Do you think LOVE is overrated?, Do u really love someone or just saying i love you in a relationship b Options

[addiction x3]

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Ok, so i've dated a guy for a little over a year and of course we said Iloveyou. But who really knows what love is? I dont think i was in love because when I think about it now.. I dont know if i was. It was in 2003. So i think if i cant remember it must not have been.

Then there was another guy. We also exchanged the three word sentence and maybe ILOVEYOU was just a subsititution for the attractive we had strongly against each other.

Well now there is this wonderful guy I am talking to. He does everything any girl would want.

It maybe corny but its exactly what you decribe and see in the movies. I feel different towards him then I felt towards the others two. When i think about him i just smile even if something very wrong is happening. I talk to him and i just get soo happy. I cant stop thinking about him and when im with him i dont care about anyone or anything else. If i lost him, id be devistated. I think I maybe falling in love with this amazing guy. We have been talking for nearly a month now, and I am/have been on vacation for a month and we miss each other very much. We talk everyday and its always something new. We are always telling the truth and ahh i dont know what it is. His personality is great and I just love being around him.


I am sixteen years old, So could this be love?

[AngelinaTaylor]

If you have to ask, then no. You just know when you're in love.

[pinacoolada]

^sometimes people get confused...

sure it could be. sounds like it. but you're the best judge.

[ghjgfkgfk]

POSSIBLY

[silver-rain]

We can't tell for you. You would know if you were in love.

[addiction x3]

Yeah, I had been thinking about it and I feel that I am but I feel like one of those dumb girls who date a guy for a week and then say I love you.. so i wanna be sure and I think I am

Thankyou.

[pinacoolada]

and people use the sentence: "I love you" loosely these days.
example: OMG lyke, I LOVE YOU SOOO MUCHHH *insert friend's name here*.

I did use the sentence just to make him feel good at the beginning..now I really do..but I think people shouldn't do that

[*This Confession*]

No love isn't overrated.

In some sense it is though.

If you have to ask your in love I don't really think your in it. Although you could just be confused with what you see around you on what is love when it really isn't that at all.

Love isn't perfect, okay. Love is filled with hard times and I'm not saying your going to have them constantly but when your in love you work things out you don't just give up because of some fight. Its not selfish, or possessive, or even jealous. Love isn't blind either, when you love someone you see all their faults and their imperfections and still love them none-the-less. A big one most people don't get is that love isn't condescending. Such as if your partner is always telling your wrong or something quite a lot, they more than likely don't love you. They should be more considerate to your opinions. Everyone isn't always right.


0_o
I have to go do something now.
I suppose that may have helped.?

[addiction x3]

aww. thank you all very much.

[pinacoolada]

do you guys agree that people don't have to fit the signs of being in-love to be in-love?

[addiction x3]

yeah, see i dont know.

i think i am getting the stereotype mixed up in my feelings.

[*This Confession*]

do you guys agree that people don't have to fit the signs of being in-love to be in-love?

Signs?


Okay some doctor wrote these.
and its like the 7 stages of love

here :

First Level: Security, simply. We feel safe and secure with the person we are with. The security is more than a friend you can tell everything to because should the same security be offered to others, jealously might/will occur.

Second Level: Pleasure. The person offers pleasure and comfort. This could just be a comforting place after a long, hard day or more physical pleasure.

Third Level: Companionship. The person we are with shares the same ideas, thoughts and feels (at least in general) and offers positive reinforcement for our daily goals and aspirations.

Fourth Level: Unconditional love. This is the stage where both people see the other as being imperfect. Should one person make a mistake or the two people get into a fight, they would still be loved by their partner. A good example is the love of a parent for a child; even when the child misbehaves, the parent will never stop loving them.

Fifth Level: Universal love. This stage indicates a desire to feel unconditional love (or forgive) other people outside the relationship. This could be described as the stage where suddenly the sky seems bluer and the grass greener and you can see the good in everyone.

Sixth Level: Soulful love. The attraction between the two does not rely on the physical. Things like death, injury or old age do not change the feelings between the two. There is a realization of a deeper part of human nature (the soul) which is loved more than the body it is in.

Seventh Level: Divine love. Regardless of religious beliefs, this stage is closely related to the love of Jesus Christ in the Christian faith. It is a realization that there will be no separation through death and that we are all part of one consciousness.


