Friends with Benefits., effff buddies. Options

[s0pnayish]

So what do you guys think about friends with benefits?

[ANG33ZY]

lol. really, i'm not down to be anyones "buckfuddy"
even if he's the sexiest male in the world
nope.

[`SWTWiNKLE3YES]

i don`t think it`s right cuz i have this friend and she has a bf rite now and she makes out /etc.. wid this other 'friend' .. i personally dont think its right.

[felicity*aka*fe]

my personal experiences make me say no. someone gets attatched (it has been me most of the time) and someone gets hurt

[RCcola]

i see no problem with it as long as you both are emotionally unattached.
break it off as soon as there are signs of jealousy.

ive never had fwb before though, so maybe i should shut my mouth

[pinayprincess]

if your gonna have a f**k buddy ; make sure you arent emotionally attracted to him/her .. b/c if you do, it just screws everything up. it either gives you or the person you're messing w/ the advantage to do it w/ other ppl and you really have no say in it [if you have a problem] b/c YOU GUYS ARENT TOGETHER !

TRUE STORY !!!

[Looow]

i dont know. this topic makes me dhghjguuajdjhs. cus you know .. things get tempting. but yeah .. it's bad.

[*liquidize*]

^ YALL HURD IT FIRST FROM HER!

[Looow]

wait wait, say whaaaat?

[*This Confession*]

Well I suppose its a mtter if you want to be in a commitment or not. I personally would never do it. You'll end up getting attached in some way that you really don't think you ever will and you'll get hurt in the end.

Why do you want to know anyway?
If you want to do the things that fwb does, and not be in a commited relationship then I don't think your mature enough to even do the actions.

[xCrys]

Personally? - I think it's disgusting v.v
IMO? It shows that you really don't have much respect for yourself >.<

-Sorry, I'm one who believes that you have to be in a deepish relationship to.. even consider making love to another person >.> It's just my opinion though.

[pinayprincess]

How does it show you don't have respect for yourself?
If someone is your friend couldn't you have a deep relationship with them?

B/c its disrespect on your feelings; the more you have this 'friends with benefits' the more you are allowing yourself to get hurt. & if you were messing w/ someone who was JUST a friend; it isnt easier done than said to try to get with the person-- everybody is different so there are different ways they will react to it

[xCrys]

Pretty much what she said ^

I didn't say you couldn't have a deep relationship, but FWBs? You're risking your life that they're only being FWBs with you.. They could have half the school, and end up with aids... & because you weren't just with that one person, in like a... Relationship bf/gf, lez, gay, or bi.. ( i think you get what i mean) If you're not in a secluded relationship, youre risking your life with just having sex with this person... Uh, just take the person above me.. what she said, it sounds more reasonable -- I'm tired, or I'd explain what I meant better...

[xCrys]

Because later on you might regret it? Or they might move on to bigger and better things, and you felt kinda-sorta-maybe attatched to the person. Like I said though, It was all in my opinion.

&I don't take things way too seriously, I just think things through before I act. &getting aids, isn't on my to do list anytime in this lifetime.

[*Uronacid*]

Friends with beneifits is a risk.. many times, even if the person you are doing it with tells you they have no feelings for you they are lieing about it. That sucks, my friend always pulls this friends with benefits crap... he always distances himself from the girls, but it seems like the girls tend to go along with it just so they can get closer to him... it sucks from him, because he has a girl on his hands that he has to clean up, and it sucks for them becuase them because they are emotionally attached... Ugh, either way I think it's wrong... I believe sex is a sacred thing that should only be shared between a man and a woman... I'm not a virgin, so I'm not looking down on you people who aren't virgins, but I do wish that i kept my virginity.

[xmy_sweet_reveng...]

Hmm... well i completly disagree with it, if your gonna have sex with someone, your gonna have sex with them for the love in it, just getting off with people because you can isnt really like... i dunno... right lol. well thats my opinion anyway, if your gonna have sex with someone make sure its the right person for you. i dont see the point in just going around and stuff, its just completly pointless. and as crys said up there abit you really have no respect for yourself and for others doing it. so im against lol.

[pinayprincess]

How is it disrespect to your feelings if it's consensual?
And if you both know that s/he maybe be sleeping around with other people too?

-b/c you are risking your feelings of getting hurt
-b/c few allow things to happen [to continue] after messing [to say if the person you were messing w/ was messing w/ another person and you got attacthed to him?]


^^really long explaination to it but i dont feel like typing a lot

[xCrys]

That's not what she was getting at.
She's merely stating why she believes what I said...

People do get hurt in fwb situations, they realized they had feelings they really didn't think they had... Etc.

We just think that a person should be in love with another person before having sex with them, thats why we say what we have.

[*Weird addiction*]

Why do you want to know anyway?
If you want to do the things that fwb does, and not be in a commited relationship then I don't think your mature enough to even do the actions.

What do YOU know. That's all you do, talk crap.

Anyways, it's a dangerous game, be careful.

[danginja]

Some people can do this some people can't. Lots of people I know have these kind of relationships where them and some friend just mess around and they are still great friends. I mean it depends on how you grew up and what your beliefs are. Everyone is different. I personally can't do this because I would be way to attached to a girl. But yeah if you can emotionally not get a attached to a person go ahead pimp on.

[lalalaLANUH]

I personally wouldn't do it becuase I know I'd probably get attatched, but then again I've never been that strong when it comes to resisting temptation. Plus one of my friends was fwb with two of her friends and I really didn't like the image she was putting out (but then again she was putting out a lot as she made out with them in the halls).
So yeah...erm..no. Just no. I know how easily attatched I can become..

