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 Aug 9 2006, 09:10 PM
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me and my mom are really close..when somethings wrong i tell her and when she looks sad or mad im there for her. but today was the worse ever...i was downstairs and my mom was upstairs taking a shower. then all of a sudden she screamed my name...i ran up there wondering wat was going on...she pulled out a lil bag dat had a used condom in it. i had hid it in my drawl forgetting to throw it away. when she asked me wat the hell is this? i was speechless i didnt kno wat to say...she started to cry and i didnt know wat to say...all she said to me was "im dissapointed in you" then she walked away from me crying more...talking to my sisters about it. she still hasnt talked to me. and she left for work and wont be back til late tonight...but the thing is i feel so ashamed and dissapointed in myself. but then the thing i also thought about was my mom had been knowing my older sis who is only one yr. older. that she had been having sex. and never really talked to her about it. and when my sister got pregant with her boyfriend. my mom cried of happiness. n i think of how im so careful with these things and this was only a one time thing...how she made it seem like i was the biggest dissapointment in the world...i dont kno wat to do n if neone could help me i would appreciate it.
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Aug 9 2006, 09:14 PM
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 I know you're gonna save me Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,431 |
Well I dunno not to be mean to your sister or anything thats not what I want but maybe it's because she expects greater things from you and thinks you might be better than that? It could just be also she thought you would talk to HER about it too since you guys have such a good relationship. This is a tough one, especially since I'm in this kind of situation a lot with my family, which means if you want you can just totally ignore what I just said...
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Aug 9 2006, 09:17 PM
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well yea are relationship is regular...not at all the i hate u type...theres the love and theres arguements here and there.. n i dont know wat my mom excepts from me. but she made me feel like the worse person in the world
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Aug 9 2006, 09:18 PM
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 I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 |
You need to talk to her about it. I think she was expecting you to come to her about the situation. How old are you? Does the age have anything to do with it?
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Aug 9 2006, 09:19 PM
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im 17 yrs old. but she just walked away i tried to talk but it seem like she didnt wanna hear me.
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Aug 9 2006, 09:22 PM
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I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 |
Well it's not like you're super young or anything. Is she PMSing? I think she just wanted to be told that you're sexually active.
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Aug 9 2006, 09:22 PM
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I know you're gonna save me Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,431 |
Maybe you just need to give her some time, then after she's had time to cool off you can sit down and talk to her about it.
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Aug 9 2006, 09:24 PM
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see thats the thing i had told her when i was 14 yrs. old that i had kinda lost my virginity...and she understood and talked to me about it. so thats why im so confused why is she making me feel so guilty?
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Aug 9 2006, 09:25 PM
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I know you're gonna save me Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,431 |
WEel thats the difference maybe because you went to her at 14 when you lost your virginity and this time you tried to hide it.
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Aug 9 2006, 09:26 PM
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I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 |
Yeah, ditto what she said.
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Aug 9 2006, 09:31 PM
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i think it was the finding the condom thing that really got to her. but she is making me feel soooooooo guilty
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Aug 9 2006, 09:31 PM
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 <(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
jeez girl losing your virginity at 14? i was still watching digimon at that age.
anywayz your mom obviously trusts you and has high hopes for you so you betrayed her trust by not telling her that you are sexual active. most likely she reacted diffrent to your sister because she must have expected her behavior (no offence) and prolly knew what was going to happend. i think you should give her some time to think about things and have a good long talk with her. most likely you will have to build up trust with your mom again. |
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Aug 9 2006, 09:34 PM
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 101708 <3 (: Group: Member Posts: 253 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 382,431 |
QUOTE(candy_coated_kisses @ Aug 9 2006, 7:22 PM)  Maybe you just need to give her some time, then after she's had time to cool off you can sit down and talk to her about it. ^ yeah.. and when she's ready to talk, tell her that at least you were being careful about it. you and your mom seem to have a really strong bond and i doubt something like this would break you two apart. well hope everything works out 
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Aug 9 2006, 09:35 PM
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I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 |
Why did you still have the condom?
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Aug 9 2006, 09:38 PM
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I know you're gonna save me Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,431 |
I was just thinking that same thing!
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Aug 9 2006, 09:41 PM
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<(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
QUOTE(femme_fatale4160 @ Aug 9 2006, 9:35 PM) Why did you still have the condom?  GASP! i was thinking about that to!!
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Aug 9 2006, 09:42 PM
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I've got ADD and magic markers. Oh the thrills I will have. Group: Member Posts: 624 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 445,743 |
lol
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Aug 10 2006, 07:54 PM
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tell her to get over herself.
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Aug 10 2006, 08:28 PM
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QUOTE(inkyoto @ Aug 10 2006, 8:54 PM) tell her to get over herself. Oh yeah. Do that. 'Cause that always goes over really well with parents. |
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Aug 11 2006, 12:46 AM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
QUOTE(inkyoto @ Aug 10 2006, 8:54 PM) tell her to get over herself. your not the dr. phil type are you.... anywho, maybe even though she was happy for your sister she doesnt want you following in your sisters footsteps. and finding a condom, even though it was a right choice to use protection, she viewed it as another chance for another baby....give her time and see why she was so dissapointed, let her know you are still a responsible person who isnt a whore, and you are taking the neccesary steps to prevent any happy accidents. |
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Aug 11 2006, 11:39 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 52 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 427,137 |
luckly my moms wasnt really that mad . jus the fact that a condom in the house...so her having to think bout me being active. but when she came home she talked to me...and we bonded
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Aug 12 2006, 05:58 AM
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I know you're gonna save me Group: Member Posts: 295 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 447,431 |
Good for you!
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Aug 13 2006, 03:28 AM
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 What a hypocrite. Group: Member Posts: 2,754 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 128,150 |
QUOTE and this was only a one time thing...how she made it seem like i was the biggest dissapointment in the world... Maybe she's just afraid of losing her little girl? Your mom might think that you're pretty much the only other chance she has, since your older sister already experimented and lo and behold, the consequences/results. QUOTE tell her to get over herself. Naw, that won't please her. Tell her to hear you out. |
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| *krnxswat* |
Aug 13 2006, 07:54 AM
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Somthing's f**king wrong with your mother's head.
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Aug 13 2006, 06:58 PM
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 <33 Group: Member Posts: 2,745 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 114,234 |
QUOTE(inkyoto @ Aug 10 2006, 7:54 PM) tell her to get over herself. Uhh.. no. That won't work. QUOTE(krnxswat @ Aug 13 2006, 7:54 AM) Somthing's f**king wrong with your mother's head. I've noticed you like to bash people alot on the Relationships board. Do us all a favor... if you're not going to help, don't post at all. --- Anyway, give your Mom some time. When she calms down, you should talk to her.. CALMLY. Good luck. |
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