problem with the love, need some help on this |
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 Aug 14 2006, 09:40 AM
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 i love my lady yup yup!  Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,518  |
ok, so i have been together with my love for 1 year and 5 months. we are happy right now. i dont think anything to this point, could break us apart.
but this flashback from last summer keeps on coming to my head. my girl and I went out to Missouri to see some friends and family. she went off and done whatever with her friends. i trusted her. but this one boy, i could tell, really wanted my girl. that one night, he kissed her. i wanted to beat the crap outta the guy. but i couldnt, because there were plenty of cops around there. still to this day, i want to beat the living hell out of him. my girlfriend still talks to him. he lives all the way in TX, and we are in Michigan. so what could he do, right? but i saw him again a couple weeks ago. he was giving me and my boys dirty looks. i was like.. wth, i let you talk to my girl without hesitation, why are you giving me these looks? so this solution comes to my mind... i want to tell my girlfriend to stop talking to this bastard. is it the right thing to do?? i mean, it brings back bad memories when i hear or see him. he's such an ass i need some feedback, i want to tell her ASAP. |
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Aug 14 2006, 10:54 AM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
You can tell her to stop talking to him but she might think you are overreacting or too controling. Did you try talking to her? Talking usually helps in these situations. Tell her how you feel about him and what he does.
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Aug 14 2006, 11:18 AM
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 What the fack. Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 |
^I agree.
First, before telling your girlfriend to just stop talking to him, tell her how this guy makes you feel. Maybe she'll ask what his deal is and it'll all resolve on its own. If you and your girlfriend are as strong as you say you are, I'm sure there'll be no problem. |
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Aug 14 2006, 11:55 AM
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 I know you're gonna save me Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,431 |
I say just beat the shit out of him :)
jk don't do that, then your gf will REALLY think you're controlling. You should talk to BOTH of them, the guy and your girl. Tell the guy that you don't know why he suddenly dislikes you, but you feel like he shouldn't, especially considering you let him kiss your girlfriend. Then talk to your girlfriend and tell her pretty much everything you told us. Just talk to these people. One thing I don't understand about some of you CBers is that you have this thing about talking to people. You have to tell a whole bunch of strangers before you can talk to the peole who are actually involved, when usually just talking to them about the problem is the solution. But if that's the way you want to do it... |
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Aug 14 2006, 04:38 PM
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i love my lady yup yup! Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,518 |
QUOTE(candy_coated_kisses @ Aug 14 2006, 12:55 PM)  Just talk to these people. One thing I don't understand about some of you CBers is that you have this thing about talking to people. You have to tell a whole bunch of strangers before you can talk to the peole who are actually involved, when usually just talking to them about the problem is the solution. But if that's the way you want to do it... lol.. you have a point there. so i did tell my girlfriend to stop talking to him. but she dissagreed. she said "how would it help me??" she does have a point. she also was dissapointed. but she was glad i bought up this situation. im a tad bit down, but i dont want to be controlling and tell her to stop. im not that kinda guy. so i guess i'll just have to deal with it thanks to the CBers that replied with the advice |
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Aug 14 2006, 04:49 PM
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 Selv Group: Member Posts: 259 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 449,755 |
Tell your girl what you basically just said but in "Awh-words" well thats what my girl calls them. Tell her that your really uncomfortable with her talking to him and that you cant get your mind offof that time he kissed her. Tell her that you love her and that you would die to see her with any other guy. Thats when she gets all awh i love you (and inserts a kiss) lol
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Aug 14 2006, 05:57 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,388 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,129 |
you could ask her friends about him. like sort of hint it to them that you find him fishy. because they will probably tell your girlfriend so yeah.
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Aug 14 2006, 08:06 PM
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exactly, confront thw guy and his friends. Don't do it in a mean or aggressive manor. Just tell them how you feel.
