is the first the hardest? Options

[blurrr]

is a first boyfriend the hardest to get over??? cuz i was with this guy and i guess were done but i anbsolutely cant get over him ...its only been a day but im just dieing...its not only mentally and emotionally killing me but its actually causing me stomach pain and headaches and it hasnt left my mind for one second!! help!?!?

[LiSFORLiNDA]

Oh gosh i know how you feel..
but wasnt my first bf, but he was my first love;
let me give you some advice,try not to think about it
but dont like pretend it never happen, if you wanna get over him
i always hear being friends with the guy helps, it helped me for like the first 2 weeks haha but then it went down hill...it was like my life felt incomplete without him...all i can say is life will go on, there are PLENTY of guys out there believe me...theres like this saying i forgot like theres plenty of fish in the sea haha i think thats it well if you guys are meant to be then you'll get back together good luck

[magicfann]

is a first boyfriend the hardest to get over??? cuz i was with this guy and i guess were done but i anbsolutely cant get over him ...its only been a day but im just dieing...its not only mentally and emotionally killing me but its actually causing me stomach pain and headaches and it hasnt left my mind for one second!! help!?!?

hah` noob, i didn`t have any trouble

[blacknailpolish]

Aww I know it hurts believe me. You just have to let yourself hurt for awhile, even if its hard. Then you just have to remind yourself that there will be other guys, and there really will be. It takes awhile, especially with first loves. If the physical pain doesnt go away after awhile, you should probably talk to someone you trust about that. Otherwise, hang in there!

[Just2Fresh]

hah` noob, i didn`t have any trouble

Thats because your some fat kid who has no life but to play Counter Strike all day. You couldnt get a gf if you tried.


Anyways yeah the first is usually the hardest to get over especially if youve been with them for awhile too. It just takes a little time to get over em and your realize eventually that they werent so great comapred to the guys your going to meet later on in life.

[*liquid.*]

^ Actually I think hes probably better off than you but.. The guys really funny I gotta admit!


Nah the first isn't the hardest, wait til your second one!

[AngelinaTaylor]

No. The first person who you love, however, will be.

[prettixpinay]

i think so. i was going out with this guy for 4 months...he was my first boyfriend, first kiss, first everything! when i moved a few towns over...everything started to go downhill. we didn't really get to see each other as much...but we still kept in touch by texting and Iming eachother.

then, when he could take the long distance thing anymore...he broke up with me. i was really heartbroken. we still talked to each other as friends for awhile....but we recently got into a fight. so...i don't talk to him anymore. lol!

messed up....i know.

but i still think about him...and i come out of the daydream thinking "what the hell am i doing?!"

[goodcharlotte]

I think it is because you don't have a normal routine of getting over them. People usually do the same thing every time they get heat broken. For example I always turn up music really loud and play along. And then I work out like crazy until my sister smacks the sense back into me. That is my routine and most people get theirs. That is probably why you had such a hard time.

[magicfann]

Thats because your some fat kid who has no life but to play Counter Strike all day. You couldnt get a gf if you tried.
Anyways yeah the first is usually the hardest to get over especially if youve been with them for awhile too. It just takes a little time to get over em and your realize eventually that they werent so great comapred to the guys your going to meet later on in life.

haha, ur funny and ur trying to hard

look, why don`t u go rob a store or something

[Smoogrish]

Jeff, will you stop bashing people?

[me1issaaaa]

I think it is because you don't have a normal routine of getting over them. People usually do the same thing every time they get heat broken. For example I always turn up music really loud and play along. And then I work out like crazy until my sister smacks the sense back into me. That is my routine and most people get theirs. That is probably why you had such a hard time.

I don't see how anyone could break up with you in the first place, but hey.

My first relationship was very hard to get over. However, it was a long-distance thing, so we didn't get to see each other very often. Because of that, I think that he was a better boyfriend in my head, because that's how I thought he was - I didn't get to experience how he really acted all the time as much as I should have. It's just different for everybody, I guess. But you'll move on; it took time and patience, but I did.

[goodcharlotte]

Every break up takes time and patience like Melissa said. If you keep occupied then it may help. Also being with people who feel the same way helps too. Anything that you enjoy that doesnt have a direct connection with your loved one helps.

[blurrr]

actually this guy wasnt my first boyfriend..i never had a boyfriend and we decided not to be boyfriend girlfriend...he was definitely my first love tho..we even tell eachother we love each other...i was "friends" with him for a lil over a yr and i hada crush on him for abt 7 or 8 months and then we were getting realyl close n i told him i like him and he told me hed liked me for a while also!!! so i was ecstatic!!! i had exactley what i'd wanted for months..then we got closer n closer he was my first everything besides for kiss. i was even realllly really shy and i owuldnt kiss him...he had to kiss me and the first time i had my shirt off in front of him i was SOOOOO shy....that was def a first and we got to the point where....w/e u get the point but it took alot for me to get comfortable and not its just all gone... i only told him like 3 months ago that i liked him as more than a friend and weve been very close for about 2 of the 3 months then he just started getting real distand until this!

