Older boyfriend, How much older? |
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 Jul 4 2006, 10:10 PM
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I'm in highschool, going into grade 10 in September. My best friend said that she wants to set me up with a guy she's friends with - I said okay, I'm interested. The thing is, he's going into grade 12 in September.
I don't know whether or not I would want to date a guy that much older. So, my question is, how much older would you let a guy be if you were deciding whether or not to date him, or, how much older is your significant other, and is age important to you, especially if you're in high school. Oh..and if you want to let me know what you think about if I should give the guy a chance, that'd be great too. 
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Jul 4 2006, 10:24 PM
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I wouldn't go out with a guy more than two years older than me or more. I mean,I would be in a relationship with them. Haha I don't know why. I think we'd be too different. There are exceptions though. I think a year older is better though.
My boyfriend is six months older. Haha. |
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Jul 4 2006, 10:34 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
Probably 1-4 years. Age ain`t nothing but a number to some people.
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Jul 5 2006, 12:54 PM
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Well I'm in highschool, but I'm homeschooled so I don't really care what other people think and such. My boyfriend is 20, and I'm 15. I don't mind his age at all.
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Jul 5 2006, 03:00 PM
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 worship me or i'll stab you Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 122,634 |
yeah..age is just a number
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Jul 5 2006, 03:19 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
It's only two grades. It's very common and not a big deal.
Ive dated guys up to 5 years older than me. Sometimes it was okay, sometimes it wasn't. It doesnt depend on the age it depends on how mature or immature they are. |
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Jul 5 2006, 03:42 PM
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Two years isn't a big deal at all. However, if you stay together, you might have some rough spots when he heads off to college the following year... because you'll still have another two years left. But hey, I'd say to give it a shot, this just might be an amazing thing that could happen to the two of you... you never know. Don't let the age difference bother you too much.
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Jul 5 2006, 05:04 PM
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 another victim of love Group: Member Posts: 91 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 409,214 |
QUOTE(xbabyboo @ Jul 4 2006, 10:34 PM)  Probably 1-4 years. Age ain`t nothing but a number to some people. I agree. I dated a guy 4 years older & didnt feel any different. & my last boyfriend was 3 years apart from me. I guess it made everything easier, he got to drive to my house & see me. He got to pick to up to go to the movies hehe 
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Jul 5 2006, 06:38 PM
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since im 14. the oldest guy i would date is 16.
but if I was 16, 17, 18---- 1-4 years. |
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Jul 5 2006, 07:10 PM
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I'm 14.
My age limit is 16. |
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Jul 5 2006, 08:13 PM
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s w e e t e s t Group: Member Posts: 808 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,149 |
Age doesn't matter to me . My boyfriend is 5 years older than me. I don't mind. We're a perfect couple =)
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Jul 5 2006, 10:36 PM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
Yeah, I definitely think that I agree with 1-2 years older, but, I'm going to be 15 soon.
By the time my friend would introduce us (because she's on vacation right now), I'd be 15 and he'd be 17. So I'm not sure.. |
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Jul 5 2006, 11:51 PM
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Tiffany <3 Group: Member Posts: 192 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,685 |
In my opinion, 2 years, ha, no big deal. My boyfreind is 19, i'm 15. Yeah, age is no big deal to us. And i think that dating older (or younger) people in bigger chunks once you hit like...16 because yo are more mature i guess. idk, in most cases anyways.
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Jul 6 2006, 12:48 AM
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the oldest i go is 3 years older so 18.
idk some guys might want more since there older, and may have experienced more things.. they might expect the same things they would with a girl the same age |
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Jul 6 2006, 01:55 AM
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 HAAAAAAAA. Group: Member Posts: 4,472 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,068 |
My boyfriend's 2 years older than me. It's not that big of a deal. Age doesn't matter to me, unless he's 35. :\
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Jul 7 2006, 08:34 AM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
Yeah...35 would definitely be a bit too old
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Jul 7 2006, 08:52 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
It's just 2 years, not that big of a deal.
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Jul 7 2006, 10:15 AM
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2 years isn't really a big deal, I'm 14 so the my age limit is probably 16/17.
So yeah 2 years is fine. |
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Jul 7 2006, 12:13 PM
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 daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
It's only two years.. But don't do anything you're not comfortable with. I'm 17 and my boyfriend's 22.. But I guess to each their own.
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Jul 7 2006, 12:29 PM
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I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 31.
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Jul 7 2006, 12:35 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ You're kidding?
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Jul 7 2006, 12:42 PM
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No, I'm not. We met when I was 16 and he was 29.
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Jul 7 2006, 12:50 PM
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daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
^ Wow..
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Jul 7 2006, 12:53 PM
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 CB's Official Ninja Group: Member Posts: 709 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,477 |
A lot of people date people older then what they are. Some women date younger men cause some men are attracted to older women because of there maturity or features. But it's mostly women dating older guys cause of there maturity or something about the guy. Age is just a number maturity shows your real age in reality.
