When did you know you were bi/gay/lez?, and how? Options

[broken inside]

I heard most people know when thier young, I'm fourteen, nearly fifteen. I am unsure.

[*Uronacid*]

hmmm.... I was realy young when I figured out that I was straight... maybe I was born this way I think, maybe it was natrual instinct... :)

[*This Confession*]

=O
^Me too, me too!

[SarahxJoy]

^ x2: I third what he said.

[iminlovewithTomD...]

Yeah... I don't believe that homosexuality/bisexuality is actually REAL. I think it's just something made up in your mind that you believe only because something happened to you... whether it be some devastating event, the enviornment, jealousy, whatever... yep... that's my thought.

[SimplicityGirl]

Well...I knew I was straight pretty much...when I was little...because I would fantasize about marrying a guy...and fantasize about dating and loving a guy..girls never gave me the feeling that guys gave...oh dear that doesn't answer your question does it?

My friend told me that she knew she was gay when she found that one of her close friends attractive and had the urge to be with her, to kiss her, to touch her...and the can't-live-without-you feeling that she got. Which is pretty much the same feelings I get with guys. She found out when she was around 15. If that helps you at all.

[xXYouMeBedNowXx]

Okay. This is from the Gay Marriage Debate thingy.

On an ethical point of view, this is clear to me: I am in full support of gay marriage. I am a homosexual myself.

I am rather sure that homosexuality is of a much more biological nature than it is of any environmental nature. I don't recall waking up one day and making a conscious decision to become a homosexual. The biological attraction is what makes me homosexual. Much like any woman has an attraction to a man or vice-versa, it would seem biological, natural, and completely irresistable. It is the exact same for us. When I first felt feelings for someone else of the same gender, there was nothing that told me I should have an attraction to him, in fact I was rather drilled into my head that I shouldn't be having this attraction, but nonetheless I follow my gut instinct that I was born with.

People have asked me when I "figured out" when I was a homosexual. It did not occur to me at a certain time. When you first liked a boy or a girl, I hardly believe it was a conscious decision to suddenly do so. It would seem natural and nearly a blur I suppose. It is the same for us.

I lived a very good childhood. I was not abused, nor neglected. My family was wealthy, I lived in a good environment with a good score of education. I was brought up well and healthy. I am still a homosexual in spite of all of these facts. It is not a choice. The homosexual world is not a place that is easy or completely pleasurable to live through. There is always the prospect of finding others like yourself, and past those filtering those few to be the one person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. There is always the rejection of your family, your friends, your peers. There is always the glaring prospect of the AIDS epidemic. Why, I ask, would anyone in their right mind (which I certainly hope you deem me to be, I certainly do) actively and consciously choose to become a homosexual? It simply wouldn't make sense.

[Music/Fashion Wh...]

I am straight.
& I don't know when I 'figured it out'.
I just have always been attracted to males.
As long as I can remember..
I was just always curious with the opposite sex...

But me & my friend's personal belief is that everyone is gay/bi.
Just people show different amounts...
Like a girl can tell which girls guys think are 'hot' or whatever
& vice versa.
It's hard to explain
It's confusing & kind of weird...but yeah..

[iminlovewithTomD...]

Like a girl can tell which girls guys think are 'hot' or whatever
& vice versa.

exactly what makes me think that homosexuality ISN'T real.

[fagget]

Well, when I was younger than 10, I always had like interest in girls.
And when my friends talk about how cute a boy was, I'm always looking at girls, but had some interest in guys, too.
But I didn't learn about sexuality until like 3rd/4th grade. And I started admitting it in 5th grade. So yeah.
And there was this girl in 5th grade that I really liked because she was really sweet to me, and we were super close. And she's straight. So that didn't work out. :[
But yeah, she's part of how I realized I wasn't straight.

[sue_me15]

hmmm.... I was realy young when I figured out that I was straight... maybe I was born this way I think, maybe it was natrual instinct... :)

YEP!

[priyas]

i always knew that i was straight.

[PrincessAda]

I`m straight! I guess I`m just attracted to boys.

[me1issaaaa]

When you see the same sex's genetalia along with the opposite sex's, and whichever tickles your fancy... or both. I kind of have a thing for the opposite sex, so I'm pretty sure I'm straight.

