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| *Steph Chan* |
 Jul 1 2006, 10:34 PM
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So here's another of my stupid scenario's in which I need help with.
There's this boy, that I've been really good friends with for the past two years. I can tell him anything at all, excluding boy problems, which sometimes include him. So story goes, he used to really like me last summer, & I was confused about him. Then come the school year, I liked some other guy, & he admitted that he was jealous. I guess he kind of got over me, but we remained good friends. Now, throughout the entire school year he always gave me the impression that he liked me still liked me (touching, closeness etc). However one of my friends informed me that he told her that he had gotten over me. Seeing that it is summer again, me & him still keep in touch, the occassional phone calls. We are too caught up in our own stuff to hang out right now, & I miss him terribly. I'm starting to think that I'm falling for him & my friends really think I should go out with him. Advice? |
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Jul 1 2006, 11:35 PM
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 You can call me Jon  Group: Duplicate Posts: 878 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 9,806 |
I have the same exact problem.
But then again, it's a completely different scenario. |
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| *This Confession* |
Jul 2 2006, 12:02 AM
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^wheres the help?
no offense! I'm getting sick of getting quoted. Anyway, if you miss him terribly and you two are great friends and you can even tell him anything. Then why can't you tell him that you miss him and want to hang out with him? If you both are good friends then you should be able to take the time out to hang out I would think? Its summer, make time out for one another. If you start to like him and truly believe you do and don't want to fool around with his feelings then tell him. Be honest with him. |
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Jul 2 2006, 12:05 AM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
Maybe he does still like you.Don`t always believe what you heard..hear it from they face.GO FOR IT!
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Jul 2 2006, 12:28 AM
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i think you should tell him how u feel. as lame as that sounds.. haha.
if you dont you'll always have that what if. |
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| *Kathleen* |
Jul 2 2006, 03:05 AM
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QUOTE Maybe he does still like you.Don`t always believe what you heard..hear it from they face.GO FOR IT! I know; teenage girls always have ulterior motives; you can't trust anyone. I say just go for it. Be persistent. Aggressive!  And hey if it doesn't work out, just move on. There are plenty of fish - erm, men - out there.
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Jul 2 2006, 04:18 AM
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dont fall for people's words.
they can be wrong ... your lead you to the wrong thoughts. listen to him. he is what you get accurate information. |
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| *Steph Chan* |
Jul 2 2006, 10:16 AM
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Yeah, stupid me, i forgot one part of the story.
I would def. go out with him but one of his best friends is my ex. or 6 months, & another of his friends really likes me. The guy that really likes me is my friend as well & i don't want to cause trouble. 
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| *Uronacid* |
Jul 2 2006, 02:37 PM
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Ok, you will cause more trouble if you arn;t honest with you're feelings... you said:
QUOTE The guy that really likes me is my friend as well & i don't want to cause trouble. um... stop it... that guy will continue to have feelings for you ountil he sees a reason to move on. Stop hiding in the dark and make it clear that you like the guy that you like or things will just get worse. 
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Jul 2 2006, 03:55 PM
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 Ne0 Is The One Group: Member Posts: 1,348 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 24,349 |
From a guy view who had a similiar situation. He may act like he got over you but from the way you describe him, (touching and all), it sounds like he still likes you even if he said he doesn't. I would in your case ask him clearly whether he still like you or not? because then, like what other have said. You two will have one of those what if situations.
U can go out with him on 1 date and see what happens from there. |
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| *Steph Chan* |
Jul 5 2006, 08:44 AM
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In response to Uronacid
You see, it's not that I'm completely in love with the guy, he's just one of those 'I have in mind' kind of guys. I'm really kind of an iffy, undecided girl. Jees, you're right I should just stop. In response to MasterNeo i would ask him straight out, but he's one of those guys who is really UNCOOL about these kinds of things. like one time he admitted to me that he liked me, & then he avoided/ ignored me for about 3 days. he's just really shy about his feelings, so i guess he doesn't want me to know? heh. |
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| *baby_in_blue* |
Jul 6 2006, 02:38 AM
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wow. this is interesting. i`d just say go for it. because what if something happens, and you never get the chance to tell him? just say what you feel. if he responds badly, then whateves. move on.
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Jul 6 2006, 04:13 PM
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 我爱台妹,台妹爱我 Group: Member Posts: 877 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,340 |
this is what he thinks
he liked u a lot. u went out with another guy. he thinks ur kind of a bitch for doing that (just out of jealousy, not realistically). he got over you. now u want to try and go back to him? are u freakin serious?? if u value him as a friend dont do anything. if u want to lose him, ask him out. itll be about a month and a half before he starts becoming jealous over other guys, becoming overprotective, and its all gonna collapse and youre never going to talk to each other. how do i know this? cause it happened to me. admittedly a bit worse (we went out, she cheated, broke up, she tried to come back). it will not work out. hell u cant even find enough time in ur schedule to hang out /w him, dont be lying to urself and think that he will accept u back with open arms. might as well believe ur a princess that can fly |
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| *Steph Chan* |
Jul 9 2006, 09:57 PM
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QUOTE(lanbexx @ Jul 6 2006, 5:13 PM)  this is what he thinks he liked u a lot. u went out with another guy. he thinks ur kind of a bitch for doing that (just out of jealousy, not realistically). he got over you. now u want to try and go back to him? are u freakin serious?? if u value him as a friend dont do anything. if u want to lose him, ask him out. itll be about a month and a half before he starts becoming jealous over other guys, becoming overprotective, and its all gonna collapse and youre never going to talk to each other. how do i know this? cause it happened to me. admittedly a bit worse (we went out, she cheated, broke up, she tried to come back). it will not work out. hell u cant even find enough time in ur schedule to hang out /w him, dont be lying to urself and think that he will accept u back with open arms. might as well believe ur a princess that can fly 1. i never went out with another guy after i found out he liked me 2. you are most probably right, but did you have to be so harsh about it? |
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Jul 10 2006, 12:23 AM
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 CB's Forum Troll Group: Member Posts: 926 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 115,142 |
play an aggressive defense like Alternate aTTaX and win the intel summer championship
unfortunately youll get owned by the complexity syndicate |
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Jul 11 2006, 08:28 PM
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 <(- -)><(- - <)(>- -)><(- - )> Group: Member Posts: 646 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,609 |
how about talkin to him first before you make your move? sometimes guys LOVE to flirt but it usually does not mean they like you (sometimes) dont worry sometimes it takes a long time to start noticing your best guy friends but to tell you the truth i would stay friends with him then go out with him because guys usually feel akward and start being more distant BELIEVE ME it has happend to my friend like 2 times.
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Jul 12 2006, 12:28 AM
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i dont think you LIKE him... in my opinion i'm assuming your just feeling empty that you dont have him around-- that your so used to him being around that it has brought you to the conclusion that you have to go out w/ him... i dont think thats the PERFECT idea.. although he had feelings towards to BEFORE... i donthtink you should risk messing up a 'best-friend' relationship like this...
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| *Steph Chan* |
Jul 13 2006, 11:32 PM
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^I completely agree..
considering I know that I really don't like him anymore. lol |
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| *Shinji_Mimura* |
Jul 14 2006, 02:41 AM
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^ Good Job.
< Congratulates you. V She doesn't like him anymore, your advice will no longer be taken into consideration. |
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