I don't know how to come out of the closet, Any tips? Options

[broken inside]

I'm bisexual, but I like girls more. My friends all think I'm straight. I told one friend that I was "confused". I don't know how to even bring it up. If anyone has a comming out story they want to share it would be helpfull...

[shigger_sweetie]

Just let it flow.
Don't be afraid.
If your proud to be what you are then don't doubt yourself.
I guess when your talking about life or whatever with your friends just be like hey I'm going to be real with you guys.
But that's all I could say because Im straight.
I do know one thing, I have had a few associates say they were Bi and I didn't flip out and like not talk to them anymore because they were different then me.
So hopefully your friends will understand your differences like I understood my friends differences.

[goodcharlotte]

I am straight but maybe since your friends know you they won't think of you differently. I don't know them but maybe. You should be yourself and tell them. Maybe come up with a related topic and then telling them. Sorry that is all the advice I have because I've never had to do that.

[*Uronacid*]

As many people know... I'm not for homsexuality, but I'm deffinitly not a homophobe. So, I will try my best to give you advice so that you don't loose your friends, and you can still be yourself around them.

Well, um... man, that's really difficult... I would tell them, but make sure they know that you don't like them like that. If your striaght girl friends get the idea that you like them.. I thinkyou will loose some friends. Even striaght people don't handle it well when someone likes them and you don't like them that way back. Just be clear with them that you don't like them that way (if you don't), and you think of them as strictly friends. Also, most people will not be able to understand. I suggest you only tell your closest friends at this piont or at least until you are completely comfortable in your descition to be bi-sexual.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

i`ve never had to do this either, but if you were to, make sure it`s not
in a joking manner be serious and let them know that if it were a joke, it would really hurt your feelings.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

"Hey ____. Can I tell you something. Im bisexual."

If they're okay with it, they're great friends. If they're okay with it and then get worried that you may like them, tell them "Don't flatter yourself, you aint special"

If they dont accept you, f**k those bitches they ain't worth your time.

(:

[tooeffingcrazy]

Go tell a girl first. (If you have any close girl-friends).

YOU'LL EARN YOURSELF A HAG!

[artisticpariah]

Haha! Well think on the positive sides, people who are bi get to be in both sides of the gender's shoe, which means you'll become wiser from experience... I'm straight btw...

[*Uronacid*]

Haha! Well think on the positive sides, people who are bi get to be in both sides of the gender's shoe, which means you'll become wiser from experience... I'm straight btw...

I don't think that it works that way >.>

[femmefatale4160]

One of my good (girl) friends told me she was a lesbian a few months ago. I wasn't shocked, and I handled it very well. I don't think of her any differently. Everyone else is right--if they're really your friends, they won't mind. Test it out on just one friend first. Find one girl you feel that you can tell anything to, and go over to her place. Say, "Um, _____, can I tell you something?" She'll probably say "sure." "I'm bisexual, but I prefer girls." She should understand.

[bobby james]

Well, believe it or not...some of your friends and family probably have noticed it already :) There's going to be people who are not surprised and usually these are the people that KNOW you.
There's not a good way to come out, seriously. The worse way though is to get "caught". You don't wanna do that, it's embarassing, believe me, girl. It's going to be hard and it's not easy.
Telling one friend is a good step. But how about you just sit down and tell them calmly and with confidence. They'll respect your decision more. And let them know that you do not want any of them, because that is the first thing that will probably pop in their head.
ALSO, a lot of your friends are probably just like you...or at least one of them. They probably already saw signs anyway though. My guy friends knew, my mother said she "knew from the start and it was only a matter of time". Dad still doesn't know, but I will tell him later in life. My friends new because they saw that I was "re-inventing" myself into how I really wanted to be. I did that purposely, the first part of coming out is to be comfortable with yourself and explore. I started hanging out with al ot of girls, and my friends noticed.
Told them I liked guys, found out two of them did also, and now nearly all of them have experienced. I did lose one friend though, but oh well.

My girlfriends had one girl in their group that was gay, and guess what, everyone knew a year before she came out. WE were just all waiting for her to tell us.

[*Uronacid*]

Well, believe it or not...some of your friends and family probably have noticed it already :) There's going to be people who are not surprised and usually these are the people that KNOW you.
There's not a good way to come out, seriously. The worse way though is to get "caught". You don't wanna do that, it's embarassing, believe me, girl. It's going to be hard and it's not easy.
Telling one friend is a good step. But how about you just sit down and tell them calmly and with confidence. They'll respect your decision more. And let them know that you do not want any of them, because that is the first thing that will probably pop in their head.
ALSO, a lot of your friends are probably just like you...or at least one of them. They probably already saw signs anyway though. My guy friends knew, my mother said she "knew from the start and it was only a matter of time". Dad still doesn't know, but I will tell him later in life. My friends new because they saw that I was "re-inventing" myself into how I really wanted to be. I did that purposely, the first part of coming out is to be comfortable with yourself and explore. I started hanging out with al ot of girls, and my friends noticed.
Told them I liked guys, found out two of them did also, and now nearly all of them have experienced. I did lose one friend though, but oh well.

My girlfriends had one girl in their group that was gay, and guess what, everyone knew a year before she came out. WE were just all waiting for her to tell us.

Wow, this is accually really good advice.... >.>

[fagget]

Oh, my. i thought the topic said "I don't know how to come."

Anywho.
Well, I haven't exactly "came out of the closet" to my mom yett. But my mom did say "Eva, I think you're gay." in a kidding way, but like shot me 2 or 3 glances looking for my reaction or something. And I think she kind of suspects that. :[
But with my friends, it was hard to tell the people that was closer to me. But most of them said, "Yeah, Eva, it's kind of obvious." I was just there like "It was?" LOL
So yeah, don't be scared. Tell them who you are!