love become distance? Options

[Spec_R]

my girlfriend moved out of town for the summer. She is working somewhere in virginia. She told me we'll keep in touch and stuffs but we havn't talk at all lately. I tried to call her and she seems like she's busy. Last saturday she told me that she is going to go to a club down there but then i told her, i don't really want her to go. she's like u should trust me. I don't know if she's busy at least she should call me for 15minutes to talk with me for a day? I tried to call her but she's like i'll call you tonight and havn't still today. I miss her like crazy, what should i do?!?

[priyas]

Email her or instant message her.

Maybe you should trust her.

She could be busy after a long day of work.

Just ask her your self. Communicate with her.

[*This Confession*]

^hes trying to communicate with her 0_O
maybe you should go look at all the advice in long distance relationships stuff. hahah makes me think of what Josh said earlier.
Although kind of different.
You guys have been in a relationship where you can see each other everyday although when they leave and you got to change to only talking on the phone it kind of may just bring out where the relationship is lacking and its in communication. Maybe you should try talking to her and maybe get her to relize that and if she wants to relationship to grow then both of you communicate more and only make your relationship grow stronger. Then when you two see each other again its like they were almost never gone. =]
Anyway theres not much you can do is trust her. Because if you don't trust her shes going to hold it against you and shes going to feel like you don't care. It sucks but eh &shrugs;.

[PrincessAda]

You should try to trust her..and probably keep calling her.Try not to think soo much about her.

[JAYeeENenWHY]

You're partially right, she's partially right. You should trust her, and let her do things on her own. But she should talk to you a few times a week just so you two can keep in touch. Maybe being in a long distance relationship isn't worth all of this trouble?

[Heartless Hero]

bro, im right there with you.

i mean i trust my g/f completely...

but the weird thing is...wth is that feeling somewhere in me

that tells me otherwise right?

i wish i could answer that for you dude.

but just give it time alright?

[SarahxJoy]

Just a warning: "Absence can make the heart forget."

Either that, or it'll make you two stronger. I think you should give her some space for like two days, then try again with attempting to get a hold of her. But before you give her space, let her know by leaving a message on her answering machine or something, so she can be sure that you haven't forgotten about her. Also, that if she wants to contact you, she can do so.

[Smilessss]

yeah you shuld prob. trust her and let her go alittle, but you should also protect her and stay with her too incase if anything happens, hmm text her to tell her that you really need her and really miss her and really want to talk to her since you really do need her miss her and really want to talk to her, hopefully she'll call~ dont give up your hope man~ keep your hope alive *n.n*

[Spec_R]

Today will be exactly 1 week that she left me...
well i called her yesturday to check on things...
she told me that she was sleeping and was very tired..
her brothers' friends came from far away and was partying all this week and last week?
she was tired from clubbing, cleaning up the messes in the house from the parties, & hanging out with her bro & friends etc etc...
I was like why don't u call me? she said she's tired and when she have time to call she will fall asleep. I was like wow, not even 15 minutes to check on me?
She said yeah, it's already busy and when i have a job it's gonna be a lot more
I asked, so will i talk to u that much?
she said probably not

i was like WTF? i do trust her but she's like avoiding me or something? I'm her damn boyfriend and she doesn't want to talk? I don't want to be a stalker or annoying. So I texted and sended messages 3 or 4 times so far but she isn't replying, she said that her phone doesn't have a lot of signals? I am very sad lately because i miss her so bad but whenever i call her, she's like I'm tired i want to sleep. I said no i miss u i want to talk to you. then we start to argue? what can i do?????

before she lefted she acted so cute and friendly. she even have tears in her eyes saying i am gonna miss you and stuffs. call me everyday if ur not working....
now it's like she doesn't even give a sh*t bout me? WTF w/ that? I am so mad...
it's already one week and i'm already like this.....pretend it's gonna be for 3 more months?

[x3_mr_mak]

all the girls here think u should trust her more
but i understand wat it feels like

my bf is leaving for UCLA this yr
and i`m not sure i like the idea of him partying and drinking
it`s not that i don`t trust him,
it`s just that he`ll be away from me

so talk to her one day
not like "why r u ignoring me"
but "is this going to work out"

because long distance rarely works
and if it hurts too much,
just let her go, as painful as it sounds

[*Uronacid*]

he long distance thing isn't cut out for everyone. It's possible that she doesn't realize that she is doign the wrong thing. After all you did say that she just recently moved out there.... maybe shes not the long distance type and cannot handel it... she may feel like your nagging her. it sucks man, look at it in the possitive try making a compromise with her.

try this:

break up with her while she is away, and when she is in town you can resume the relationship if neither of you get in one.