Something similar to this, "Hey look, I really don't want to think anything negative about you. I don't have a problem with you talking to my girlfriend or hanging out with her, but I get the impression that you are trying to sever our relationship. As a guy to another guy, if this is the case I feel like it's pretty disrespectful." Just make sure you don't flip out, or your girl will get pissed at you. |
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Aug 15 2006, 09:09 AM
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All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
QUOTE(candy_coated_kisses @ Aug 14 2006, 12:55 PM) Just talk to these people. One thing I don't understand about some of you CBers is that you have this thing about talking to people. You have to tell a whole bunch of strangers before you can talk to the peole who are actually involved, when usually just talking to them about the problem is the solution. But if that's the way you want to do it... It's like Jerry Springer. Those people can't just talk to their loved ones they need to tell the entire world first. |
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Aug 15 2006, 10:15 AM
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QUOTE(fcuky0u @ Aug 14 2006, 10:40 AM) my girlfriend still talks to him. he lives all the way in TX, and we are in Michigan. so what could he do, right? but i saw him again a couple weeks ago. he was giving me and my boys dirty looks. i was like.. wth, i let you talk to my girl without hesitation, why are you giving me these looks? Whoa whoa whoa. Hold up there, slugger. You don't own this girl. You don't decide who she talks to and who talks to her. You're not in control of her. If she wants to talk to other guys, she's allowed to. If the relationship is fulfilling enough, she'll stick with you, no matter who she's talking to. |
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Aug 15 2006, 01:51 PM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
i just read that you did talk to her... you could help her understand that its not all about her. dear God dont tell her that in those words but tell her basically that in a relationship you have two people to think about, and right now she doesnt see that. but you do what you have to do, atleast you got it off your chest...its not like your threatening her or telling her what to wear, the other guy actually acted on actions. and she still talks to him...but if you think that this is one battle to choose to lose on then thats ok to |
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Aug 15 2006, 08:54 PM
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 i'll spend forever loving you. Group: Member Posts: 571 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 431,524 |
well i really think that you shouldn't tell her what to do. if she's with she obviously wants to be with you, and her talking to this guy probably doesn't mean anything to HER. let her do what she wants, you shouldn't take away her friends.
*just read that you already told her* if it still bothers you, just make sure you have her trust. yes he lives far away, but if you trust her there's nothing to worry about. just because you dont like him, she really effect how you feel for her. |
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| *This Confession* |
Aug 15 2006, 09:06 PM
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Yea, just go talk to the guy and tell him what you think of him, don't be mean about and cause problems. Because then your girlfriend is going to get mad at you and then its going to cause problems in your relationship. Then you need to talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you don't like her talking to this guy because of what he did to her last summer although it was done last summer it still bother you in which I think its fine if you do although eventually you really need to drop it and get over it..
good luck. |
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Aug 15 2006, 10:59 PM
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 101708 <3 (: Group: Member Posts: 253 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,431 |
hmm i suggest that you talk to her about how you feel but don't tell her that you don't want her to talk to him anymore. if she's smart, she'll figure out what you're trying to say..
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Aug 15 2006, 11:01 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 113 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,426 |
question...why did ur gf kiss him back i mean the other guy??? and if she didnt like it why is she still talking to him??? O_o are they connected somehow or something???is it just me or am i missing the point??
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Aug 16 2006, 07:30 AM
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 f.a.g. Group: Member Posts: 137 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 432,847 |
Yes, it is the right thing to do. Let me tell you...
If she doesn't stop and you don't tell her, it will always stick with you. The memory and the fact that she is not aware that it is hurting will haunt you. And believe it or not, your relationship will eventually fade, crash, and burn if you do not get it off of your chest. Not having trust can break a relationship more than anything and so does bad memories. It's not wrong, you're saving the relationship ahead of time. |
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Aug 24 2006, 07:20 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,349 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 455,274 |
Bro straight up... listen there's toooo many women in this world to be sweatig this. You need to tell her to stop talkin to that guy. And quite honestly if that guy did that to me... especially with my boys chillin, trust me I'd womp on his ass like God commanded me to do, seriously trust that.
If she starts to get bitchy, tell her to respect your request or you're done with the relationship. As a man you need to realize there's many women in this world. You can easily find 100 females of all different cultures/races/ages etc.. within 2 miles from your home. Be the Alpha Male and do what's right for yourself. |
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