Romance in the workplace Options

[xquizit]

Hmmmm... I am aware I'm probably an old fogie in comparison to the rest of the members here and most of you won't have the slightest clue what to tell me so eh, I guess I'll just be sharing...


I HAVE THE HOTS FOR MY BOSS. Absolute hottie, probably a lot older than me, maybe in his upper 20's, but that's within my range! Think Ben Affleck. Hunky, fit, great teeth, and a goofy yet charming personality. Gotta love older men.

Anyhow, I've been working at this IT firm as an intern for about 2 months now but it was only meant to be temporary to fulfill a school requirement. But I had been crushing on him since the first day I. Anyhow, today was suppossed to be my last day, and I've hardly talked to him at all except this one time he was telling me about some Asian woman he had dated in the past whose family ran this sub place... anywho, he calls me into his office this morning as I'm coming in for a chat. This was definately the 2nd time he's mentioned dating an Asian woman, this time however, he mentions she's filipino. And he proceeds to ask me which part I'm from and whatnot. Next thing I know, we're having this 30 minute conversation about travel, and Dave & Busters, and casinos. Then he offers me a permanent position with the company saying that they'd love to keep me around and that I've been helpful and whatnot. And he winks at me. *swoon*

I dunno, maybe I'm reading him wrong, I'm usually very bad at reading men anyway, but could he be interested? I mean, why all the talk about Asian women? And the immediate job offer was unexpected.

It would suck to leave now, especially since something *may* spark, who knows. But honestly, I didn't even like this job that much so I don't know if I would want to return. Haha, it's not even that serious. I'm probably not coming back. And it's not like these romances work within the office anyhow. Maybe I'll just keep in touch after I leave.

But still, my boss is hot.



So uhhh... to promote interaction in this thread, do any of you have stories to share about having the hots for your boss... or someone you work with?

[Mr. Slowjamz]

no i havent , i don`t work right now , but heyy thats crazy , hehe ... i think he does have the hots for you . but then again , he might off just find out how much of a personality you have and could help the company . congrats anyways

and it also depends i guess...if you`ve givin him hints yourself

[*mzkandi*]

I know it'll be akward if you should break up. There was a couple I use to work with that had to deal with that and the tension was constant.

If it was me and I hated the job I'd leave for something better and if he's truely interested he'll try get in contact with me outside the workplace. He's has you're number and all, you know?

[Zachy-Poo]

yeah, that's toughy. i'd say go
for it if there's a connection. just make
sure he's not a a-hole and fires you for something
stupid if it doesn't work out.

i went to a bar with my supervisor
and drank my butt off. she had to bring
me home, and in the car i was like...yeah.

damn, i felt akward as heck the next day at work.

hopefully it wont cause anything
negative in the work place and in friendship.


good luck.

[*baby_in_blue*]

this is interesting. i think he may
have the hots for you. it`s a decision
entirely up to you.i don`t work, so i don`t have
a crush on someone i work with; but i do
have a crush.

[janerz14]

hahah welll yesterday my girl coworkers, we were talking about the guys that we work with and what not yannoe. and they told me that one of the guys has a crush on me! i was like awww how cutee! who is it? ''so&so''.

then yesterday, i was off work and what not. he calls me & asks if i wannt to hang out tomz and what not.

plus he's a MAJOR HOTTIE.

so im not sure....maybe hahaha. xD & wer only a year a part too.

but it isnt good to have romance in a work place... so im not still sure about thiss.

WHAT DO YOU THINK??

[demolished]

Leaving your workplace doesnt means, everything is over.

it's just distance.

[_sarcastic_]

i think he will make an effort to look for you if he really is interested in you

[parallel]

No, but I can't wait till I do have a story like that.
:D

[Chii]

I'm dating one of my co-workers which is causing some drama because another co-worker really likes me and doesn't know about it... He makes us/me uncomfortable because he's always staring at us when we're talking with this unhappy/angry look and is always asking the other co-workers about us. Only a select few co-workers that we're close with know and they promised not to tell.

This will cause more drama if my "boyfriend" finds out that I slept with my ex about 3 days before we started dating, that I'm still in love with my ex, and that I'm not sure if I really do like him or if I'm just trying to fill in the void my ex has left.

I agree with what Kiera would do, don't work there just because you like your boss.

[*krnxswat*]

I'm dating one of my co-workers which is causing some drama because another co-worker really likes me and doesn't know about it... He makes us/me uncomfortable because he's always staring at us when we're talking with this unhappy/angry look and is always asking the other co-workers about us. Only a select few co-workers that we're close with know and they promised not to tell.

This will cause more drama if my "boyfriend" finds out that I slept with my ex about 3 days before we started dating, that I'm still in love with my ex, and that I'm not sure if I really do like him or if I'm just trying to fill in the void my ex has left.

I agree with what Kiera would do, don't work there just because you like your boss.

f**king skank.

[*Uronacid*]

Look, you can continue to work there, but I wouldn't date your boss if you were going to do that... Ugh, it makes things so bad. I work at this company called Eworks, and my boss consistantly does stupid shit. I'm friends with him, and he's the ben affleck type too. Girls seem to come in and he notices that they are attracted to him, and before long they ask him if he wants to hang out or come over to their house... eventually they get into a relationship, and the atmoshpere at work becomes sour... they expect him to treat them ifferent at work just becuase they are his girlfriend, but he doesn't...they always feel like he's being a jerk, and when they breka up he has to fire them becuase they are such bitchs afterward

REASONS YOU SHOULDN'T:

-It's unporofessoinal
-It doesn't create a good work atmosphere.
-You may begin to expect favoritism in certain areas of the work place. Other employee's will deffinitly notice it, and believe me... they will be jealous. Look, the favoritism has already started. he gave you the job, and winked at you...
-If you guys break up then you will be walking on egg shells, and he may fire you.
-People at work may call you a whore becuase they will feel like you are only getting things, because yu could be "sleeping with the boss"...

I have seen all of this happen... It's really bad. I would suggest that if you want the job you take it but do not date him. If you do watn to date him then I think you should leave the job or possibly transfer to another job within the company (so he's not your boss), and ask him out to lunch or something.

[Chii]

f**king skank.

Skank? I thought I was just a b*tch.

[*mipadi*]

A couple of years ago, I dated this girl I with whom I worked. Great girl, too. She was a couple years older. We'd worked there about the same amount of time, never directly with each other though, until about two years ago. She wasn't a superior, though, so there wasn't that sort of conflict of interest. Things didn't work out, but we remained amicable, and it never hindered our working relationship in the slightest.

The thing is, the guy's your boss, which leads to a severe conflict of interest, and would likely cause problems, both at work and in the relationship. Seems like a bad idea to me.

[*Uronacid*]

A couple of years ago, I dated this girl I with whom I worked. Great girl, too. She was a couple years older. We'd worked there about the same amount of time, never directly with each other though, until about two years ago. She wasn't a superior, though, so there wasn't that sort of conflict of interest. Things didn't work out, but we remained amicable, and it never hindered our working relationship in the slightest.

The thing is, the guy's your boss, which leads to a severe conflict of interest, and would likely cause problems, both at work and in the relationship. Seems like a bad idea to me.

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