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Jul 7 2006, 01:05 PM
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I guess it really depends on you. Some people prefer closer to age like 2 years apart. Others say age doesn't matter. It's really up to yor taste and if the guy seems good get to know him. I mean it doesn't hurt to get to know someone and maybe once you get out of highschool and you two are still in touch well you can hook up right? Yeah haha.
I've dated a guy 4 yrs older than me? I'm 15 now and he's 19. But I guess I prefer 2 yrs apart at least. |
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Jul 7 2006, 02:25 PM
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It's all a personal preference.
A guy that I sort of like right now, is about 4 and a half years older than me, but I tend to see him more as a role model then a crush because he's so much older. We're both Christians, we have similar limits and I know nothing would work out because of those limits. And, of course, my parents. My Dad's really overprotective and doesn't even like me being FRIENDS with 19 year olds- (I'm 15, this guy's almost 20)- and the last time I liked a 17-year-old, my Dad flipped. The only reason I'm friends with the older guys I am, is because they're from church and he trusts them. On the other hand it depends on the guy. If he's a nice guy, who's willing to move at your pace, and work with you instead of trying to get something from you, then go for it- as long as your parents, and most importantly yourself, are okay with it. Be cautious but don't miss out on an opportunity because a guy's 2 years older... In my opinion, when you're in high school, it doesn't make much of a difference : ) |
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Jul 8 2006, 07:10 AM
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quotes always say age is nothing when it comes to love. haha, thats not true
 i think around 1-3 years. at the most, 4 years? |
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Jul 9 2006, 12:25 AM
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i agree with the person above me^
but really, i think it does matter if you want it to matter. in highschool, it's whether you want to be with someone with more experience or less experience. i think in your situation would be fine |
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Jul 9 2006, 08:25 AM
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well .. when i was in 9th grade .. i dated a guy who was in 11th.. its not that bad .. you should look at the maturity level of both you and him .. and also .. he is older then you and most likely more expierienced then you .. so watch out for that if u arent raedy to do anything .. i am 16 now and my boyfriend is 18 soon to be 19 .. i think you will be okay with dating him ..
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Jul 9 2006, 02:41 PM
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Personally I always date older guys. I like it that way.
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Jul 9 2006, 03:09 PM
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I like older women. But I get the younger ones? d-d-d-d-d-d-ayummmmmm
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Jul 10 2006, 04:52 PM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
QUOTE I like older women. But I get the younger ones? d-d-d-d-d-d-ayummmmmm Haha okay - whatever that means. =] |
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Jul 10 2006, 05:59 PM
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worship me or i'll stab you Group: Member Posts: 616 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 122,634 |
i prefer older guys
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Jul 10 2006, 06:02 PM
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QUOTE(KMFDM_MDFMK @ Jul 10 2006, 5:59 PM) i prefer older guys i agree! older guys are HOT. |
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Jul 10 2006, 10:28 PM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
QUOTE i agree! older guys are HOT. Well, yeah - they're usually hotter than guys in the same grade. Usually. |
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Jul 11 2006, 09:25 AM
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welll, when i was a freshman last year, i started dating a senior, and now he's graduated and going into the air force and i'm only going to be a sophmore. we've been dating for 10 months too and it will probably get a lot farther
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Jul 11 2006, 10:16 AM
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your signal fades away, and all I'm left with is noise. Group: Member Posts: 2,099 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,110 |
QUOTE welll, when i was a freshman last year, i started dating a senior, and now he's graduated and going into the air force and i'm only going to be a sophmore. we've been dating for 10 months too and it will probably get a lot farther That's awesome
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Jul 11 2006, 06:31 PM
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i think 2 years is fine, you shouldn't worry about it. my boyfriend is almost 3 years older than me - together for 10 months. yeyuhhh.
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Jul 11 2006, 08:35 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 85 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,178 |
my boyfriend is 24 and i'm 18 and we are perfect together...age doesn't matter much...i think it just depends on if you are comfortable with a person or not...
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Jul 11 2006, 08:54 PM
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My boyfriend is 3 years older than me. So two years should be fine
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Jul 13 2006, 02:10 AM
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 Mrs. Delonge Group: Member Posts: 426 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 406,185 |
My brother's girlfriend is 18, and my brother is 16. Lol... that's even weirder.
My dad is 5 years older than my mom... I don't know. Age gaps that large aren't uncommon. I think it's fine, just so long as you want to date him :] |
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Jul 13 2006, 05:52 AM
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My boyfriend is 2 years older than me.I'd probably date a guy maybe 3 or 4 years older than me maybe..age doesn't really bother me..
And my dad is 10 years older than my mum o.o |
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Jul 13 2006, 11:19 PM
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im a senior in highschool and its really hard to date someone in college. well for me. but i dont know. personally, im more attracted to older guys...guys my age are just immature.
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Jul 14 2006, 02:36 AM
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honeslty i wouldnt want to date an older guy... they can be soo mature that they're IMMATURE... its hard to explain but really age is nothing but a number.. its only the matter of how much you trust the guy b/c he could be more experienced with SUCH things...
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