[goodcharlotte]

Well in that case. Hang out with your other friends. Get your flirt on. I can't believe I just said/typed that. But it helps. Being with friends always helps.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Not the first boyfriend, the first love.

[Aerjae]

Mostly depends on what kind of a person you are. Like, if you are an EMO person then... yah. It also depends on how close you were to him.

[BrokenDream]

My first boyfriend/love was extremely hard to get over. >>; I couldn't stop thinking about him for months! You just have to move on. There is alot of guys out there. Sooner or later, you'll find the one.

[da_SALSA]

yeah it is hard--it takes time. and that's the only way along w/ preoccupying yourself.

don't worry much, it'll go away soon.

[Gypsy Eyes]

Yeah, it really is. I'm still not over mine and it's been two years.

[no-name]

b' date='Aug 8 2006, 1:08 AM' post='2220537']
Not the first boyfriend, the first love.

agreed..first love is always the hardest to get over

[nycaf12]

its hard because its your first one.. your first love.. its not surprising to miss him/her for a while. youll get over it after you find a new one. but yet again. for me, even tho i have another gf, i still sometimes think about the times ive spent with my first one.

[Zachy-Poo]

1 day? wow, he got you whooped!
i guess it all depends. just got out a 4 year
relationship and well...it's not easy.

[TaintedDesires]

Probably not the first boyfriend but your first love. It's devastating. It'll feel better if you make yourself busy instead of wallowing in the corner.

[*Uronacid*]

Hi, I had this same problem with my first girl-friend. your first love is usually what causes this kind of pain. Just so happens that many times people pour everything they have into their first relaitonship. I know your hurt, but you have to keep going. It's difficult, everything seems grey and blurry... the things people say to you probably sound distorted becuase of all the voices and thoughts running through your head.

Keep yourself busy, and try to hang out with your friends. Do things, go for walks, wright down your thoughts, work out... try to do phisical things. Also, talk to your friends about it. Don't keep it in... the more you let out, the less time it will take to get over the situation.

What was it that caused the breakup?

[mrsnoll]

your first is always hard to get over because that's the first time you let someone into your heart. The break up is hard to get over, why wouldn't it be but you learn to move on and find someone so much better

[femmefatale4160]

I don't know that the first is always the hardest...I've never been dumped, but I always hate having to break it off with people. My last boyfriend is freakin' insane and he was PISSED. But I think it's hard on both ends. Don't worry, you'll be fine.

[blurrr]

Keep yourself busy, and try to hang out with your friends. Do things, go for walks, wright down your thoughts, work out... try to do phisical things. Also, talk to your friends about it. Don't keep it in... the more you let out, the less time it will take to get over the situation.

What was it that caused the breakup?

well technically we dint break up cuz we were never going out but it was as close to going out with out having labels ...we've said "i love you" to eachother tons of times...but it wasnt like old already that it lost its true meaning...we both said it everytime with full meaning...but yea so what caused this whole "rift" was 1)we stopped talking as often and 2)me n my sis were invited to a party...and so was my guy...and he brought a friend..a girl...and me n my sis were talking to this girl cuz my sis is also friends with this guy so we were being nice to his friend and she mentioned that shes liked him for a while and theyve been hanging out alot lately....so that explains why me n him stopped hanging out....

[ItsAMansWorld]

depends on how good of a boyfriend he was... if he was an ass then probably not too hard i would suppose :)

[*Uronacid*]

well technically we dint break up cuz we were never going out but it was as close to going out with out having labels ...we've said "i love you" to eachother tons of times...but it wasnt like old already that it lost its true meaning...we both said it everytime with full meaning...but yea so what caused this whole "rift" was 1)we stopped talking as often and 2)me n my sis were invited to a party...and so was my guy...and he brought a friend..a girl...and me n my sis were talking to this girl cuz my sis is also friends with this guy so we were being nice to his friend and she mentioned that shes liked him for a while and theyve been hanging out alot lately....so that explains why me n him stopped hanging out....

Ok, I'll tell you one thing. If he loved you he would have told you he was falling for someone else. You may have loved him (It's possible), but just hearing what you told me. It all seems to fabicated. I think that you guys were just infatuated with eachother. This creates and illusion of love. Your feelings are so strong you feel as if you would do anything for them, but when it comes right down to it. He meets another girl, falls for her, and doesn't say anything about it to you. If I was ever falling for another girl. I would tell Holly. Although it's difficult for her, and it sucks. I would tell her becuase I wouldn't want her to have feelings for someone who doesn't have feelingstowards her. I respect her, and that's why I would tell her.

