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 Jul 19 2006, 01:34 PM
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ok i have two best friends one i've known for 10 yrs and one i've known for 2.
well about 8 or 9 months ago i introduced my two best friends to each other. now they're best friends and they like each other better than both of them calling me their best friend..  ever since i get left out, and they always have stuff about each other in their profile. now one saysthe others her best friend and the other says the others her best friend. i've tryed talking to them and they just say im jealous. i'm not,just it's kinda upsetting you know when your not anybodys best friend anymore. now i wish i had a best friend to call my own..  the girl i've known for 10 yrs we've known each other so much longer.. since we were like 4.. & blahh just its really saddddd. what should i do? drop them? i want my best friends back 
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Jul 19 2006, 01:38 PM
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 another victim of love Group: Member Posts: 91 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 409,214 |
Why dont all 3 of you be bestfriends thats how me & 2 of my bestfriends are :)
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Jul 19 2006, 01:46 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
you ARE jealous. All the sad and mad feelings are called jealousy. There's not much you can do. You can't force them to include you in their things and you can't shove yourself back into their life or make them call you their best friend too. Don't mope about it, go hang out with some other friends and show them that they ain't shit to you.
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Jul 19 2006, 01:59 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
QUOTE(STFULiNDA @ Jul 19 2006, 2:38 PM)  Why dont all 3 of you be bestfriends thats how me & 2 of my bestfriends are :) WOORD  lol
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Jul 19 2006, 02:10 PM
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I've been in this situation before.. I am kind of right now. Except I was the friend being introduced. Me and the other girl started to get along great, and I think our mutual friend started to get jealous because now she never talks to either of us.
My advice to you is that you stop recognizing the fact they're friends (because they will keep insisting you're just jealous) and start getting together all three of you to do things. It's great to have your two best friends getting along and you should be there to enjoy it with them =] |
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Jul 19 2006, 03:00 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
i agree with stfulinda, why can't the three of you be best friends?? like my 4 other friends and me
how do you know if you're not best friends with either one of them, maybe you're just too busy noticing that they're not including you that you don't realize maybe that attitude is keeping them away. cheer up, just find other people. |
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Jul 19 2006, 04:56 PM
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I've been there before. Probably not as long as you knew the 10 years one but anyways the girl that i was best friends with is no longer my best friend actually i've found some that i can truly call best friends. listen, there are soo much people out there that can be a friend to you than they can. and you know if they treated you as a friend they wouldnt have left you out yeah? so good luck on finding some real people okayy? cause i know its not hard.
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Jul 19 2006, 06:45 PM
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 Love is a flame that can't be tamed Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 396,304 |
It is jealousy. But there's nothing wrong in having feelings about any situation. It's a hard one. You can't do anything. But you can just be confident in yourself around the 2 of them and they'll continue being friendly to you when they acknowledge you. You can always find someone/group else that includes everyone. It's hard to stay close equally to every single one when in a group more than 3 or something, but it's just how it works. *hugs*
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Jul 19 2006, 08:15 PM
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 <(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
jealousy is not an emotion to be ashamed about we all feel it sometimes. well just talk to them BOTH at the same time and tell them how you feel and what they make you feel when they say all this best friend shit. i really feel pist off for you i dont think i would be calling any of them my best friends if they just dropped me like that. if they dont change go make some new friends! their are always good people out their who wont forget about you. GOOD LUCK!!!
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Jul 19 2006, 10:36 PM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
yea ive been there...all you can do is just wait until something happens, either A.) their relationship fizzes out and either of them come running back to you or B.) find someone else to be close with, and leave them alone to realize just how amazing of a bestfriend you really were and what they missed out on.
i picked B and havent looked back...if they traded you in then theres nothing wrong with you doin the same |
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Jul 19 2006, 11:24 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
It seems like you are.I`ve been there and I admit I`m jealous.You shoudl try telling them that you feel left out sometimes and see what they have to say.
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Jul 20 2006, 02:27 AM
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 Newbie Group: Member Posts: 3 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 439,665 |
omg i had the same exact problem. i introduced my two bestfriends to each other now they wanna act like they knew each other longer then they knew me... but i kinda stopped hanin out with thme and found some new bf's
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