Friends, have you you felt for a friend. Options

[cup_and_chaucer]

Ok, what would you do if your best friend is a member of the opposite sex, and you have recently began aquiring feelings for said best friend? Has this ever happened to you?

[*Kathleen*]

How long have you known him? Have you hinted at having these feelings towards him? Does he show any interest in you more than a best friend as well?

[pinayprincess]

my best friend used to be my boyfriend & then my ex way before he became a best friend of mines... it was way after we broke up [say about 3 months after] and then we started to be so close. it was my bad mistake to do that b/c later on we both started having feelings for each other [while i had a new boyfriend]; it was all screwed up but now me and him know that we cant like each other MORE than just friends b/c everytime we do, it just messes our friendship up

[edited] but we're still bestfriends

[*Uronacid*]

^I know that feeling...

If you like your best friend... hmmm, I don't know. It's your choice. You can either tell him and risk him telling you that he would rather just be friends, or you can keep your mouth closed and never know if he feels the same way... I would say this, wait see if you continue to feel that way. I mean if you're going to ask him. Don't risk it if you are only going through a small crush... If you still like him then bring it up whenyou two are alone...

[bballchick1]

I think maybe you should wait a bit just so that you know for sure that you really like him, and it's not just a passing crush that could risk your friendship.

[OhMyAnniee]

i would wait for him. wait for him to like you back. if you can't wait long then just stay best friends. i'm sort of in this same situation.. tough stuff!

[xforgottenlove]

well i would suggest that IF, and only IF, you have a very close and strong friendship with him, then you should go for it [: otherwise, just wait it out for signs if he likes you or not. good luck ! [:

[xo_lovalicious_x...]

just be like,

"umm, you know how we're best friends,

so we can tell each other anything??

well i really have to tell you something...

see, i have... liked you for a while

so do you want to go out with me?"

or show hints that you like him

[_sarcastic_]

tell him you like him.
but you've got to be sure that he can see you guys more than just best friends. cause it's happened to me cept he was the one that told me and i couldn't see us as more then best friends and it screwed up my friendship with him.

[PrincessAda]

You should wait and make sure your feelings are good enough for you to step it up because it could just be a little crush.

[xBUTTMUNCHx]

i use to like my best guy friend like a while back, butt he never knew cos i never tol him. i didnt tell him cos i didnt wanna lose him as a friend. He means so much mor too me, for me to go and tell him i liked him and have him turn away frm our friendship. its hard to find love butt its harder to find a TRUE friend.

[cup_and_chaucer]

Yeah.

He knows.

He's known for a couple months now.

[_sarcastic_]

then go for it.

[msladyliberty]

I'd drop a hint.

or a letter.

[teenprincess]

I had a huge crush on my best friend. He knew it too, but he had a gf at the time. So I liked him for months until we finally started dating. Our relationship lasted for a month and a half. After that, things were different. We stayed really close for a while but we ended up not even speaking anymore I miss him being my best friend.

If you want to take the risk of gaining a bf but potentionally losing a best friend. The go for it.

[*Uronacid*]

if he knows, and he is still your friend and has no problem liking you I don't see why you should have a problem dropping a few hints... I wouldn't run the gun yet tho... just make sure the feelings are mutual before you dive in...

[*This Confession*]

well if you like him enough that you want to be in a relationship with him then go for it, although talk to him about it and get what he thinks about it all. Some people are afraid to be in relationships with their friends because they think they will end up breaking up and never talk again, which usually never happens unless your both highly immature to not talk things out after you might break up.

[anfgirlco]

I was wondering if any of you guys fell for one of your best friends? I have haha. I don't know if I should tell him and take the change to ruin our friendship. '


here are some pictures of him....







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This post has been edited by Arjuna Capulong: Aug 3 2006, 03:21 PM

[Chii]

He's very good looking and has good looking friends as well

I've fallen for friends plenty of times. My new boyfriend started out as a friend...practically all of my boyfriends started out as my friends. If your friendship sours just because he doesn't have feelings for you back, then your friendship mustn't have been so strong to begin with.

But either way, you need to take risks to get what you want. Nothing is easy, if relationships were easy, they wouldn't be so desirable.

[Simba]

Moved to Relationships.

[happinessx]

Ah, well, he's very nice looking to be honest, and it helps that you have a close relationship so you know that he will/wont cheat on you, you know his character etc.
But it might ruin your good friend relationship?

[lyin_in_wait]

well if hes a best friend then there could to be some intrest. you run the risk of loosing a friend, but you also run the risk of missing out on a relationship w/ him.

[bballchick1]

Wow..that guy's pretty hott.

I had been friends with my current boyfriend since last October - he just recently asked me out & I had actually liked him for pretty much the entire time we had been friends.

I definitely hope that in case things don't work out, (which they hopefully will), that we can still be friends because he's an amazing guy.

[*This Confession*]

Yea, at one point in time of a friendship between a guy and girl. They end up falling for each other eventually. Sometimes its at the wrong time and sometimes it perfect timing, its life.

Really if you want a relationship to happen and you think it would go well then I don't see why you shouldn't tell him that you have feelings for him. If you both know each other really well and such. Do you think he has feelings for you as well?


PS - Really I don't think you should worry about if its going to ruin the friendship, anytime someone ever thinks that it the end their so paranoid about it happening that you end up ending the relationship because you were to scared for the relationship to get better and perhaps take the chance of getting in some fight or something and everything be ruined.

Honestly, take the chance if you really care about him and like him.

[*Freaky Krazer*]

my first real, deep, obsessive crush was in 7th grade with a guy friend *sigh*