In Closing


Love, no matter what system you believe in, takes time and an investment of time in both yourself and the other person. While there can be daily trauma, fights or insecurities, love tends to be a foundation that cannot be so easily effected. If the foundation of any relationship is strong, even if it is friendship, there are few things that can break it.

[ghjgfkgfk]

aww. thank you all very much.

WELCOME

[*Uronacid*]

No love isn't overrated.

In some sense it is though.

If you have to ask your in love I don't really think your in it. Although you could just be confused with what you see around you on what is love when it really isn't that at all.

Love isn't perfect, okay. Love is filled with hard times and I'm not saying your going to have them constantly but when your in love you work things out you don't just give up because of some fight. Its not selfish, or possessive, or even jealous. Love isn't blind either, when you love someone you see all their faults and their imperfections and still love them none-the-less. A big one most people don't get is that love isn't condescending. Such as if your partner is always telling your wrong or something quite a lot, they more than likely don't love you. They should be more considerate to your opinions. Everyone isn't always right.
0_o
I have to go do something now.
I suppose that may have helped.?

I couldn't have said it better myself

[PrincessAda]

Maybe.It depends..if you feel DEEPLY in love.

[demolished]

you can feel deeply in love with him.


he may NOT feel deeply in love with you. what have you done for him that any guy would want ... ?

[lyin_in_wait]

i wouldnt say that i take what i have with my significant other for granted. but sometimes yea it is....i dont think love in its true form is overated, although i think that hallmark and every dept. store known to man helps make it overrated specially around the holidays..

you just know when you are. it can happen at anytime but...its hard to describe. i cant say that i was given a sign, nor is it when i would read his text messages over and over again. you just know

[addiction x3]

yeah i see what you mean.

im finally realising that.

and now its like clear thanks to everyone :)

and i dont even know how to say it to him.. theres another problem haha

[*This Confession*]

well say what you mean, Tell him the truth because everyone deserves that, even if it does hurt sometimes.

good luck

[Kontroll]

Wow, it's been a while since I've said anything. Well, love isn't overrated because it's a feeling, and even deeper. It's not like love magically sprouted out of some new hybrid plant that we've only known about for a couple years. It's been around through out human existence. So I think that answers that question.

Secondly, you still love some one when you question it. You have your 'Up's' and 'Down's.' If you're lying next to your husband or wife and ask yourself what you're doing there, lying next to that person, are you not in love still? There will be times that you question things and it's perfectly normal. I think that you still might have loved that person even though you were not sure. Like Josh [Uronacid] said to me, love isn't always a feeling. It's deeper, more sacrificial than that. It's getting to know their bad side and sticking with them through it. Thanks Josh. Haha.

[cassjamminx]

love is filled with everything you can imagine. so much pleasure and pain. but the greater feeling always cancels the lesser one out.

KLEE, i think you should let time decide? if you continue to feel this way, ask yourself how you really feel instead of coming on the boards. i mean, who are we to know how you really feel? sometimes love is hard to put into words.

love is different for everyone else, too. keep that in mind. you say that you might be getting the wrong impression of what love is from what you see around you. but love is what you define and see it as. make it your own

[bobby james]

I think when you are in love you KNOW, you do not have to think, it's some kind of knowing thing that comes with it. And my take on your subject is "whoever says love is overrated, must not be gettin' none", the lady who said that was right.

[addiction x3]

yeah, i mean i feel like ill be with him and he'll do something little and i feel like i fall in love all over or something like that. Or he will say something and im just like wow, you are amazing, but only time will tell.

i dont want to come out and say something until i know im sure. but i appreciate it alot from all of you.

[*This Confession*]

well I'm sure if you wait before you ever tell him and wait until your sure that you know. He'll respect you more and probably be happier that he knows its true.

[imnoxonesmemory]

i think a lot of times it's overrated because even though people dont mean it, it seems to bring people together. i've said "i love you" to many people but i know inside i don't mean it. but it happens. sometimes people really do mean it thou...

[Rachel]

Real love is never overrated.

[cassjamminx]

yeah, i mean i feel like ill be with him and he'll do something little and i feel like i fall in love all over or something like that. Or he will say something and im just like wow, you are amazing, but only time will tell.

i dont want to come out and say something until i know im sure. but i appreciate it alot from all of you.

especially if you're contemplating, don't say it just yet. if he says it to you, really think about what the words mean to you. if you're contemplating the issue, it just means you're iffy and obviously unsure. so try not to lean towards the oppisite side if you're unsure. because if you say "i love you" when you're unsure, and end up realizing you didn't mean it, it's kind of hard to take it back.

