Non Supportive Parents Options

[*My Cinderella.*]

So, are your parents the type that don't appreciate anything that you do? Or don't support what you want to do or be when you grow up? My parents are. They don't support my whole acting idea of a career and want me to do something more "productive". Anyone else feel the same way?

[NERDFACE™]

mine is like that.
I personally don't care if I live out of my car when I get older,I just wanna be able to make music.
I don't tend to aim high,
like I don't wanna be a doctor,or a vet.
I don't want a house,or a condo.
I just want an apartment.
I don't want children either,just because it'd be safer on both ends.
she doesn't understand that sometimes smaller things make people happier.

[*This Confession*]

My parents are alright
or ehm well my dad is
My mom is rather herself i guess you could say.

I don't really need supportive parents I suppose. I mostly keep to myself.

[PrincessAda]

My parents are prettyy suportive.I mean they want me to succeed. They help me out when I need money or something for school.

[Yvonne't me]

Hah.
The `rents.
Oh boy.
Nothing I do ever satisfies them.
I`m a 4.0 student.
I have been ever since 1st grade.
I play the piano, violin, and flute.
I barely go out even once a month.
I haven`t even gone out yet this summer.
They have unrealistic expectations for me.
Seriously.

[SarahxJoy]

They want me to become a nurse. But I'm not sure if that's what I want to do. I don't think it's right for me, for personal reasons..but they put a lot of pressure on me into becoming one. Bleh.

[Gigi]

My mom doesn't support me at all for anything, basically. She likes to put me down.

Typical Asian mother.

[anniepiee]

they basically nag you about what they want you to do until you think that's what you want to do.

[demolished]

My mom doesn't support me at all for anything, basically. She likes to put me down.

Typical Asian mother.

that bitch i feel bad for you >;[

[magicfann]

My mom doesn't support me at all for anything, basically. She likes to put me down.

Typical Asian mother.

*sigh* yeah, mine doesnt want me to be a professional gamer

[SimplicityGirl]

Heh I have typical Asian parents who doens't think I can do anything in life. My Dad used to say that I'll be lucky if I could be a beggar in the streets and throughout my whole life my Mom's been telling me that I'm smart enough, not good enough, not pretty enough...not enough of something else that I should have to be a good person in life. Supportive...no. They laughed when I told them that I wanted to be a teacher and the same goes for me telling me that I wanted to be a nurse...now I just don't tell them anything to save the trouble.

[*Uronacid*]

OMG, seriously... this sounds bad, but you need to disobey your parents... if you're 16-18 years old, and nothing you do makes your parents see the good in you.

STOP DOING THINGS!!

Make them realize how much you do... START f**king UP!!!

Don't be perfect for them. Jeez, Parents who are too controlling are so rediculous. It's parents like that who limit their kids abilities to do/become all they can do/be. My parents used to have these high expecations of me, and they used to tell me all this crap about what i would become when i was older... The more i listened to their crap the more frustrated i became, until one day i just went crazy.... I disobeyed them in every way imaginable and i didn't lie to them about anything... At first it was pretty difficult, but after a while they loosened up... I got punished alot, but it was totally worth it. I began experiencing life on my own...

At first I let my grades drop... i scored 90's-100's on all my exams and shit, but i didn't do any homework. I started controlling my grades so i would get exactly 69 in every class. I thought it was pretty funny, but they didn't. Yeah, my parents were pretty pissed, and they told me I couldn't hang out with my friends. It wasn't like I could hang out with them anyways. So, i really didn't give a shit... Their expectations of me dropped a whole bunch... sounds horrible, but when I got good grades they started praising me, and when I started working towards something. They encouraged it!

here is the formula:

Parents have expectations that are too high>You do great!>No praise
Parents have expectations that are low>You do great!>PRAISE!!!!

If you're really looking for praise and acceptance, and you have balls. START DOING EVERYTHING YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO DO! Just don't do anything ilegal. ;)

Exptra rules:
-Don't do things that will land you in Juvinile Dentetion Centers
-Don't do things that are illegal

WARNING THIS WILL LAND YOU IN A WHOLE SHIT LOAD OF TROUBLE!!!! BEFORE DOING ANYTHING STATED ABOVE PLEASE REALIZE THAT YOUR PARENTS WILL GROUND YOU AND DISCIPLINE YOU. IF YOU WISH TO ACCOMPLISH THE DESIRED GOAL (HAVING YOUR PARENTS LET LOOSE) DO NOT LET PUNISHMENTS EFFECT YOU. INSTEAD ACCEPT THEM AND REALIZE YOU ARE TAKING THE PUNISHMENT FOR THE DESIRED GOAL. EVNTUALLY YOUR PARENTS WILL GIVE UP.