The most important thing is to realize that not everyone in life is like that, and there is someoen else out there that will treat you the way you need to be treated. No matter how hard it is to realize that, you have to try. You have to believe it. You need to learn for this too. Maybe next time be more careful about loving somone. Guard your heart, and don't give it to someone because your desparate for love. Wait for soemone that you know will love you.

[julianamon]

my first bf? i didnt have any trouble at all to get over him.

[blacknailpolish]

^ Yeah me neither, seeing as I broke up with him

[kabonn]

first love, yes...first boyfriend, possible but if you left him, you most probably are okay..

[bitemebaby]

Yes, and I say this from experience.
Of course it depends on how long the relationship lasted and how serious it was, but the first time you break up with someone it feels like the end of the world.
In later relationships you'll know that you can move on. It gets easier.

I hope you feel better soon.

[AngryBaby]

look, why don`t u go rob a store or something

lol nobody noticed that?

[xnastyninjagrlx]

yah I hate those first loves!! I know its hard to get over, but just try to keep yourself busy. Go hang out with friends, go watch a movie, go find a job, or even just sleep! Just don't let yourself have time to think of him cuz that's when you start getting all depressed and stuff. The most important thing to remember is that he is your first love, but he won't be your last, you will always find another guy. It just takes time to mend the heart!

[Selv]

Yes for me it was my first TRUE LOVING girlfriend dumped me and it took me 3 years to get over her

[goodcharlotte]

Wait aren't you only 13? Not that it is a bad thing but I had that kind of girlfriend when I turned 14 and you said it took you 3 years to get over her so you were 10. Wow. Okay whatever.

[*Uronacid*]

-sigh i think once you get your second boyfriend youll forget about your first one.

I don't know... it depends on whther you date to get over him or not...

If you date someone just to get over this relationship, it will only make things worse. Wait until you are over this relationship before you start another one. It doesn't mean you can't make friends tho ;)

Wait aren't you only 13? Not that it is a bad thing but I had that kind of girlfriend when I turned 14 and you said it took you 3 years to get over her so you were 10. Wow. Okay whatever.

Yeah... i agree.. you were pretty young.. at 10 years old it's hard to believe you could even understand love...

[Trinie]

No. The first person who you love, however, will be.

yes i agree. if its someone you really love, then that will be the hardest. if your relationships were short and didnt really love each other. i'm sure you will probably get over it.

[Nymphetamine]

My current boyfriend is my first love and I can't get over him. We've broken up A FREAKING LOT of times but always came back together, I just can't get over him even if I wanted to.

I don't know how I can help you, I'm sorry. Goodluck though.

[EddieV]

For me it is (girlfriend), I have too many regrets, but then again I learned a lot from my mistakse.

[KissMe2408]

For me my first boyfriend wasn't the hardest to get over.
Probably one of the easiest to get over actually.

However, First Love is different.
I really don't think anyone ever gets over their first love.
I think they will always love each other in a way.
It's hard I know.
But the pain does get less over time.

[*My Cinderella.*]

Not neccessarily the first boyfriend you have, but your first love. I know how you feel and I know its hard. What you need to do is try your best to forget about it--even though it sounds hard. Take some time from boys and hang with your friends, enjoy laughs, watch movies.

[*Infinite.*]

-shrugs- I don't really know, I think its more or less how it ended. Or how the relatiosnhip was. It took me a little bit to get over mine, but not because I was fixated on him. Matters how the relationship was, and if you truly want to get over it or not.

[mystikmiko]

Aww I know it hurts believe me. You just have to let yourself hurt for awhile, even if its hard. Then you just have to remind yourself that there will be other guys, and there really will be. It takes awhile, especially with first loves. If the physical pain doesnt go away after awhile, you should probably talk to someone you trust about that. Otherwise, hang in there!

she's right.
i've only been with one guy, my first and first love.
i know how you feel.
we were together for like four months and come on grad. night for me we broke up.
it was the saddest thing in the world, and i still miss him terribly.
especially we you see people all lovey-dovey, it hurts, the memories come back at you.

but i look at those memories at figuring out what went wrong and how it could have changed, don't worry we're all here for one another.
and trust me - if the guy can't find one thing beautiful for you but looks, but as a person he's not ment to be.

[xlitoxb]

First loves are horrible. I'm trying so hard to get over it right now, too but it's not really working. I hope that you feel better soon about it and to keep your head up. =]

[mushoo92]

i didnt have any problems with the first one..i guess i made a mistake with him since i went out with him while he was hella sprung ("in love")with this other girl. it kinda made me mad so i left him and went to my "best friend" and he was my second. so my second was kinda hard cause i actually liked him a lot and gave him my first kiss and i miss a lot of memories with him