[*Uronacid*]

Hey, me too... we should go out for coffee sometime... :D!!!! GOSH WE HAVE SO MUCH IN COMMON!!!! HOLY @(^(@&#@~~~!!!!!

[*Freaky Krazer*]

When I started hitting on Jackie, Christine, Shelby, Shelby, and Thy.... and Sandy

[Paradox of Life]

Yeah... I don't believe that homosexuality/bisexuality is actually REAL. I think it's just something made up in your mind that you believe only because something happened to you... whether it be some devastating event, the enviornment, jealousy, whatever... yep... that's my thought.

What on earth is that supposed to mean? You're lucky this isn't a debate topic or I would write some three paragraphs in argument to that. Newsflash: Homosexuality and bisexuality is real. That's why there are people out there that are gay or bi And they're born that way too. It's no "made up figment of your imagination". It's real stuff.

And .. I found out I was bisexual in like .. 6th grade. I started having these deep crushes on girls, and I was like.. Jesus, this isn't right. So I'd try to shake it off. I haven't ever dated a girl because I actually don't tell anyone I'm bi. And I'm still in denial about it. Gawwwwd.

[ariana8716]

yep. i'm straighttt. i've always had interest in guys.
one time i thought i was bi, because i looked at girls,but then i realized i was just comparing myself to them.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

Yeah... I don't believe that homosexuality/bisexuality is actually REAL. I think it's just something made up in your mind that you believe only because something happened to you... whether it be some devastating event, the enviornment, jealousy, whatever... yep... that's my thought.

So how do you explain the homosexual behavior of men and women who never had a traumatic event? Environment? There are plenty of homosexuals that had extremely homophobic parents.

[broken inside]

Well, when I was younger than 10, I always had like interest in girls.
And when my friends talk about how cute a boy was, I'm always looking at girls, but had some interest in guys, too.
But I didn't learn about sexuality until like 3rd/4th grade. And I started admitting it in 5th grade. So yeah.
And there was this girl in 5th grade that I really liked because she was really sweet to me, and we were super close. And she's straight. So that didn't work out. :[
But yeah, she's part of how I realized I wasn't straight.

I had that too...kinda. I would always wonder why I couldn't find guys I liked. I always said the guys my firends liked were cute. I didn't know about homosexuality. I remember alwasy looking at girls and thinking "if I were a guy, I'd like her".

What on earth is that supposed to mean? You're lucky this isn't a debate topic or I would write some three paragraphs in argument to that. Newsflash: Homosexuality and bisexuality is real. That's why there are people out there that are gay or bi And they're born that way too. It's no "made up figment of your imagination". It's real stuff.

And .. I found out I was bisexual in like .. 6th grade. I started having these deep crushes on girls, and I was like.. Jesus, this isn't right. So I'd try to shake it off. I haven't ever dated a girl because I actually don't tell anyone I'm bi. And I'm still in denial about it. Gawwwwd.

I'm in exteme denail about my bisexuality/unsureness...I also have never dated a girl and I try to shake it off. And ugh, I hate it when people say that your feelings aren't real. Feel free to wirte your paragraphs, lol.

[actorderick]

Yeah... I don't believe that homosexuality/bisexuality is actually REAL. I think it's just something made up in your mind that you believe only because something happened to you... whether it be some devastating event, the enviornment, jealousy, whatever... yep... that's my thought.

That is so true!

My best "online" friends went through some really bad things in his life.

I remember talking with him when he was 11: He loved girls, thought about sex, and had a guy's voice (we talked live over MSN).

Then some really bad things went on in his life, he got depressed , his dad was in jail, and other bad stuff that i don't want to say incase he reads this somehow.

Anyways, now 2 years later I start to talk to him a lot. He tells me how he desided he was gay, and has done stuff with a guy. We talking live over msn, and he totally had a gay lisp.

I am almost sure he became gay because of the bad things that went on through his life.


I think some guys just to conclusions about their sexuality too soon. Most guys deisde they are gay when they are going through puberty. While you are going through puberty your hormones are all crazy, and anything will turn you on. They then convince themselves that they are gay, even though they are still in puberty. Then they go through the rest of their life thinking they are gay, thanks to their crazy hormones.

[crazeegirl411]

Yeah... I don't believe that homosexuality/bisexuality is actually REAL. I think it's just something made up in your mind that you believe only because something happened to you... whether it be some devastating event, the enviornment, jealousy, whatever... yep... that's my thought.

