I'm so nervous, about having sex for the first time. Options

[SemiErotic]

Alright, I'm a virgin, and that might be changing very soon. I've heard a lot of really bad things from my girl friends, and they made me all nervous. I'm not expecting it to be wonderful, but I was hoping that someone could tell me something positive about their first time.

[*salcha4u*]

Why don't you just....not do it

[nyctophiliac]

Why don't you just....not do it

that's what I was thinking

--
anyways...I don't have any sex stories...because I'm a virgin...

[PrincessAda]

^^same here.

you don`t have to do what the crowd is doing ya know.

[*xcaitlinx*]

i'm not a virgin, and i understand how you're feeling. it varies from girl to girl...you may not feel much pain at all! if you trust your partner and you're doing it because you love them, then it's not bad at all. the pain goes away and you will most likely enjoy it. the first time is usually the worst, but once you do it a few times you'll like it better.

[SemiErotic]

I'm considering just not doing it at all, like the first three people said.

[nyctophiliac]

good for you
only do it if you really love who you're with

[AngelinaTaylor]

Don't do it.. you're insecure. Do it with someone you LOVE and trust, and you won't be worried at all.

Besides, you're quite young.

[SarahxJoy]

^ I'll have to agree. If you're unsure about doing it, and how it'll be, then my guess is is that you're not ready. You should talk about it with your significant other, so it's less scary for you (probably him too), and so that you won't be nervous right up 'til it happens. 'Cause you might regret it later on. Make sure it's something you really want. He can't force you into anything.

[SemiErotic]

The thing is, I really do want to. I do trust him and we both really care about and love eachother, I'm just so nervous about it.

[AngelinaTaylor]

^ You're not ready, trust me. If you were, you wouldn't need to post this here. Many people regret their first time because of that.. It's something that you can't take back.

[*T0rmented_Soul*]

For a guy their first time may be great but then for a lady their first can be different. if your being pressured to do it. I'd say don't do it.

[lovescream]

There's always a first in everything.
If you want to, by all means, have sex.
If you believe you're ready, then go for it.
I honestly don't care. 'Cause like I said, there's a first time in everything.
I've lost my virginity already, but I've forgotten about it.. =\ It's like it never happened.

[rorhinna]

Don't do it!
And if you're feeling pressure
from your boyfriend, and he
doens't want to abide by your
choice on that, then he doesn't
really care for you... that's all
he's looking for.

do the smart thing, and just
DONT get involved in that.

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[Annie5332]

My advice: If you're nervous, you're not ready. If you two truely care about each other and whatnot, then you shouldn't be so nervous. Anyways, you are quite young. Why not wait? I'm just going to wait till marriage, that way I know I'm not making a mistake =]

[Spec_R]

it sound to me that you don't know what to do or confused. maybe you are not ready yet. To some girls losing their virginity is a big step in life. It's a very magical moment and only happen once in life. You are doing it because he is someone special to you? In my opinon, I think you should wait until the right time and moment comes. be STRONG

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

if you aren't fully confident that this is what you want to do, THEN DON'T DO IT!
you will regret it if you have sex before you are ready.
i've heard the first time is always the worst, because i'm sure it's painful trying to accomodate something bigger than a tampon.
but if you trust your partner i'm sure it'll all be fine.
the minute you second-guess your choice, i advise you to WAIT.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

^ You're not ready, trust me. If you were, you wouldn't need to post this here. Many people regret their first time because of that.. It's something that you can't take back.

i agree you dont have to do what other people are doing you know if your not ready then your partner should respect that.. and Angelina Taylor is right if you are so ready and trust your partner you wouldnt be posting. think about it.

[Doona]

This is a subject I've heard alot about at my age... I think long as you sure about wat ur doing and will not be mad about it in the future and make sure the person is the right person. Go head just dont make any mistakes.

[Just2Fresh]

it sound to me that you don't know what to do or confused. maybe you are not ready yet. To some girls losing their virginity is a big step in life. It's a very magical moment and only happen once in life. You are doing it because he is someone special to you? In my opinon, I think you should wait until the right time and moment comes. be STRONG

Took the words out of my mouth. If your not SURE you want to or your nervous then your not ready yet. When you get to the point where you and him are alone and it just gets to that point and your ok, not thinking about anything bad and everything feels right then thats when your ready. Make sure he wears a condom and make sure it doesnt break. Dont want no kids after the first time youve had sex yenno.

[Smoogrish]

If you have any doubts, don't do it. Simple as that.

Yeah. And if you do, be protected. Unless you want kids.

[AngelinaTaylor]

^ Regarding that, you should know that sometimes, even if both of you are protected, it can still result in a kid.

[cassjamminx]

^ True (if it rips and what not)

But if you're nervous.. then you might not be ready. Don't let the nervousness take control of you though. If you really want it, you should be up for anything, even if that means a little it of pain.

[xforgottenlove]

hmm to me, i think that if you're having these feelings then you shouldn't do it at all.