[*Uronacid*]

Respect them... hmmmm, well then you need to have a talk with them. SIT DOWN AND TALK TO THEM. Tell them how you really feel. Say everything your thinking. Tell them you need them to sit down and listen to you for once. Tell them that you don't want to be what they want you to be. Yeah, it will dissapiont them, but its more respectful then letting them waste all thier time molding you into this thing that will never become.


NOW LET ME ASK...
do your parents respect you?

I remmeber sitting down with my dad while all the bullshit i was pulling was comming to an end... we were sitting at the kitchen table yelling at eachother when he finnaly looked down at his dinner and asked me, "Josh, I know you are so much smarter than this... how come you are getting such low grades?"
I replied, "I know it's bad for my life... I just hate how you always try to control me, and mold me into this person that you want me to become... I know you do it becuase you love me, but... I hate how everything I do is never good enough... I have never felt like you cared until now... There's almost no incentive to get good grades... When I get good grades you don't say anything, and I feel like it doesn't matter... I feel like i don't matter... When I get bad grades... At least you talk to me..."

I think it was then that my dad started to understand me... He stopped turning me into this perfect thing that he always tried to mold me into... Instead he made an awsome attept to accept me for who I am, yet encourage me to do better... My relationship with my parents is incredible...

[Gypsy Eyes]

if you do that it screws up your chances of getting into college.

Yeah my parents aren't really supportive of any sort of liberal arts. They are more "you have to become a scientist or engineer." Stuff like that.

And to that starter of this thread, they are probably just worried. Acting is an almost impossible career to succeed in.

[*Uronacid*]

Look, thats an oportunity cost... I felt that my parents accepting me for who I am was more important than college... If it's not that important to you. That is your opinion. I don't regret it. Altho you're right... I do regret the bad grade, but I don't regret the relationship I recieved from what I did.


It doesn't matter how successful a career it is... If you enjoy doing it, then do it!

Success: being content and thankful with what you have, yet always working for what you love. (I made this up off the top of my head, but I really think thats what success is... what do you think it is?)

[*My Cinderella.*]

Yeah. I don't really care about making money from acting. I just enjoy doing it and I want to keep at it. Hopefully, they'll see that soon and give up.

[*Uronacid*]

Exactly, if making money is keeping you from enjoying your life... you need to make a decision...

[Gypsy Eyes]

I'm saying it is near impossible to live on most actors salaries.

[marzipan]

my parents are very supportive. even though my mom, being asian, is strict and very....pushing, she still appreciates what i do even if she doesn't show it at times.

[Gigi]

Actually, I don't try to be perfect for my parents, I try for myself. I'm just saying, my mom will always find ways to put me down. I never receive any praise but that doesn't really bother me; I don't need comments from my parents to accomplish things and to motivate myself.

[AnnahhbeL]

My parents are never supposrtive.
They say that I'm stupid in school when I got a 96 average.
I don't know wtf is wrong with them, but one day I'll blow up.

[pinayprincess]

my parents ARE supportive. i wanna be a doctor when i grow up. they think its great.. and as for my sister, she suppsoly wants to be an actress.. [she's taken school and everything] its just that the support she gets is too much and turns it back down.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

its odd that the people who say that get really super duper good grades there parents arent supportive.....well i just noticed lol anywayz my parents are really really supportive of me and i get like a B average in my grades and they are fine with that as long as i do my best and dont screw up lol.

[Listelle]

I guess my parents support me, even if they don't show it. I just graduated high school in the top 10% of my class, a National Honor Student, president of a couple extra-currics, accepted on a partial scholarship at my second choice, and was feeling pretty darn awesome about myself. At my actual graduation, my mom complained about having to take half a day off of work, yelled at me for taking too long to get to the car after the ceremony, and bitched about my major next year. There were no pictures, hugs, or congratulations. I got more love from my boyfriend's parents that day.

But yeah, I guess she's proud.

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

They do at times...

edit// Its not that they dont care but I just hate when I do everything I need to do but if I for get to do somthing they pick it out and yell at me about it..

Now how gay is that?

[seremela_culnamo]

My parent's don't care what I want to become, as long as I do whatever I want.

My parents are un-supportive in the way that they always put me down. Especially my dad who are always insulting me and taunting me, since I'm not as smart and athletic or better in any way than my siblings. He says I will fail before I even get into University, while my mom's hopes of me passing University is low. Even my grandma said that I shouldn't go to University. Nobody cares enough or loves me so they don't really care what happens to me in the future. I know that they don't even want to spend any money on me. They rather have me out of their lives so they can truly celebrate having such awesome kids like my siblings.

