Dr. Sean Options

[xoxoxx]

I solve problems. Well actually I don't, but I can talk with you. I can be the one you can talk to. I can be your hero baby! Just kidding.

Anyways, simply reply here with problems with boyfriends, school, and life. I'll discuss it with you.

If you have more serious problems, than you can pm me for my AIM sn.

If you have more more serious problems, find a real counseler.

Thank you for your time.

Note: Please be serious. No stupid or pointless problems. All of those will be ignored.

[Retrogressive]

I have a problem managing my time. Any advice?

[xoxoxx]

I have a problem managing my time. Any advice?

Actually I do have advice. Depending on what the problem is, you can

-Get a planner or calendar to plan your things out.
If you're not a planner/writing person, you can
-Try to get rid of things you don't have to do.
-If something distracts you, move the distraction, or move yourself somewhere else.

I need to know more about your problem to help you about it.

[Retrogressive]

I always seem to plan over events or dates I've made with friends. Plus it's hard to do school work with all the distractions at my house. I think I'll try working on it outside! =D

[*This Confession*]

^wow thats actually pretty close to what i would tell ya

haha
well then get someone else to boss you around and make your day like you want it to be!


couldn't we just post our problems in relationships forum?

[xoxoxx]

I always seem to plan over events or dates I've made with friends. Plus it's hard to do school work with all the distractions at my house. I think I'll try working on it outside! =D

Well, you can always ask the distractions to stop, or you can go to the library.

For me, my house is quiet when requested. You can always close your door or listen to (soft) music while doing things.

About the events or dates, it's easier if you have a planner or calendar.

But if you really can't do planners or calendars, you can have your friends remind you each day, or maybe you can try memorizing it yourself.

And as my good friend Jerome says, you can go to the library, maybe even your school. If you can drive, you should take advantage of these places.

to This Confession:

Well I guess, but in this thread you can post all types of problems, not only about relationships.

Besides, this might reduce spam, if people don't bullpoop their problems.

Of course, having a lot of people solve the problem for you is good, but I'm here to talk about the problems in greater detail.

I find it easier to express your thoughts and feelings bit by bit, so you don't leave out anything. Then you absorb bit by bit. Well that's just me.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

Then it wouldn't be Dr. Sean

I like Dr. Sean...

[Tribal J_Rome]

^wow thats actually pretty close to what i would tell ya

haha
well then get someone else to boss you around and make your day like you want it to be!
couldn't we just post our problems in relationships forum?

Not all problems involve relationship stuff

I always seem to plan over events or dates I've made with friends. Plus it's hard to do school work with all the distractions at my house. I think I'll try working on it outside! =D

Have you tried doing work at the library? It's usually nice and quiet, real chill.

[Retrogressive]

Our library has a bunch of kids running around, it's reallly small. There is this great place that sales coffee in our town that is really quiet. I go to the library a lot actually, but it's always really busy.

[Tribal J_Rome]

Hmmm....any Starbucks's? Or Borders book stores?

[John Fu]

I need help on how to..take more self-control. I eat too much.

[*Programmer*]

OK, here's one.

This girl won't get a clue. I only like her as a friend. How do i make a sound point about it without hurting her feelings? I've known her since middle school. Not trying to lose a good friend.

[dreamerOi]

I need help getting myself to start on my homework or finish it. If i'm at a library its too quiet and gets distracting. If i'm at a coffee shop or something the aroma distracts me. Smells too good. If i'm at home I end up watching tv or using the computer like right now o.o or I push it aside. So....... any advice?

Even though I turn off the tv or computer I just end up turning it back on. Like right now my keyboard is on my homework.

[Comik-knerd]

I guess your plainning to be a counseler when you get older??

[xoxoxx]

I need help on how to..take more self-control. I eat too much.

You can always have someone help you. They can keep the food for you, or stop buying too much food.

If you live by yourself, then it's really up to you to keep yourself controlled.

Maybe you can set an amount of money that you are limited to use buying food each week.