[datass]

I suppose sex isn't that great anyways. There are a lot other stuff to do to show you trust your partner, not just sex.

[cloudysunshine]

You sound reeeaally nervous. If you're not ready, then I suggest to not do it! Because you might end up regretting it, etc etc. I've been with my boyfriend for 21 months now and I've learn to trust him. He's my first and I plan for him to be my last. When you have a connection with someone, sex will mean so much more than pleasure.

Don't do what everyone else is doing, it'll only make you look really low.

[mylittleMiracle]

if you're nervous,that means you arent ready for sex.
don't do it.you're still young.

[LOWinSKANK]

I'm not sure what to tell you. If you want to, do it. If you don't want to, then don't.
Either way, sometime most likely in your life it's GOING to happen.
You should only do it if you completely feel like you want to.
It hurt me, my first time, but I didn't even think about the pain because all I could think about was how close I felt to my boyfriend, and how much I loved him.

What exactly are you nervous about?

[Aerjae]

I agree with all the people who are virgins.

[superdotimas25]

hey man, i believe in abstinence and all that----

BUT if you're gonna do it, make sure that you're smart about it. use contraceptives and all that useful junk.

also, if you wanna minimize the pain, try to engage in foreplay....
on a biological perspective, the reason why it might hurt for many girls is because there isn't enough lubrication down there. so have fun and let him help you out a bit before he puts his pickle in the jar. Most girls already tear their hymen doing other physical activities like sports, so i don't think thats causes the pain so much.

BUT YES, GO ABSTINENCE!!!!! what a great, but rarely applied concept.
so use this information when you're good and ready (both physically and emotionally) to make love. and don't worry, even if it's the right guy- you'll still feel a little nervous....maybe its more like anticipation. i find it odd if someone isn't neervous about engaging in a very intimate interaction for the first time. shoot, even people who've done it a million times still feel that nervousness if it's a different person.

anyway, no rush and good luck. make us proud. HAHA.

[imm]

"That might be changing very soon." It sounds like you're letting the situation (or future situation) control you. YOU have to control what goes on in your life, especially if it's about something that means a lot, like in this case. Well I don't know if virginity is something you hold high...but that's another story.

One thing is that if you're in a stable relationship with this person, it'll bring you closer to them...But you gotta watch out for yourself anyway, chica.

[lanbexx]

do it! its the most amazing experience ever and so enjoyable. besides, you gain prestige for losing ur virginity.

oh wait... ur a girl... nvm then

[pinacoolada]

Well..if you're having doubts, then I suggest that you not do it.

[rorhinna]

do it! its the most amazing experience ever and so enjoyable. besides, you gain prestige for losing ur virginity.

oh wait... ur a girl... nvm then

Honestly, I don't think that a girl OR a guy gains any kind of prestige by doing that. I think its more respectable if you wait for the right person after you get married, or when you're in college.

[lanbexx]

yup thats what a girl would say.

unless ur announcing it in a church, as a guy you gain a lot of prestige for losing ur virginity... at least as long as its before the 2nd year of college.

girls get the label of a loose slut, guys get the label of a cool pimp. and it doesnt hurt that its one of the best experiences ever for a guy. cause they actually get pleasure out of their first time

[Blaqheartedstar]

well ... gonna be 17 and i'm in the same boat of nervousness... i mean i have some i love and trust... but hes with someone... so i'm assed out
i mean i will try it after highschool.... cuz then i don't have to worry about school...

since ur yonger than me... look for someone u love and trust... don't do it cuz everyone else is... wait till ur ready

[lollypop036]

well u dont really seem ready at all so id advise u to wait...im waitin til im outta skool and have a good job and when i know i can handle a child or whatver..just in case lol but ya most ppl would rather have sex waaay before then so if u wanna do it, do it but if u end up with a baby poppin out ur vagina..or lice well then ur gonna gonna have to deal with it lol...wow im terrible at giving advice lol..well actually theres more to a relationship than just sex theres lots of other stuff u can do

[me1issaaaa]

If you're questioning it, then you are clearly not mature enough to handle sex or anything that comes along with it.

[goodcharlotte]

Well I agree with Melissa. You have to be mature about it and trust your partner. If you are so uncertain then maybe you should wait.

[lindurf]

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[lilseeky]

agreed, dont do it if you feel wierd about it. but your first time is going to be really scary anyway. it might hurt, it might not. but everyone has to have a first time. and if you decide youre not comfortable with it, dont do it just because your bf wants you to. that doesnt make for a very good first time story ;)

[me1issaaaa]

you should save it for marriage. i don't think people should experience the act of love until they're actually IN love. you don't need to do it because everyone else is doing it.

You don't have to be married to be in love.

[smoke]

Positive? I was in love when I lost my virginity and I still am. That's positive. I think that makes sex 999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999 times better. All in all, if you're not sure and don't think you're ready, don't do it. That's what I did and I don't regret it one bit. You're guy will understand that you're not ready. If he doesn't, well, you have bigger issues than you think.

