jealousy Options

[ashleymarie123]

is anyone else jealous of your girlfriend or boyfriend's ex? does it bother you that they still talk? do you feel like you have to somehow compete with them? does anything else make you jealous? get back to me if you have answers or advice :o)

[lyin_in_wait]

yea, i get jealous of his coworkers...im jealous when other people make him laugh when i cant. i feel competition everywhere around me... i just try to remember if he wanted to be with them, he would be. but hes with me, and that usually helps

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

My boyfriend dosent have really ex's that I hear about so.. no.. But if he did I think I would. Like if she kept calling him on his cell phone taht he dosen't have.

[*LaStiNg4EtErNiTy*]

yeah i know what you mean. it's not actually my bf, but the guy that i'm talking to has this crazy ex gf who is still obsessed with him and stuff. since she is really really pretty, it makes me feel like i have to compete wit her or something. idk. yeah..

and like everytime they hang out, she would try to get close to him and stuff. it's kinda weird since i we're not really anything yet...but still...yeah i do get jealous

[*This Confession*]

Hmm, at first I was a little. She really liked him as most could tell I think. Eventually it just faded but I suppose I thought about it when he use to hang out with her a lot. She didn't exactly like me either, and I didn't like her for some reasons, but I got over them quickly. I did feel as if she could have completed him again even though they had broken up before, it still had been years since they were together and perhaps there was still some chance for them, I almost got to the point of telling him to go for her, but I never got around to it. No one else or anything ever made me jealous besides her, its really odd. because in most relationships I just don't get jealous of other people. I feel secure enough not to be, most of the time.

Anyway I just talked to him about it eventually and he told me why they broke up and all kinds of other stuff and through out time I got over it. I never had any grudge against her, but in some ways she would just irk me. Now its fine though, I think shes a really neat person, and very care free unless someone says something she doesn't want to hear, which is seems as if I do that a lot

[silver-rain]

Eh yeah, especially his first ex. I really don't like her, and my boyfriend and I have gotten in fights over it. I dunno, she's really pretty and skinny and I guess I'm just jealous that she was his "first" girlfriend, kiss, etc and that she knows him better. And, I hate the fact that they're still friends, while me and my ex barely talk anymore. Eh, I've been trying to get over it, but it annoys me sometimes.

[msladyliberty]

Hell no! I'm not jealous of "her".
She should be jealous of me! LOL

I "used" to be jealous of her. She was my man's first love, so I'm sure there was some attachment to her. So they still talked while we first dated.

Then, we got serious...and the boy STILL talked to her! I was pissed. I don't give a flippin' F if they're good friends, or she knows about me, or whutever...I just felt like our relationship wasn't respected!

One day, I happened to see her at my school. And I was like,

So I asked my man, "Did your ex move here recently?"
Him: "Yea, how'd you know?"
Me: "You still talk to her?"
Him: "Honestly, yea. Are you mad?"

Me: NO!
I saw her at school! And honestly, if it makes you feel like a better man to keep talking to her, then by all means do.
Him: "What?"
Me: "I don't mind if you talk to her. I can't SEE why you still do. But if you feel like down-grading for the $, then that's coo with me. As long as you're happy and you don't waste my time."

I know it was insulting!

So to answer your questions:

jealous of ex-gf? Jealous? of what?
did it bother you when they talk? Yes, who wouldn't?
feel like competing with them? Compete? With what?
does anything else bother you? Yes, she's has MONEY. I wish I had richer parents.

[Listelle]

Yes, I get hella jealous. I picked a good egg and he's friends with most of his exes. It bothered me alot because I knew a couple of his exes were still interested in him, but recently we had a talk where we both let everything out and we understand each other now. I didn't ask him to stop talking to and hanging out with his friends, but he understands that they make me uncomfortable so he agreed to stay out of compromising situations. We also talked to this one girl who especially worried me and everything is fine there now. On my side, I have to trust him more and realize that at the end of the day, he's with me. If something ever comes up that makes me or him slightly worried, we have to talk it out. So it worked out well for us and as cliche and overused as it is, just talk to him

[ashleymarie123]

wow im glad to see im not the only one! especially those that were concerned about the 'first love' because thats my problem... my first real boyfriend cheated on me with HIS first love who came before me, and now im with my second boyfriend whom im absolutely in love with and i trust him its just i get insecure about his ex because they were together for over 3 years and its only been a year for us. i talked to him about it though, communication is key. he also told me how shitty their relationship was so that made me feel better because ours is so great but it always makes me wonder whats really going on in his head...if he misses her or whatnot because i dont ever miss my ex...maybe if i did that would make us even. i guess its just something you have to live with?

[_sarcastic_]

yeah it makes me jealous. but i can't get mad at him, cause i talk to my ex too at times...

[illriginal]

The problem with women (no pun intended) is that they take things literally. Women like to sometimes think the worst of the worst and then it starts to f**k with their heads.

Listen what's important is that you make the time you spend together important. Life's life... people will flirt with you, but does that mean you're gonna flirt back? Someone will say a funny joke and you laugh, does it mean you like them and want to sleep with them? Jealousy is one component that will easily... I mean EASILY destroy a relationship. The person that's jealous will become scacred of trusting their partners in a relationship, rather it be constant with every partner or it be once in a while... it will happen.