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 Feb 1 2004, 03:04 PM
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 Some 1 plz find me, help me find my way..my way bak 2 bliss  Group: Member Posts: 288 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,748  |
ok umm i poseted sumthin bout my b/f gettin braces rite but now i have a another problem well i tlked 2 him bout braces n it kame 2 the poitnwe were tlkin bout how he wanted 2 perfect himself n how i didn like perfection like he keeps tlkin bout how he relly dun need braces but wants then 2 perfectly straight out his teeth n how he wants his teeth 2 b pearly white n how hes gotta work out more 2 so as he kud get a six pack n buy new kloth so he kud look jig... now i undastand he wants tat but his teeth rnt tat yellow rnt tat crooked hes relly skinny hes 5' 11'' n 140lbs.. n like everytime 1 of his friends gets sum hot new kloths its like he gotta get it 2 his in competiton 2 b the most jig person in skool.. sumtims its like bein jig takes ova him..
newayz for me y wud ne1 need 2 perfect themselves who kares wat other ppl think?...if sum1 dun like u 4 who u r screw them... rite? weel it also kame 2 the poitn were i started thinkin i went out wit him kus he didn kare wat other think he bought wat he liked n didn seek the need 4 perfection like i usta at the time... n now hes suddenly changin n im not sayin that i love him less.. like i love him more n more evceryday... ...but y the sudden need 4 perfection? |
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Feb 1 2004, 03:27 PM
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 sO seDuctivE Group: Member Posts: 291 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,009 |
It's nothing that unusal, people look for change all the time, but it sounds like your man just has some self-confidence issues, nothing more, nothing less. Honestly, I think he's not only doing it for him, but for you too. If he sees a guy he thinks looks better than him, he can go and assume thats what you think too, and because of that he'll try to be more like the other guy. There's no such thing as perfection, but we all see what we wanna be and we label that as perfect, and if we dont look like that then therefore we arent perfect. Give him time to just mess around with new looks, and let him work out more and stuff if thats what it takes to make him feel good. You said "who cares what other ppl think" - well, you may not, but some other people do...and maybe he used to care, but just didn't shot it as much.
 so I guess you gotta look at it from different perspectives.
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Feb 1 2004, 03:55 PM
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 got, toilet paper? Group: Member Posts: 370 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,156 |
yeah. i'd say he's a little too self conscious about what everyone thinks.. its nothing bad.. i guess you just need to get used to it? -- and btw what is 'jig' .lol
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Feb 1 2004, 04:03 PM
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Some 1 plz find me, help me find my way..my way bak 2 bliss Group: Member Posts: 288 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,748 |
jig-- to look good n have a lot of xpenisve cloths
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Feb 1 2004, 10:56 PM
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most ppl wanna look good and all...maybe he wants to be beter for you? i onno...some guys feel that over time you needa give their gf something more something different...i onno...
 thats juss meeh...
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Feb 2 2004, 12:31 AM
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he is probably doing it for you. but i think most of it is because he wants to be more presentable. in the long run, working out will making him healthier and probably extend his life. theres nothing wrong with trying to make urself the best you can possibly be.
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Feb 10 2004, 12:32 AM
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yeah maybe hes doing this 4 you
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Feb 11 2004, 10:02 PM
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Baka elite Group: Member Posts: 124 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,437 |
it's hard to be perfect when we live in a world full of imperfections. We live in a flawed society.. why else would problems arise. Try to make him feel that even though he may not be the perfect person, he's perfect for you. sounds romantic don't it? lollz
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Feb 15 2004, 03:50 PM
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Yeah, my boyfriend is kinda like that except the part of being competitive towards his friends.. I encourage him to be a little different.. Yeah he says he wants to be perfect for me but I tell him that I fell love him for who he is, not for looks. He can be insecure about himself but I tell him it's okay.. I mean everyone has to be insecure about something right?! Anyways, ask him specifically why he wants to be perfect..