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[megan_x3]

Everyone has their first times, I had mine. From past experience, I was nervous. Of course, of a girl, you would be afraid that the protectin would rip and you would eventually get pregnant. That's something that is normal for everyone to feel. Well, it was what I felt. It was a great experience for us, by making love with each other, we ensure and build up our trust even more.

You know how some girls says .. " im going to save my virginity to the one that i really love .. " .. I said that. I found my perfect guy, and I lost it to him. Not saying that I regret it, it's just that I couldn't believe it ... but it was perfect.

It may hurt for you ; as it will for every other girl. You will feel pain ... but you'll get use to it and it may become pleasure after a few times you've done it afterall.

So don't worry. We'll all here to support you . !!

[Yemmerz]

If one more person says "do it", I'm going to shoot someone. You're probably too young to start anyhoo. It's overrated, save it for the husband. If you wanna release your hormones and horny-ness...learn to deal with it. No need to f**k.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Everyone has their first times, I had mine. From past experience, I was nervous. Of course, of a girl, you would be afraid that the protectin would rip and you would eventually get pregnant. That's something that is normal for everyone to feel. Well, it was what I felt. It was a great experience for us, by making love with each other, we ensure and build up our trust even more.

You know how some girls says .. " im going to save my virginity to the one that i really love .. " .. I said that. I found my perfect guy, and I lost it to him. Not saying that I regret it, it's just that I couldn't believe it ... but it was perfect.

It may hurt for you ; as it will for every other girl. You will feel pain ... but you'll get use to it and it may become pleasure after a few times you've done it afterall.

So don't worry. We'll all here to support you . !!

Rofl.. you're 13 YEAH, man, for kids having sex!

[lyin_in_wait]

well it was positive because i felt like it wasnt a one night stand. i felt that we did it, and it brought us closer instead of bringing us apart. plus it was ring dance night (jr. prom) so it was all dressy too...


and for all the people who said shes not ready. just because shes nervous doesnt mean shes not ready. hell i was nervous, and i still am every time it happens. i dont regret it though. but if you think at all, maybe we should stop. then by all means DONT DO IT. plus there are many other things you can do besides have sex...

[xnastyninjagrlx]

Honestly, if you are even asking this question then you shouldn't do it. Please save the millions of teens in this world that is already having sex and regret it afterwards and JUST SAY NO, I honestly don't think you are ready AT ALL

[*Uronacid*]

You wouldn't be nervous about it if you were ready...

[satch]

You wouldn't be nervous about it if you were ready...

I agree, my first time yes I was young but it just happened we were "ready" as far as I had protection my uncles and cousin made sure of that all the time...but we never planed it or anything like that just happened.

[herebutnot]

well, i lost my virginity about a year ago with a girl i had known for 4 months, and i had really cared about her and all, but she was a slut, and if i could i would probally take it back, but its a little late for that

if your really nervous then you probaly should wait, anyways, you have your whole life

[II_noFOREVER]

there are questions you should ask yourself ...

how long have you been with him? and do you really love him? or are you just infatuated? theres a fine line between real LOVE and reallly really really liking him. do you trust him? does he love you? are you doing it because you feel pressured to? do you feel like he's pressuring you?

ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he's the person i lost it to. it was 6 months into the relationship ---- its when i fully trusted him, completely loved him, and knew he felt the same about me. i dont regret it because it was real love.

make sure you're really ready and he's the person you love.

[m_h]

I'm sure your still very young and very confuse. You believe that you care for eachother and that ur in love when ur actually not. Being that ur so nervous about this decision, it is best if you just don't do anything at all. I myself, lost my virginity when I was very young and til this day, I regret it with everything that I've got. So if you can hold on to NOT doing it then I would suggest you to but if you think that ur REALLY ready then go for it. Just be wise about ur decision.

[christina lee]

Why don't you just....not do it

Exactly!..

[Mizz1Exquisite]

A word of adive you should never plan it out.If you plan it out and it works hooray for you but really its always best when it just happens cuz i mean you can tell that there is no forcing that the chemistry is strong and also the connection.Honestly if your second guessing your self then honestly i dont think your ready but if yu feel that you can do this then go on.

[Trinie]

Actually, when it was first time, and that was 7 years ago! I am still with the same guy i did it with. we were already together for a year and we both trusted and loved each other very much. but hey we both were very nervous. it's a natural thing to feel. but if you arent ready then you shouldn't do it. but if you think you are, then go for it. me and my bf were ready but nervous because he knew it was going to painful for me, and he was bervous because it was his first time too.

hope this helps you out.

[hotlayoutchx]

Yeah. LOL.

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[sillakilla220]

just DO IT... yeah u WILL bleed a lil! its ok tho!! it only hurts the first time! after that it is all bliss and u will be wanting dick everynite if that dude is layin it down rite...