It is real...I have read and heard that people that are homosexual possess more of a certain hormone or lack a certain hormone to make them that way. Hence how homosexuals act a little flamboyant? I am not sure about that part, however, so I will not assume.

Okay. This is from the Gay Marriage Debate thingy.

On an ethical point of view, this is clear to me: I am in full support of gay marriage. I am a homosexual myself.

I am rather sure that homosexuality is of a much more biological nature than it is of any environmental nature. I don't recall waking up one day and making a conscious decision to become a homosexual. The biological attraction is what makes me homosexual. Much like any woman has an attraction to a man or vice-versa, it would seem biological, natural, and completely irresistable. It is the exact same for us. When I first felt feelings for someone else of the same gender, there was nothing that told me I should have an attraction to him, in fact I was rather drilled into my head that I shouldn't be having this attraction, but nonetheless I follow my gut instinct that I was born with.

People have asked me when I "figured out" when I was a homosexual. It did not occur to me at a certain time. When you first liked a boy or a girl, I hardly believe it was a conscious decision to suddenly do so. It would seem natural and nearly a blur I suppose. It is the same for us.

I lived a very good childhood. I was not abused, nor neglected. My family was wealthy, I lived in a good environment with a good score of education. I was brought up well and healthy. I am still a homosexual in spite of all of these facts. It is not a choice. The homosexual world is not a place that is easy or completely pleasurable to live through. There is always the prospect of finding others like yourself, and past those filtering those few to be the one person you wish to spend the rest of your life with. There is always the rejection of your family, your friends, your peers. There is always the glaring prospect of the AIDS epidemic. Why, I ask, would anyone in their right mind (which I certainly hope you deem me to be, I certainly do) actively and consciously choose to become a homosexual? It simply wouldn't make sense.

I agree almost completely about everything except the part about someone choosing which gender they would like. True, nobody would CONCIOUSLY choose, but I believe SOME people choose it subconciously.

I don't have one side for this. I believe some were born with that lack of hormones or more of a certain hormone. And then some, were affected by a certain event. Like a male being hurt by females so much that they have come to like the other gender. That may be denial, or perhaps such a mental change that hormones were changed also.

I'm not totally sure about these, and I am sure there are a lot of articles that talk about it with different views, but that's what I think.

I also have a friend that thought he was bi, until he said something about girls hurting him too much. Eventually, he said he was gay, not bi anymore. And I believe him, because he has a lot more female friends and he has not been attracted to any of them since. However, before, he was truly attracted to a friend of mine that was female.

I believe his case is that he was either unsure before, or he has subconciously made a decision to be homosexual. Whereas there are other people truly, BORN to be like that.

What I'm not sure is, when one is unsure or changed, is it because it is a decision, or did something in their body change their hormones?

[actorderick]

what do you think makes a person want to be transexual?

[Jane Doe.]

I was probably as young as 3. When I was older, I figured it was just curiousity, but now I am fully aware I am attracted to both sexes, so..yeah.
I guess I kind of always knew?

[forza]

I'm straight as a gummy worm.

I keed, I keed.

[nyctophiliac]

I'm pretty sure I'm straight, curious, but I could never see myself with another girl.

[tooeffingcrazy]

Like a girl can tell which girls guys think are 'hot' or whatever
& vice versa.
It's hard to explain
It's confusing & kind of weird...but yeah..

That's not how it exactly works.
Girls can think girls are pretty/hot any time. It does not mean that they are SEXUALLY attracted to them. Just cause a girl think another girl is "hot" does not mean they want to jump into bed with them. Same for the guys.
But I kind of see how you're going with this due to the famous saying, "I'd go gay for her/him".

I remember talking with him when he was 11: He loved girls, thought about sex, and had a guy's voice (we talked live over MSN).

He was eleven. He was probably still in the closet, and usually closeted gays would try to hide the fact that they like guys, but saying how hot girls are. It's just a facade.

[miss kate x33]

i always liked boys :]

[wildncrazyath3rt]

less then 20..
but yeah its a teen thing

[elaboratedream]

I first had a crush on a girl in preschool. my first crush on a guy was in kindergarten.

I used to deny my feelings for girls by saying I had feelings for guys. I didnt know about bisexuality at the time.

