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 Aug 19 2006, 05:59 PM
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 <3  Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493  |
ok so i just moved to california and i started junior year in a new school
the problem is it's junior year and well ppl in that school already has groups and such. how am i suppose to fit in in a group? i know i know be myself and what not. but i'm more of a shy quiet type. i feel really out of place. 
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Aug 19 2006, 06:11 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 7,149 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 213,509 |
hmm go introduce yourself,meet them,join sports/clubs.. i remember being new and i had no friends for like 2months,and it stunk because i was the only asian and no one liked me
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Aug 19 2006, 06:13 PM
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I remember when I had to go to a new school, even though that was a long time ago.
I'm really quiet so it was really hard on me and I felt totally out of place. I just took some time to get to know who was in what "clique"... Some people were incrediablly mean to me and others were nice. I would hang out with the people who didn't mind me being there. But for me things eventually changed and once I got to know people I became more comfortable around them and so I lost some of my friends and got some new ones. I guess if I was to give my input it would just be to get to know who's who (if that makes any sense). And don't be afraid to start conversation with someone you don't know. You'll find your place. |
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Aug 19 2006, 07:20 PM
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Hmm, in my middle school, whenever there's a new kid, instead of the new kid introducing themself and meeting new people, the people who were already like in the school, they go up to the new kid and start talking to them. Maybe some people would come up to you and start a convo with you.
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Aug 19 2006, 07:23 PM
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 the bird and the bee sides! Group: Member Posts: 1,697 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 201,280 |
Yeah, join some clubs and get involved in school activities. Introduce yourself to people. Be yourself, and I'm sure people will want to get to know you. Just give it some time if it doesn't happen all at once. Good luck (;
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Aug 19 2006, 07:26 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 2,614 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,903 |
I really woulden't know what to do in this kind of situation. I never moved out of my school district. I pretty much grew up with the same people all my life. I think it's kind of boring but I woulden't wanna be anywhere else. I guess I am just so used to it.
Think of this as a game that you have to get to the next level. This might be good for you. You meeting new people and what not. Go for it. Talk to people dont be shy. I know it is easy to say but not easy to do. Trust your self. If they dont like you. For get them your better then what they ever will be. Be happy! :-) Have fun. Good luck! |
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Aug 20 2006, 08:58 PM
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 Sup. I'm Deb =] Group: Human Posts: 650 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,227 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Aug 19 2006, 3:59 PM)  ok so i just moved to california and i started junior year in a new school the problem is it's junior year and well ppl in that school already has groups and such. how am i suppose to fit in in a group? i know i know be myself and what not. but i'm more of a shy quiet type. i feel really out of place. Don't worry, I'm basically in the same situation, except I'm starting sophmore year instead of junior. It sucks too because this is the first time I'll be labeled as "The New Kid" since I've known the people all my life at my old school. Haha, let's go through this together 
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Aug 20 2006, 09:25 PM
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same here. im new at church, and new for this sophomore year!
& i have trouble talking to new people, especially when they have their own group. But you just have to talk about everything you can think about, and smile. if you seem uninterested, people wont approach you. act like you are happy to be there, even if you dont feel it. this has been working for me at church so far.. good luck 
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Aug 20 2006, 10:05 PM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Basically find one person you can relate with. Usually they can help you fit in. If you fit in with them their friends will probably like you too. If not atleast you have them.
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Aug 20 2006, 10:24 PM
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 sweetest sin... Group: Member Posts: 502 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,920 |
you should try introducing yourself to other people and maybe you could try finding someone that has the same interest as you, i'm sure it won't be that bad at all.
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Aug 20 2006, 11:34 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i am thinking of joining clubs and such.
the problem is during lunch...i don't know how to walk up to a certain group and ask to join them. and i don't know what to talk to other people about |
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Aug 21 2006, 01:32 PM
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 la baile de noche Group: Member Posts: 212 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,018 |
It might not even be that hard....whenever my school gets a new student, almost everyone smothers them and wants to get to know them before everyone else...
And about the lunch thing, you could tell them about your old school and friends, or something.. |
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Aug 21 2006, 09:33 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
in some schools the ASB captains have a job of making the new kids feel welcome. they're like assigned a person...
if you dont have that, just try to strike up a conversation with the person sitting next to you in each class. work buddies are almost instant friends lol. after a few days hopefully you'll be friendly with them, then friends. then get them to introduce you to more ppl. it'll be hard... i would definitely be scared. if not, try joining a club or sport.
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Aug 21 2006, 09:37 PM
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QUOTE(angel_revelation @ Aug 21 2006, 6:33 PM) if you dont have that, just try to strike up a conversation with the person sitting next to you in each class. work buddies are almost instant friends lol. after a few days hopefully you'll be friendly with them, then friends. then get them to introduce you to more ppl. it'll be hard... i would definitely be scared. if not, try joining a club or sport.exactly what i was going to say. im going to be the new kid next year x[ so im also these on notes =) |
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Aug 22 2006, 12:49 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
yeah i have this lunch thing with the ASB this wednesday, hopefully i'll find friends there.
see no one knows i'm the new kid, cause well i started school the same day everyone did, so everyone was excited to see each other to notice a new kid around.... 
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Aug 22 2006, 11:28 AM
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QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Aug 19 2006, 6:59 PM) ok so i just moved to california and i started junior year in a new school the problem is it's junior year and well ppl in that school already has groups and such. how am i suppose to fit in in a group? i know i know be myself and what not. but i'm more of a shy quiet type. i feel really out of place. oh yea me too, in my case, i just moved to toronto from hong kong and i am starting high school (grade 9) this year, i am pretty scared too and i don't know a thing around here 
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Aug 22 2006, 11:48 PM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i hate feeling like a loner....
i'm like wondering around campus alone during lunch...
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Aug 23 2006, 12:10 AM
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Sup. I'm Deb =] Group: Human Posts: 650 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,227 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Aug 22 2006, 9:48 PM) i hate feeling like a loner.... i'm like wondering around campus alone during lunch... Oh gosh. Same here. And I just found out that we get to go off campus at lunch, so it's like, I'll probably the only one who's on campus and with no friends.
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Aug 23 2006, 01:42 AM
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QUOTE(n_Oodles @ Aug 21 2006, 10:32 AM) It might not even be that hard....whenever my school gets a new student, almost everyone smothers them and wants to get to know them before everyone else... my school is the exact opposite. well its an all girls school.And about the lunch thing, you could tell them about your old school and friends, or something.. but anyways whenever we get someone new they`re usually outcasts. but if you happen to know someone who is "popular" then it alll works out. Usually its just making the right friends. But also, dont get too attached to someone or else you`ll just appear clingy. |
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Aug 28 2006, 10:09 PM
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Sup. I'm Deb =] Group: Human Posts: 650 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,227 |
I had my first day of school as a "new kid" today...it was bizarre, fun, and really scary all at the same time.
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Aug 30 2006, 12:24 AM
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<3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i've been the new kid for a week now, it's not that bad,
cept mostly everyone doesn't know i'm new unless i tell them or something. |
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