Yes, I'm an outcast from the family.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

It's not that they discourage me (if you mean by non-supporting). It's just that they don't care. I don't mind that either.

[iDecay]

"Tina, I want you to get straight A's."
"Okay dad, will you help me on my math homework?"
"Go ask your friends."

[*incoherent*]

Look, thats an oportunity cost... I felt that my parents accepting me for who I am was more important than college... If it's not that important to you. That is your opinion. I don't regret it. Altho you're right... I do regret the bad grade, but I don't regret the relationship I recieved from what I did.
It doesn't matter how successful a career it is... If you enjoy doing it, then do it!

Success: being content and thankful with what you have, yet always working for what you love. (I made this up off the top of my head, but I really think thats what success is... what do you think it is?)

you'd rather ruin your life now while living with your parents who you are probably not going to be living with your whole life so it doesnt matter what they think and just f**k up your future?

[Emma Sue]

I see my parents twice a year.. so.. i guess it's alot better when you see your parents everyday and you can talk to them than talking to them on the phone..

My daddy is absolutely wonderful and so is my mum..

Although she's a bit like Regina's mother ("Mean Girls"). It's not very nice, u know..

But I'd say my parents are quite supportive when they remember that we exist..



The thing is that they get too excited with whatever we do and sometimes this is very embarasing.. One day my brother Logan made pasta and it tasted good so our parents came to eat.. My mum got so excited she was like: "oh what a delicious meal!!!! I love u guys!! you are the best kids ever you are so awesome!!" and then she started taking pictures of us with her mobile phone.. So it's really funny sometimes..but also embarasing

[priyas]

mine are supportive.---at least my dad is. My mom used to be. Now shez just weird/mean. She rants like there's no tomorw.

[*My Cinderella.*]

My grandma is actually a bit neutral about it. She's fine with me being an actress she just says I have a slim chance. 1 - I'm asian (Not may asian actors/actresses out there) 2 - I'm short 3 - I'm too old for kid shows and too young for the big screen.

[sexthybeans]

My mom doesn't support me at all for anything, basically. She likes to put me down.

Typical Asian mother.

yeah, my mom is like that too.
my dad is okay though.
he wants me to just be happy, but successful.

[Itsa_Pnay]

yeah...i think everyone feels that way at one point and time...and maybe its for the kids own good...but like my parents are totally that way...like i have a twin sister and she is in I.B. and i dont make good grades like her...im not a goody goody but anyway i get in fights in the past...and they look down on me because im not my sister or anything like her...i mean i was talking to my dad and telling him im moving out when im 17 and he was laughed in my face and told me im not going to make it...and yeah everything like that....So juss follow your dreams dont let them or anyone else get in your way

[Jane Doe.]

Mine..are just there. I talk to them because I have to, but even then, they don't know me--let alone support me.

All they wanted me to do is get good grades and to be social and happy. I did none of that. So now, they just want me to be social and go to school. Eh. They really don't know how I think, or what I think--and I have nothing I'd need support from, really..

Well, I'd need their support if I was feeling extremely depressed or something, but they're just insensitive and unintentionally cruel that it's not worth going to them anymore.
I don't know. I fall under the "I've lost touch with my parents and we still live in the same household" category.
Hm. From reading the other replies here, I guess I'd have to add more.

My parents are not supportive in which I do something--a little thing--and they are all over me, congratulating me. I never had the "I just got an A in my World History test!" "Congrats! We love you so much!" but just a simple "Good." or not even caring, really. And that's happened more than a few times. But, then again, when I get those kinds of grades in tests, I just shrug it off as luck..maybe they do the same, who knows.

Hm. My parents weren't close at all, actually. They never were affectionate towards me, they never told me they loved me [I never heard "I love you." until I had seen it on t.v.]. But I was given gifts--and it was usually thrown in my face if I said I didn't feel cared for. "How can you think we don't care about you or don't love you; look at all we bought for you!"
Yeaaaah. Material things don't equate with love.

And even little things like PTA meetings, or open houses, or even a dance recital were just a pain for them to bother coming to. I remember they came to my 5th grade graduation, though. I cried because they were there..I didn't think they'd come. It was nice, I guess.
They were never involved, really. Now they're involved because I stopped going and it caused a big mess. Now they know about my so-called problems because there are others telling them they exist. But even through all of that, they really can't keep from laughing when I tell them how I feel [depressed, anxious, sick, panicky] because they feel I'm making it up. I'm sure they don't even..
Meh. I've thought too much about this and it came off so disorganized. I'll stop typing now.