It's all about setting your mind to it.

OK, here's one.

This girl won't get a clue. I only like her as a friend. How do i make a sound point about it without hurting her feelings? I've known her since middle school. Not trying to lose a good friend.

There are many things you can tell her.

I suggest telling her that you have known her for too long, and you only like her as a great friend.

You can also tell her that dating would ruin your relationship, and that you don't want that to happen. Tell her that you really like her as a friend, and you wouldn't want anything to ruin your relationship with her.

When you tell her though, tell it to her straightly. Look her in the eye and don't try to avoid hurting her feelings. It's bound to happen, but you can make the pain a little less. Be sure to be serious, so she understands you mean business.

I need help getting myself to start on my homework or finish it. If i'm at a library its too quiet and gets distracting. If i'm at a coffee shop or something the aroma distracts me. Smells too good. If i'm at home I end up watching tv or using the computer like right now o.o or I push it aside. So....... any advice?

Even though I turn off the tv or computer I just end up turning it back on. Like right now my keyboard is on my homework.

This problem is annoying and common with many students. To really solve it, you need people like your parents to help.

You can ask them to monitor and stop you from watching too much tv or using the computer. If you're the only one using the computer, you can take out the power plug and ask your parents to hide or keep it. Then ask them to give it back when you show them your homework.

For the TV, if no one watches it a lot, you can do the same thing. Ask your parents to hide the remote or the plug.

If all else fails, ask your parents to cancel the internet or cancel your tv subscription.

If you don't want help from your parents, you'll have to use a lot of self control. I suggest practicing self control, as when you grow older, that's the only thing you'll have.

@Comik_knerd:
I don't know if I'm going to be a counseler when I grow up. I just want to help people. It's interesting learning and learning from their problems.

[Nugget]

wow. you're arrested for diagnosing people without a license.

topic closed

[dorkk-ie]

noooo don't close it just yet.

DR.SEAN , i need some advice.. - quick!

heres the proble.. my bf and i got into an arguement over the stupidiest misunderstanding...and we're kinda on that silent treatment kind of thing right now..

Tomorrow is his birthday

should i just forget about the way he acted and proceed with his birthday surprise , or stand strong until he apologizes? or says sumthing?

i'm still angry right now...but i still wanna work things out...
i feel that i shouldn't just forget it JUST because it's his bday, but on the other hand.. would that make me a total b*tch for dragging the arguement...

i hope you're still here Dr.Sean..

[xoxoxx]

noooo don't close it just yet.

DR.SEAN , i need some advice.. - quick!

heres the proble.. my bf and i got into an arguement over the stupidiest misunderstanding...and we're kinda on that silent treatment kind of thing right now..

Tomorrow is his birthday

should i just forget about the way he acted and proceed with his birthday surprise , or stand strong until he apologizes? or says sumthing?

i'm still angry right now...but i still wanna work things out...
i feel that i shouldn't just forget it JUST because it's his bday, but on the other hand.. would that make me a total b*tch for dragging the arguement...

i hope you're still here Dr.Sean..

Well, in my opinion, I think you should carry on with the birthday surprise. But if you and him have already been in many arguments, and you always apologize, you should wait for him to apologize.

I think it's best if you apologize together. Try to apologize today, if you can. Then tomorrow everything will be OK.

Guys don't like girls who are stubborn. We give up quite easily if we see it's impossible or too hard to carry on with the girl. However, you should not be the only one apologizing. Guys will just think you're a person to put down.

So yes, my advice is to apologize today via phone or in person. If he gets angry or yells at you, don't yell back. But if you apologize and he doesn't accept it, than don't give him the surprise. In fact, if he doesn't accept the apology for at least 3 days, leave him. Make him cry.

