Summer fling, How to take it past that? |
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 Jul 26 2006, 05:23 PM
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 your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise.  Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110  |
Okay, so I've been going out with a guy that I've been pretty good friends with for almost a year, and I've basically liked him since then. We just started going out with eachother last week, and we've kissed/made-out, whatever.
So, I personally like him A LOT, and as I said, have for a long time. How do I tell him that I want something more than just a summer fling without pressuring him, in case he thinks of us just a summer thing? He asked me out and everything, I'm just wondering how to take it past just a summer thing.  EDIT// We go to the same school & we have pretty much all the same friends, if that changes anything. |
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| *Uronacid* |
Jul 26 2006, 05:52 PM
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Erf... you agreed to a summer fling? Well, all I can do is say, "You need to talk to him."
Wait until you and him are both in a one on one situation, and tell him that you would like to be more than just a summer fling. |
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Jul 26 2006, 05:55 PM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
No, I didn't agree to a summer fling.
I just said I'd go out with him...is that agreeing to a summer fling?  Guys are so confusing - the thing is, I don't know if HE considers it a summer fling or not. |
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Jul 26 2006, 05:57 PM
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do you see him alot? like everyday? go to the same school?
it will probably be more than a summer fling if you see each other alot. you should just ask how long you think our relationship is gonna be, because you want more than a summer fling |
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Jul 26 2006, 06:00 PM
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 yawn :) Group: Official Member Posts: 2,926 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,041 |
i live summer flings they are fun..bu t i am in a relationship now
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Jul 26 2006, 06:01 PM
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 tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
yea if it lasts through the summer, and you go to the same school its not exactly a summer fling.
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Jul 26 2006, 06:16 PM
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 live + laugh = life [[you don't need love]] Group: Member Posts: 191 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 441,854 |
erm.............talk to him???
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Jul 26 2006, 06:23 PM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
^ Yeah, but what exactly should I say?
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Jul 26 2006, 06:24 PM
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Well, then just be honest with him thats all... go out to eat with him somewhere and tell him how you feel ;P
You can only move as fast as he is willing to... what I mean by that is: If you are are in a relationship then you can only progress further into that relationship if your partner wants to. I suggest you think about whether you truely want that, and then bring it up to him. just make sure you guys are in private when you do it... You don't want any outside influences affecting either of your decisions.... |
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Jul 26 2006, 06:27 PM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
What would I say without pressuring him in case he only thinks of us as a summer thing?
I mean, we often hang out alone, so it wouldn't be hard to get him alone, but how would I bring it up, etc.? |
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Jul 27 2006, 11:15 AM
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Alright, I'll tell you what to do, but pull it off in your own way. I don't know your boyfriend like you do so I could never tell you exactly what to say....
Get him on a free day. One where you two are just enjoying eachother, and wait till you're haveing on of those conversations where it's just you and him. Make sure you just stay comfortable the whole day... seriously, jsut ave fun with him the whole day. When that period comes.. start telling him how you feel. Act like you really want to tell him something (becuase you do), and that you are scared to tell him (becuase you are)... Then after he bugs you a little bit tell him what youare afraid of... Tell him you really like him alot, that you are afraid that this is just a summer fling, and becuase the summer is comming to an end that you are sad becuase you're going to miss him. You sound like you want me to give you something to say to him that won't let him know that you care so that he won't be pressured by the truth... Um.... that's not going to happen... either way you have to let him know that you care, becuase thats the truth. |
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Jul 27 2006, 01:53 PM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
QUOTE Alright, I'll tell you what to do, but pull it off in your own way. I don't know your boyfriend like you do so I could never tell you exactly what to say.... Get him on a free day. One where you two are just enjoying eachother, and wait till you're haveing on of those conversations where it's just you and him. Make sure you just stay comfortable the whole day... seriously, jsut ave fun with him the whole day. When that period comes.. start telling him how you feel. Act like you really want to tell him something (becuase you do), and that you are scared to tell him (becuase you are)... Then after he bugs you a little bit tell him what youare afraid of... Tell him you really like him alot, that you are afraid that this is just a summer fling, and becuase the summer is comming to an end that you are sad becuase you're going to miss him. You sound like you want me to give you something to say to him that won't let him know that you care so that he won't be pressured by the truth... Um.... that's not going to happen... either way you have to let him know that you care, becuase thats the truth. ^ Aww..thank you so much!  I've been so worried about this, but I think I'll definitely take your advice, and let him know. Thank you again! Hopefully things'll go well... 
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