I was a major homophobe until I was in 7th grade..... mostly because I had homosexual feelings. I was terrified of them. I used anything against them. religion, common beliefs of it not being natural... whatever.

and then I got over my homophobia and just tried to accept gays and live as a nice little straight girl.

but I was always attracted to other girls....

and finally, in 9th grade, I came out as a bisexual.

since then, I've had two of the most amazing girlfriends, and one amazing boyfriend.

Yeah... I don't believe that homosexuality/bisexuality is actually REAL. I think it's just something made up in your mind that you believe only because something happened to you... whether it be some devastating event, the enviornment, jealousy, whatever... yep... that's my thought.

I know that you're wrong because I never had a devastating event, my parents were homophobes, everyone around me was and so was I, and it's never been about jealousy. I've liked girls since PRESCHOOL.


I think there's a genetic link to it.

I mean, my aunt was gay, and there's a history of gay people in my family.

(and no, I didnt know my aunt was gay before I came out.)

My boyfriend for instance....
his dad is gay.
he's bisexual.
and we're pretty sure his brother's still in the closet.

my girlfriend.....
she's bisexual.
there's a long history of gays/bisexuals in her family.... that she didnt know about until after she came out

my ex girlfriend....
is a lesbian.
her mom is bisexual.... she had lesbian and straight porn in her stash... lol.


so many people who are gay/bisexual have family histories.... that they didnt know about untill after they came out

but this isn't a debate, so I'll stop debating....

[Animeloverhk93]

yep. i'm straighttt. i've always had interest in guys.
one time i thought i was bi, because i looked at girls,but then i realized i was just comparing myself to them.

omg me too!..

somtimes when i'd see this pretty pretty girl i'd be like "omgsh look at the girl shes SOO PRETTY! AHHHHH" i'd over act cause i know in my head that she must get so much guys and is soo pretty and i just compare my self to her. like i dont 'copy' i just go omg i like her hair, and then the next day i'd change my hair style.

for about a month or two i started questioning myself like "omg am i bi?" but now for sure i know that its just comparing myself.



so yes, i'm straight.

i dont get those funny feelings with my friends who are girls.

[goodcharlotte]

I am straight. However I think that if you hang around your own sex too much then you may feel that you are attracted to them but it is really a feeling of campanionship. For example, if you are a girl and have mostly girl friends you may look for the personality you want in a girl instead of a guy. Guys and girls sometimes have counterparts. Like a boy may have the same personality as a girl. So if you look towards a girl then maybe you might thing you are bi or gay/lesbian. However this is only my opinion.

[BonneVache]

exactly what makes me think that homosexuality ISN'T real.

10% of the population is delusional. I get it... silly us. I bet its because that mean man at the ice cream store ran out of chocolate when we wanted some....


I figured it out in Highschool. yay me.

[*yrrnotelekktric*]

I am straight.
& I don't know when I 'figured it out'.
I just have always been attracted to males.
As long as I can remember..
I was just always curious with the opposite sex...

But me & my friend's personal belief is that everyone is gay/bi.
Just people show different amounts...
Like a girl can tell which girls guys think are 'hot' or whatever
& vice versa.
It's hard to explain
It's confusing & kind of weird...but yeah..

i think i know what you mean.
cuz thats what it think too.
and yeah, straight for me...same reason.

I am straight. However I think that if you hang around your own sex too much then you may feel that you are attracted to them but it is really a feeling of campanionship. For example, if you are a girl and have mostly girl friends you may look for the personality you want in a girl instead of a guy. Guys and girls sometimes have counterparts. Like a boy may have the same personality as a girl. So if you look towards a girl then maybe you might thing you are bi or gay/lesbian. However this is only my opinion.

i must say that this is totally true. since i go to an all girls school, i am very close to girls. BUT NOT THAT WAY. haha. anyways, a lot of girls are bi or lesbian and im sure that this is the main reason why. i noticed that once they got out of my highschool, they werent bi or lesbian anymore. they just thought they were.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

I love boys.. aka penis..

But i think girls are hot some times.. :-/

I dont know what that means.

[lllUrban_PrePlll]

7th grade

[pinacoolada]

I've always liked boys...so I'm straight.

But i think girls are hot some times.. :-/

Girls judge other girls and it doesn't mean anything.