Good luck

- Dr. Sean

[lanbexx]

wow... brutal advice dr sean. ur supposed to be on the guy's side!

alright here's one. i have a friend (female) that is attractive. but she acts like a slut. i know her friends well, so i cant avoid her. she assumes since most guys go for her, i will too, so she keeps trying to act all sexy next to me just to tease me. and think we're friends. how do i tell her that im disgusted by her actions and dont consider her a good friend without sounding insensitive/gay?

[*Uronacid*]

some kid punched me in the face yesterday right hand, i swung at him with my right fist but he blocked it with his left... im thinking i should have punched him with my left hand... :? hmmmmm

im just kidding, but give me advice anyways... i want to see what you'll say

[Kontroll]

I punched him. HAHAH. He sucks at fighting, maybe you could give him a few pointers.

[*Uronacid*]

I punched him. HAHAH. He sucks at fighting, maybe you could give him a few pointers.

HEY YOU f**ker I HATE YOU!!! :)

[Kontroll]

What, bitch?! You want some more?!

[*Uronacid*]

grrrrr... help me dr. sean!!!!!

[SpedMonkee]

There is this girl that me and my friends hang out with that I like. I cant get myself to ask her out or tell her how i feel.. I also keep having these feelings of jealousy/hatred towards her and one of my other friends because I think she likes him.

Any advice on (a) how i should tell her that i like her. (b) find out who she really likes and/or © if she doesnt like me how should i stop thinking of her the way I do now.

Thanks Dr. Sean!

[xoxoxx]

wow... brutal advice dr sean. ur supposed to be on the guy's side!

alright here's one. i have a friend (female) that is attractive. but she acts like a slut. i know her friends well, so i cant avoid her. she assumes since most guys go for her, i will too, so she keeps trying to act all sexy next to me just to tease me. and think we're friends. how do i tell her that im disgusted by her actions and dont consider her a good friend without sounding insensitive/gay?

Simply tell her, "I don't like how you act so unwoman-like towards me. I'd prefer you act normal. Please stop."

If she does those actions, just tell her "please stop." Or if you can, walk away. Ignore her when she does those things, and soon she should get the point.

There is this girl that me and my friends hang out with that I like. I cant get myself to ask her out or tell her how i feel.. I also keep having these feelings of jealousy/hatred towards her and one of my other friends because I think she likes him.

Any advice on (a) how i should tell her that i like her. (b) find out who she really likes and/or © if she doesnt like me how should i stop thinking of her the way I do now.

Thanks Dr. Sean!

If you're really up for some dedication, and when I say dedication, I mean dedication, try to do what I say.

First off, be nice to her, talk to her. Don't rush into things, unless you already know her very well. If you tell her you like her when she doesn't like you back yet, it will just mess up the entire relationship. Everything will be awkward in front of her.

When finally you feel that she likes you, simply tell her you like her! Don't be shy, and if she rejects you, just act normal.

Even if someone dates her, continue to talk to her normally. Sooner or later, she'll find out you're a great guy, and she might date you.

Once you date her, don't let your jealous instincts get in the way! Be protective, but not overprotective. Let her talk to some guys you trust, and if she wants to friendly hug a guy friend, let her! If she is loyal, she'll know whether or not she should talk to certain types of guys or not.

If you want to find out who she likes, you'll have to be great friends with her before you even ask. I think asking her is the best way. If you ask her friends, they could provide false information that will mess up everything. And if she says, "I don't know who I like", or "Why?", it could mean she likes you!

Yep, use dedication. Talking works best. Don't tell her friends you like her though, if they tell, then the relationship is screwed.

- Dr. Sean

[*suddenly she*]

boyfriend in sr high, me in high.
got any parent-approved ideas to see each other?

we're allowed to see each other in a group of friends in a very public area once a month. that's it.

[xoxoxx]

boyfriend in sr high, me in high.
got any parent-approved ideas to see each other?

we're allowed to see each other in a group of friends in a very public area once a month. that's it.

Er, sorry I don't understand what you mean by sr high and high. Senior and High?

Can you explain some more why you aren't allowed to see him a lot?