[LOWinSKANK]

Yeah I agree.. you shouldn't hav to ASK if your in love. You'll know.
Me, I make sure I know something & then I say it. I wouldn't lie about a feeling so strong.

[blucheri]

YES love is overrated.

Love is only temporary. remember that.

[cassjamminx]

^ I'd have to say that infatuation is only temporary. I believe that real love never dies. As long as you believe it in, why would it? And how can a feeling so strong be only temporary? Why would you want it to go away?

that's just what i think

[*This Confession*]

"Love is only temporary. remember that."


why do you think that?
I mean today Love could possibly mean that. Divorce numbers are pretty big now so i mean most people that get in the middle of those do believe that love doesn't last forever.

[DivineFox]

Don't need to tell, you just know your in love ^_^

[Trumpetman4eva]

i dont think love is overrated. at least not for me. it pisses me off when people stereotype teens as being immature and that they couldnt possibly have any idea what love is. Hell, im probably more mature than some people who are 10 years older than me.

i am in love right now. dont ask how i know, i just do. its true what they say. you just know when you are in love. The best part is, she loves me back.

[cassjamminx]

^ awwww. yeah i agree with you too. i hate it when people say "aww teenage love" or stuff like that, or "high school love" thinking it can't last outside of school or anything like that.

i'm in love too, it's like a switch in your brain that just clicks when you are. like the "love button" has just been turned on. hahaha. you just know.

[blucheri]

believe what u want.

but i said that cuz i really don't believe in love.

love in Family, friends, but not in the person u want. so....

[cassjamminx]

^ oh, interesting.

[blucheri]

^^ yes very lmao

[*liquidize*]

^ Shoot, I'm serious I believe in love kind of, But first tell me if thats You in your sig...If thats you...Love will never be true, so go find a late night lover and love for you will always be about pain. So to find someone for you is to send ethan hunt on mission impossible IV to make you like oprah. Just kidding, You will find yoru special person out there LOL If you become oprah. I hope paradox doesn't snipe me right now. What happeend to being cool? I guess that doesn't matter anymore when you're a superstar right?

[danginja]

"Love" is overrated because people use the word to vaguely. People look around blind for love all the time. They believe what they have is love but it is an artifical fiction. Iunno thats some people, it just depends on expierence.

[no-name]

Real love is never overrated.

agreed

[misoshiru]

I personally think that the concept, or term "love" is overrated. When you love someone, you don't need to say it for them to know. And that's when it's really "love."

Actual love itself is not overrated, but the term is.

[cassjamminx]

^ very true. love itself is not overrated, but the term is. too many people misuse it, and they think wrong of it.

"Love" is overrated because people use the word to vaguely. People look around blind for love all the time. They believe what they have is love but it is an artifical fiction. Iunno thats some people, it just depends on expierence.

that's true. people expect so much from it due to what they see and then when then don't get it- they think it's heartbreak, when really it was never meant to be what they expected from the start.

does that make sense?

[*ECD & C0*]

no

[cassjamminx]

wow haha ^^ you're right. i just read it over and i even confused myself.

what i meant to say was *takes a stab at it*

when people get the wrong idea/definition of love, they think that when they experience "love" that's what they have. and when it doesn't work out, they feel that they just experienced a "heart break." but how can it be when it was never really love from the start to begin with.

meaning- you can't have an outcome if there was never an official beginning.

AKA- no Love, no Heartbreak.

but since people confuse their idea of love with the real concept of love, they'll think their heart is broken. and that they can't love again..

NOW does that make sense?hahaha.

[danginja]

sure....of course it does

[blucheri]

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love is overrated

[Spec_R]

I think yes, it's overrated...
a lot of people just date others because it's nice for someone to be there/sex/popularity/etc...
but does it means they really love them? also, there is a big difference between liking someone really really much and loving someone. usually, people get those two mixed up.

[cassjamminx]

^ true.

sure....of course it does

you don't understand what i'm saying?

point is is that if you never what something is from the start, you're misleading yourself.

[danginja]

Yeah I know wat your saying jeez haha...

[priyas]

LOVE is not overrated.