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| *Uronacid* |
 Aug 17 2006, 07:44 AM
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Did you ever know someone who seemed to always want you to open up to them, but never seemed to open up to you in return? You would tell them things, but they rarely wanted to say anything back... They expect you to tell them everything, but they don't expect to tell you anything in return...
*just pokeing your brains* how did/would it make you feel? Me: It would make me feel like I want to pull myself away from the person. I feel like they don't want me to ge to know them... It would drive me away... |
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Aug 17 2006, 11:00 AM
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Yes, I've known people like that. When you first open up to them, it kina makes you think that you're becoming really close friends. But after a while when you get nothing back, you're left feeling kinda used. It's not that you don't like them anymore, they just have a bad after taste. Its like they're using your opening up as a back door to becoming your friend.
But sometimes those kinda relationships work. I have a person who I feel I can any and everything, so he knows all about me. On the flip side, I don't even know if he has a girlfriend. I don't feel used here for some reason. I love talking to him and he listens like noone else does. |
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Aug 17 2006, 11:08 AM
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QUOTE(Listelle @ Aug 17 2006, 12:00 PM)  Yes, I've known people like that. When you first open up to them, it kina makes you think that you're becoming really close friends. But after a while when you get nothing back, you're left feeling kinda used. It's not that you don't like them anymore, they just have a bad after taste. Its like they're using your opening up as a back door to becoming your friend. But sometimes those kinda relationships work. I have a person who I feel I can any and everything, so he knows all about me. On the flip side, I don't even know if he has a girlfriend. I don't feel used here for some reason. I love talking to him and he listens like noone else does. Hmmm... I can't say what I'm thinking... I know what you mean about someone who just listens all the time and you don't care what they think or say... It's like really easy then, because you just like... using them as an outlet, and you know that that is the relationship you share with them. What if you really care about what they think? |
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Aug 17 2006, 11:20 AM
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Am I using him? I hope not. I don't think its a completely one way street. Talking isn't the only thing we do. We hang out and do all the things friends do. Just when we do sit down and talk about deeper issues, he's less comfortable talking about his life problems and much more with listening and offering advice. He calls himself our group's Mr. Therapist. I do care about what he thinks and says, both pertaining to my issues as well as his own. I'm not completely clueless about his life. I know his life plans and I've been there when he had his girl issues, just right now, after his last misadventure, he stopped talking about that.
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Aug 17 2006, 11:23 AM
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QUOTE(Listelle @ Aug 17 2006, 12:20 PM) Am I using him? I hope not. I don't think its a completely one way street. Talking isn't the only thing we do. We hang out and do all the things friends do. Just when we do sit down and talk about deeper issues, he's less comfortable talking about his life problems and much more with listening and offering advice. He calls himself our group's Mr. Therapist. I do care about what he thinks and says, both pertaining to my issues as well as his own. I'm not completely clueless about his life. I know his life plans and I've been there when he had his girl issues, just right now, after his last misadventure, he stopped talking about that. Alright, I see what your saying.. you both have a mutual understanding adn accept things the way they are... What about in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship? |
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Aug 17 2006, 11:38 AM
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you know it all depends on what kind of relationship you have with this person. I have alot of my little cousins friends (she is 17 my cousins daughter) come to me for advice and stuff. I get to know alot about them, But they do not know anything about me except I got a lot of tattoos. So to me some people just want to help or listen and do not want to bog it down with there own things and focus on you and what you are trying to tell them. Do not feel that this person does not want you to know them, maybe they are just doing it to be nice and respectful.
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Aug 17 2006, 12:01 PM
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QUOTE(satch @ Aug 17 2006, 12:38 PM) you know it all depends on what kind of relationship you have with this person. I have alot of my little cousins friends (she is 17 my cousins daughter) come to me for advice and stuff. I get to know alot about them, But they do not know anything about me except I got a lot of tattoos. So to me some people just want to help or listen and do not want to bog it down with there own things and focus on you and what you are trying to tell them. Do not feel that this person does not want you to know them, maybe they are just doing it to be nice and respectful. I feel like they don't want me to get to know them... but it doesn't make any sense... it's like they want to get to know me, but every time I share all these things with them (because they ask me too) it's like they won't share anything with me... It's really discouraging and I hate it... |
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Aug 17 2006, 12:06 PM
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Well I'm kind of like that to some people. Because I rarely open up to someone. It's too scary for me.
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Aug 17 2006, 12:09 PM
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What side was that Prvt Pile? Group: Member Posts: 131 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 451,960 |
QUOTE(Uronacid @ Aug 17 2006, 10:01 AM) I feel like they don't want me to get to know them... but it doesn't make any sense... it's like they want to get to know me, but every time I share all these things with them (because they ask me too) it's like they won't share anything with me... It's really discouraging and I hate it... Do you ask them? and if so what do they say? |
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Aug 17 2006, 12:17 PM
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They say nothing... or they accually say, "nothing"... or they give me a one word answer that leaves me clueless, and I don't understand them at all...
QUOTE(Angelina Taylor @ Aug 17 2006, 1:06 PM) Well I'm kind of like that to some people. Because I rarely open up to someone. It's too scary for me. Hmmm... me too, but... it's even scarier when you open up to someone and they don't say anything back... I can't talk about this anymore... I'm sorry... I can only talk about it in a hypothetical situation... I'm sorry I will not discuss this any further... :/ |
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Aug 17 2006, 12:22 PM
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I don't open up period .. at least now, cause it's seems like once you open up and vent everything and about everyone to someone you trust .. it just feels like your vulnerable now.
Been backstabb so many times .. You end up having trust issues ..least that's how i feel .. |
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Aug 17 2006, 12:26 PM
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Yah i have known ppl like that before.
But it's most likely not that they don't want to open up to you.. It's just probably that they cant. They might be insecure. or that might just feel like you wouldn't care. |
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