[SimplicityGirl]

Hi Dr. Sean. I need your advice on something. It's been bugging me for a while.

There's this girl, let's call her Girl S, and there's this guy, let's call him Guy K in my school. Girl S has liked Guy K since Grade 10 and we're in Grade 12 now, so that's two years. I used to be Girl S's friend, and it was through her that I met Guy K in Grade 11. Knowing how much Girl S liked Guy K, I was reluctant to become his friend, because I didn't want to send out the wrong messages to Girl S.

...eh this is where I have to digress and tell you about how Girl S is. Another guy, Guy V asked her out in Grade 10, and for the first few months or so, he treated her like a guy should treat his girlfriend. However, after that first few months, Guy V stopped treating her right, and in the process, Girl S naturally got hurt. However, she did not break up with him, and their status, as of today is still "together". Me and my friends tried to get her to see that he was hurting her and that he wasn't worth it and that she should just break up with him, but she didn't listen. During this time, she met Guy K through Guy V, as they were friends. And she started to intensely like Guy K because he treated her way nicer than Guy V. They're not officially "together", but everybody in the school knows that she likes him a lot and they act like they're together anyway. He would wait by her locker after school and walk her home everyday. She became possessive of him because she did not want to lose him, and this made her to see him as an object that she can own. It got to the point where she HAD to know where he was and what he was doing if he was not with her, and that he HAD to ask for her permission to do stuff without her. She goes through his privacy to check out what he has been up to, and she gets other people to tell her what Guy K is up to. Girl S tells Guy K that he 's not allowed to have any close girl friends other than him, and she also told him that he shouldn't be friends with me when she introduced us. And she gets jealous really easily.

So couple all that with the knowledge that Guy K was only nice to me because I was Girl S's friend, I didn't really feel the desire to be his friend. And so we remain acquaintances for the major part of Grade 11. I mean, we would talk on MSN about homework but that was about it. We didn't have any long drawn out convos. I didn't consider him my friend in Grade 11.

This year, however, that all changed. We went to camp, and Guy K was put into my skit group. So naturally we talked more on MSN, and it wasn't just all about schoolwork. It was what I would consider to be the beginning of a friendship. However, I didn't want to upset Girl S and make her think that I was "taking" Guy K "away" from her, so I didn't quite call me and Guy K friends. Because I knew of Girl S's jealousy rages, I didn't really want to stir up anything, so I didn't call me and Guy K friends. But we began to talk more on MSN and hanged out more, and I just felt stupid for not calling us friends when it was apparent that we ARE, so I gave in and called us friends.

A couple of months passed, and me and Guy K talked more and more. We became close friends. During this time, Girl S and Guy K were having problems because Guy K doesn't talk to her as much as he did before, and he doesn't pay the same amount of attention to her. I didn't know of this. Girl S told me all this over MSN and in it she blamed me for taking Guy K away from her, and she accused Guy K of liking me. All that I didn't know how to answer her. And when I refused to follow her "rules" of stop acting like Guy K's friend, we stopped being friends.

Guy K has been sending me mixed messages lately. He wouldn't talk to me in school because he didn't want others to think that we're together or anything but when we're alone, we would hug, and hold hands, and link arms. I will admit it, I do like him a bit. Guy K tries to please both me and Girl S and in the process he's hurting me. At school he has to please Girl S because he doesn't want her to bitch at him, so that means that he has to act like we're not friends. But when we're alone, we act like we're a couple. On MSN, he would do *hug* at the most random times, and he would try and make me happy when I'm down. He would also try to spend more time with me...like now...I'm supposed to go meet him in about half an hour.

So I guess my question is...does Guy K like me, and did I do something wrong by being Guy K's friend? Because when you look at it, what happened was I chose a guy over a friend, and I don't know, that makes me feel like what I've done is wrong.

so any help/advice is appreciated. Thanks.

[xoxoxx]

er. to simplicity girl.

perhaps you should talk to me via AIM,

it will be easier for me and for you.

PM me with your sn.