Good things for her:
-It will give her the freedom to do what she wants.
-She can fin dout whether you are what she wants or not

Good things for you:
-You don't have to trust her. She can't cheat on you if shes single.
-You can get to know other girls, and maybe get a better understanding of what you want in a girl. Maybe she isn't the one...
-You won't feel like the scale is off balance, becuase your the work horse in the relationship... you wont have to do any work.

[Spec_R]

well she leaves every year...since 2003
and i always break up with her every year.
uhmm.....she say if i break up with her again she won't come back...
truly, i love her.....and i don't want to break up.....I don't knwo what she is thinking? It seems like she is totally a different person? sighz....

[*This Confession*]

then maybe its time to move on?
you can love someone and not be truly meant for them..

[*Ox_Su`Zie*]

3 words thats not cool. No matter how busy your girlfriend is she shouldnt do that she WOULDNT do that if she really loved you. Im sure if you went away for "work" you would call her AT LEAST 5-10 minutes a day to say hey babe im alive and i miss you. Also when your away on buisness you dont go clubbing. Somethings not right, put the peices together and figure it out.

[Spec_R]

i don't know.....she acted like she love me before but i don't know now...
if i break up....later i might regret?
if i don't......i will feel like sh*t everyday....?

[Spec_R]

yeah, i just called her.....
she "wat's up?"
me "what are you doing?"
she "i'm taking a shower right now, I heard laughing in the background"
She "i'll call you back later okay?"
me "wtf? no"
she "okay bye"

i called at 9:30 and right now it's almost 12...i called like 4 times already.....
should i really break uppppppp???/

[Spec_R]

During work today i told her best friend about how i feel and she said she have something to show me. She said that she have pictures of my gf dancing with other guy friends at the
club. I was like WTF?! my gf lied to me?? But still I don't believe her friend. After seeing the picture......it's true..



my gf is the girl in green shirt and jeans.
i can't believe it...she told me that her brother would be there watching her so she won't be able to do none of it. I don't know what to doo... She lied to me and i don't even know if this is consider cheating or not. Yeah it's just a dance but look at the way they dance? I am her damn bf working and missing her everyday and she's over there doing that?!
okay let say she done it and so she should call me and say "sorry babe, I was kinda drunk and bla bla bla, forgive me?" but she havn't call since she left me? WTF? I mean I love her and still do but what can i do or suppose to do??

[*This Confession*]

call her and go talk to her about it.
For her to be doing that its really hard for you to trust her and she needs to realize that. I know you may not want to do this But maybe you two should get on a break. Til' she comes home. Because if it is going to be that hard to trust her. And shes going to go do stuff like that. and not even talk to you that much because shes busy. Then maybe you should bring it up. Don't just bring it up and do it You both need to agree on it because if you both love each other and care then you may want to get back together. Although if she loved you then she would tell you the truth no matter what.

0_o i have jeans like what your gf is wearing. how odd.

[*Programmer*]

LMFAO!

[Spec_R]

what the hell is wrong with you guys?
i'm being serious and hurt and u guys post sh*t like that?

[*This Confession*]

-_-' just ignore it.

[AngelinaTaylor]

So let me get this straight - she doesn't have time to call you because of partying? She says she's so busy because of partying? She says she's tired and doesn't have a spare 15 minutes of her day, because of... partying? That's f**ked up, mate. Really f**ked up. I'd be pissed too.

I think you need a break.. Just take a break for a while, until she gets back or something, otherwise you'll get more and more frustrated.

And trust me, I've been there - for two weeks my boyfriend was "working 10 hours a day" and didn't make ANY effort to even talk to me at all. You know, I'm pretty busy myself, but I still try to make time. And it kind of sucks when only one person is making an effort.

So just talk to her seriously about these things. Say "If we can't make time for each other, I don't think it's going to work."

Taylor``

[mylittleMiracle]

i wanna to ask..is your gf a party girl!?if not,maybe she has too much pressure than she need to go to a club to relax....?

[jeSs1cA]

i'm sorry to hear about your girlfriend.

it seems like she's drifting from you. she's not making an effort to call you. 1 minute out of her 'busy' schedule would not hurt to just have her reassure you and say that she misses you and can't wait to see you again. she's doing so much partying and not even thinking twice about what she's doing. i would feel the same way if my boyfriend did that to me. i'd be SO pissed off.

relationships take 2 people. 2 people need to make effort, it's just not 1 person.

maybe you can try to arrange a time during the summer when you can visit her. or if not visit, then have a serious talk on the phone or something. ask her if she still wants what you want. maybe you should just end it. and at the end of the summer when she comes back, you can go on from there and both of you can decide what you want to do. if you don't end things, with all the partying she has a possibilty of cheating on you.