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Feb 15 2004, 04:10 PM
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 durian Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 13,124 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,860 |
QUOTE(dzbemark @ Feb 10 2004, 12:32 AM) yeah maybe hes doing this 4 you maybe so he prolly does it for you... And to future posters, please, don't type so much slang.. it's a lil.. well.. annoying? LoL besides that, maybe he's trying to make u like him more and maybe he feels the need to have confidence in himself, thus finding a new attribute for himself, one that he doesn't have, but will strive to do... Now, if you're saying that ALL he does is just talkk about bettering himself and not talking about anything else, then there's a big problem. besides that, it's okay. Jig.. is that like the new word for "cool?" man, either us ppl (who didn't know that word) are in a whole new dimension or are we just slow in the "coolness" nowadays? Damnit, I'm feeling old and I'm only 16
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Feb 16 2004, 09:42 PM
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QUOTE(LoST SouL @ Feb 1 2004, 3:04 PM) ok umm i poseted sumthin bout my b/f gettin braces rite but now i have a another problem well i tlked 2 him bout braces n it kame 2 the poitnwe were tlkin bout how he wanted 2 perfect himself n how i didn like perfection like he keeps tlkin bout how he relly dun need braces but wants then 2 perfectly straight out his teeth n how he wants his teeth 2 b pearly white n how hes gotta work out more 2 so as he kud get a six pack n buy new kloth so he kud look jig... now i undastand he wants tat but his teeth rnt tat yellow rnt tat crooked hes relly skinny hes 5' 11'' n 140lbs.. n like everytime 1 of his friends gets sum hot new kloths its like he gotta get it 2 his in competiton 2 b the most jig person in skool.. sumtims its like bein jig takes ova him.. newayz for me y wud ne1 need 2 perfect themselves who kares wat other ppl think?...if sum1 dun like u 4 who u r screw them... rite? weel it also kame 2 the poitn were i started thinkin i went out wit him kus he didn kare wat other think he bought wat he liked n didn seek the need 4 perfection like i usta at the time... n now hes suddenly changin n im not sayin that i love him less.. like i love him more n more evceryday... ...but y the sudden need 4 perfection? i think guys hav this need to perfect themselves to be the best. at least some guys. they prob. don't like getting neg. criticism so they try to perfect themselves so everyone likes him. u may think "who cares wut other pplz think?" but he may think "oh shit. wut will pplz say?" |
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Mar 9 2004, 01:32 PM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
QUOTE(LoST SouL @ Feb 1 2004, 3:04 PM) ok umm i poseted sumthin bout my b/f gettin braces rite but now i have a another problem well i tlked 2 him bout braces n it kame 2 the poitnwe were tlkin bout how he wanted 2 perfect himself n how i didn like perfection like he keeps tlkin bout how he relly dun need braces but wants then 2 perfectly straight out his teeth n how he wants his teeth 2 b pearly white n how hes gotta work out more 2 so as he kud get a six pack n buy new kloth so he kud look jig... now i undastand he wants tat but his teeth rnt tat yellow rnt tat crooked hes relly skinny hes 5' 11'' n 140lbs.. n like everytime 1 of his friends gets sum hot new kloths its like he gotta get it 2 his in competiton 2 b the most jig person in skool.. sumtims its like bein jig takes ova him.. newayz for me y wud ne1 need 2 perfect themselves who kares wat other ppl think?...if sum1 dun like u 4 who u r screw them... rite? weel it also kame 2 the poitn were i started thinkin i went out wit him kus he didn kare wat other think he bought wat he liked n didn seek the need 4 perfection like i usta at the time... n now hes suddenly changin n im not sayin that i love him less.. like i love him more n more evceryday... ...but y the sudden need 4 perfection? it may just very well be a phase that he's g0ing thr0ugh .. s0metimes at certain p0ints in y0ur life y0u lo0k t0 y0ur friends f0r influence, etc. when y0u're in the pr0cess 0f trying t0 disc0ver wh0 y0u really are these things will happen and it's perfectly n0rmal .. there is n0 need t0 strive f0r perfecti0n .. we all kn0w that n0b0dy is perfect .. but if he's self-c0nsci0us and it makes him feel a bit better then leave him be .. it d0esn't d0 any harm as l0ng as he d0esn't take it t0 further extremes.. |
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Mar 9 2004, 11:18 PM
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 =) Group: Member Posts: 570 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,305 |
to dream of being perfect is a good motivation for self-improvement.
he could be doing this for u and also for himself. nobody can ever be perfect and nobody will ever achieve the goal of perfection but i think the struggle for perfection is the key to making progress |
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