends but later.. we stop talking just cuz.. well yeah.. its to hard of an effort to be friends with an ex.... too much comes with it. well yeaaaaaaah..

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

usually i dont talk to them for a while,but then after that while....we become "friends" , its hard so yea...

[NawtyLilAznChic]

im friends wit only my first ex, kinda

i blocked my 2nd ex cuz it was kind of a messy...

n my 3rd ex, i really want nuttin ta do wit his stupid lyin fake ass

[LiNHy POO]

most i stayed friends with.. the guys at school i dated.. i dont even look at!! haha i dont know why!!

[mouse_3k]

My ex bf said tht *lets just be friends* thing. weird thing is...we actually did. we still good friends. hell, im going out wit his best friend and hes going out with my best friend. we tell each other wht to do to turn them on and stuff hahaha..ya we still tyte. its better then just not talking and be mad at them. we still cool lol

[NvieDi3ai3yGrL]

it's really hard to just stay friends when you may want that person more than that .. i don't really know how i'd handle it until it were to happen .. (knocks on wood)

[Darkpekkle]

some ex's stay friends, but a lot don't 'cuz it's just too hard- too much drama and bad emotions from the experience & sometimes you just want to forget that they ever stepped into your life (cuz for some, it hurts to remember)

i think it depends on the effort each party makes. i'm friends with a few of my ex's. the others are either: 1. they're bad people. or 2. they are unwilling to cooperate and are unwilling to even try to be friends.

[ichiban]

I was with this guy for 4 days ... back in december ... i don't talk to him anymore ... and i was with thiz guy who i've been friends with for about two monthes .. i was with him fer about a month .. nd i broke up with him and i discovered his true personality nd i dislike him sooo mch now ...

[yummienoodles]

my ex and i are trying to be friends bcuz like we both want to but its freakin awkward...

[defjam_gangsta]

Greetings!!

its kinda tough but it's worth da try but seriously, i can jolly well forget abt da whole idea. maybe we can be friends. certainly not now after da breakup. maybe some time after down da road tat kinda thingy. it works for me though.

CHEERS CB!!

[nyCzxfOx]

i stay friends with most of them cept one.. iwas trying to talk to him but one day he IMed me and yelled at me and said i was his ex and im not allowed to talk to him and it as really mean =/

[mizz_mithy]

i went out wit this boyu and when we broke up he made me cry. i couldn't talk to him for like 3 weeks been then after he became a friend. now i don't get why i even went out wit him.

[itskatherine XD]

im trying to stay friends with my ex, but its hard, just like everything else.

i just hope that time would tell where all this would lead to.

[xsweetdreams12x]

I've never been in a relationship, so I can't say.

After a break-up though, I'd want to be friends with him, I suppose. It matters how harsh the break-up was.

[sandra]

hmm my ex never said lets be friend. so we no longer talked

[babieshortie]

i guess i TRY to stay as frends..
otherwise we just treat eachother like strangers...like my first..

[strwbrryluv8]

i guess i TRY to stay as frends..
otherwise we just treat eachother like strangers...like my first..

finally found you...

but anyways.... for me... well...
my first one... i juss dint wanna talk to him... n from this day on... i still havent talked to him.... like for a year now... bleh...

but for my ex i still talk to him occasionally... but one topic to not bring up while talkin is... the relationship that u had together... BAD.

[sh0rt13]

hm..well im not really friends w/ my first bf...i neva talk to him ne more. i've only had one boyfriend..so yeah

[sweetlyz]

not really friends but acquaintances. as for my recent ex, we JUST broke up, its hard for us to be friends. It was a mutual agreement but we both crossed certain lines in the heat of anger that`s its tOo hard to be friends. He wants to stay away, personally i don`t .. i need him there as my friend still, as my support. But he did wayy tOo much to me that he says he feels tOo guilty.

[whywasisostupid]

sort of. my 1st one is stilll a butthole. every1 i stil keep in touch, cept AJ...i wish we culd still talk more.

[SSJ Kenshin]

Yeah. We usually do. None of my ex's ever had any animosity toward me after we went our seperate ways.

[sweetlaochick]

hm.......well at first we say that and its akward. but eventually me and my ex'es go back to being friends.

[*FreeStickers*]

I've stayed friends with all my ex boyfriends except one. Well, he wasn't really my boyfriend.

[sweetdreamsx3]

You can try, but then eventually I ruin it. LOL :D Depends on who the guy is though..iono but yes you can stay friends if HE really means it.

[ceng]

me and my ex broke up like a week ago.. and he said "lets just be friends".. i've known him for a long time, 5 years? and started really talking to him like 4 months ago. got w/ him like a month ago. and we broke up. now it just feels awkward talking w/ him. i mean you just don't feel as close as you were b4 you guys got together. so we still talk, somewhat, but it's just a really awkward feeling.. you dont' feel comfortable around them anymore.. -_-

[c0nfus3dmisfit]

yeah i try to stay friends. no point in ruining a friendship over a broken relationship. does that even make sense?

[dreamerOi]

usually just like half im friends and half im not but sometimes i wish i wasnt because like if he was your first bf you still think about him or whatever and yea it sucks. like my first bf is my first love and blah and wer sort of like good friends but it sucks cause when hes with a girl or whatever i get freakishly jealous