[AngelinaTaylor]

I do believe, to a certain point, that you should be in love to have sex, but sometimes you just wanna have fun.. And there's nothing wrong with that. As long as you don't end up regreting it. But having sex with someone you love is much, MUCH better (pleasure-wise) than having sex with just a friend.

[_sarcastic_]

my bf and i kinda started being friends with benefits, but of course we didn't have sex and neither did we make out.... i'm not sure if that's even fwb but what the heck.

i don't think it's a good idea though, you'll usually get attached

[AngelinaTaylor]

^ I don't think you were "friends with benefits".

[lyin_in_wait]

uhm...not really. if your benefits with them then theres obviously some chemistry goin one way. but in the long run, what if he gets a gf? your left in the dark. and if he still wants to continue with the fwb rituals.....would you really consider messin with another persons life? or what if you get a bf, and you leave him....

theres *always* strings attached no matter what...so no i dont like them

How is it disrespect to your feelings if it's consensual?
And if you both know that s/he maybe be sleeping around with other people too?

because it shows (to me) that instead of taking the time to get to know a person and actually want to be in a relationship for the better, you just pick and choose who you wanna f*k just because the feeling is there. it is a big risk too because almost 45% of all teens and young adults are infected with at least one STD by their mid-twenties. and those 45 dont go to a certain school, nor to they have HIV stamped on their forehead. plus, why risk your rep when you get tied to a player, or being known have consensual sex time and time again...but thats just my opinion

[*RiC3xBoy*]

uhm...not really. if your benefits with them then theres obviously some chemistry goin one way. but in the long run, what if he gets a gf? your left in the dark. and if he still wants to continue with the fwb rituals.....would you really consider messin with another persons life? or what if you get a bf, and you leave him....

theres *always* strings attached no matter what...so no i dont like them
because it shows (to me) that instead of taking the time to get to know a person and actually want to be in a relationship for the better, you just pick and choose who you wanna f*k. it is a big risk too because almost 45% of all teens and young adults are infected with at least one STD by their mid-twenties. and those 45 dont go to a certain school, nor to they have HIV stamped on their forehead. plus, why risk your rep when you get tied to a player, or being known have consensual sex time and time again...but thats just my opinion

But technically, if you are friends and one decides to stop, shouldnt the other understand, thus no one is hurt?

[*Freaky Krazer*]

It never works. The other would want to stay friends (with benefits) and the other would want to take the next step.

No matter how selfless a person can be someone would always get hurt. You can sugar coat how a person feels about staying friends as much as you want, but inside it's just another painful rejection

[MissKayla]

I agree with Freaky Krazer...IT NEVER WORKS. All F.W.B. gives you is instant gratification for the pleasure you want. Once you get tired of always putting yourself in a certain situation with your "friend," you WILL get tired of it after a while and what next? You cannot just go back to being the great friends you USED to be. If sexual ties are what is HOLDING ONTO your "friendship" then it isn't a friendship at all.

<3

[*Uronacid*]

It doesn't NEVER work. It does work, but only if borth parties see sex as just something you do... Because this rarely happens, many people see this as something that will not work...

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

well personally i dont like friends with benefits because its like alot of what people said that you eventually get attached to the person. so if they go out with someone you start missing having "fun" with them and you cant technically say anything because you were just "friends with benefits" and not the girl/boy friend.

and people talk and say hecka rude things behind peoples back i knew this girl who was just flirting around with guys and people were already calling her a slut and she really is not. i could imagine what they would say if she had a friend with benefits.

[shattered00dream]

as long as you guys aren't emotionally attached and won't be jealous of each other

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Plain old no..

[me1issaaaa]

Tempting, but in the long run, nothing good will come from it. Emotions, ugh.

[da_SALSA]

^ so true...the damn emotions get in the way! and plus over time u get attached

[*baby_in_blue*]

lol. really, i'm not down to be anyones "buckfuddy"
even if he's the sexiest male in the world
nope.

i completely agree. ONLY if its cristiano tho.

[Joss-eh-lime]

like most people said someone usually gets hurt.
id say no...

[PrincessAda]

I wouldn`t do it..

[cashmere deer]

It depends. It is hard for people to do that without getting somewhat attached because it is human nature. A lot of people figure, well if its just lust and we're just friends and you can't really build a relationship if we don't mesh well, that it will work. But I promise you that in almost every situation someone always ends up feeling closer to the person if not 'attached'.

[spongebobs1nonly]

i think its retarded and people that have are sluts

[AzNxBaBi]

i wonder how this whole FWB thing started :O

Anyways no, you either commit or you don't. You can't just play and not pay the price :] There isn't really a free meal in the world :D

So if you can pay then go ahead x.x

[xCrys]

^ i agree, minus the meal free.. because you can pick apples off a tree :)

---wait, i already posted in this, har. i still agree anyway.

[nyctophiliac]

I wouldn't want a friend with benefits...but it'd be fun ^_^ lol

[*disco infiltrator*]

Heh, I sort of have a "friends with benefits" thing going on right now even though I think that's an awful term, and there's no sex involved. More of kissing and cuddling. Just, my friend and I like eachother, but he doesn't want to be with anyone right now (and I don't blame him).

I don't think friends with benefits works out if you don't actually like eachother or something though, because one of you is going to end up liking the other and get hurt. I guess it's ok if the situation is understood though.

[Rachel]

I have/had a friends with benefits. We just you know a few times and then he said he couldn't anymore because it was making him think too much and I peaced out on that. Every once in a while I still catch myself texting him to